I'm Not Yelling! I'm Dominican: First-Generation Caribbeanites Navigating Life

<p>In this episode, we dive into how emotional manipulation shows up in our daily lives and why the world benefits when we stay triggered. We reflect on the pressures within Black and Brown communities to “keep the peace,” the way social media and news cycles feed off our reactions, and how emotionally regulated people often get mislabeled as “mean” for simply setting boundaries.</p><p>Together, we explore how projection, cultural conditioning, and constant stimulation keep us distracted from our intuition and purpose. Through personal stories, we share how we’re learning to pause, ground ourselves, and choose emotional clarity over chaos.</p><p>We also offer simple tools — from deep breathing to the 5-4-3-2-1 method — to help us stay centered in a world that profits from our dysregulation. Our goal is to encourage all of us to protect our peace, trust our inner voice, and live with more intention, not influence.</p><p>Tune in as we reflect, recalibrate, and rise together.</p><p></p><p><3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3</p><p>Want more episodes and exclusive content? <a target="_blank" href="https://unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe">Sign up for our paid subscription on substack.</a></p><p>Visit us at <a target="_blank" href="http://www.imnotyelling.co">www.imnotyelling.co</a></p><p>We welcome constructive feedback and topic ideas, so please shoot us an email at <a target="_blank" href="https://www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us">www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us</a>.</p><p>Thank you for listening! If you enjoy the show please follow, rate, and review.</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p>Changing our podcast name is more than a branding decision—it’s the continuation of our evolution. After years of sharing our stories, questioning the beliefs we were raised with, and navigating life as first-generation Dominican women, we realized we needed a name that reflects the soul of our conversations. <strong>Unveil</strong> captures what we’ve been doing all along: peeling back layers, exposing the conditioning we’ve outgrown, and creating space for honest, intuitive growth.</p><p>In this episode, we reflect on the journey that led us here—the unlearning, the silence, the pauses, and the clarity that comes from listening to your intuition. Our tone, our energy, our Dominican loud-love is still very much intact. This new name simply allows us to bring more people into the conversation, people who are navigating identity, breaking cycles, and seeking spaces where they can feel seen.</p><p>This marks a new chapter, one rooted in clarity and intention. <strong>Unveil</strong> is not just a title—it’s an invitation to explore, question, and grow with us as we continue lifting the veil on life’s BS together.</p><p><3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3</p><p>Want more episodes and exclusive content? <a target="_blank" href="https://imnotyellingpod.substack.com/subscribe">Sign up for our paid subscription on substack.</a></p><p>Visit us at <a target="_blank" href="http://www.imnotyelling.co">www.imnotyelling.co</a></p><p>We welcome constructive feedback and topic ideas, so please shoot us an email at <a target="_blank" href="https://www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us">www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us</a>.</p><p>Thank you for listening! If you enjoy the show please follow, rate, and review.</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p>In this replay episode, we revisit one of our most powerful conversations on the emotional weight of people-pleasing. We talk about how this pattern shows up in our day-to-day lives, where it comes from, and what it looks like to finally break free from it. From the unspoken family expectations to the internal guilt that creeps in when we dare to say “no,” this is a raw, honest conversation about choosing yourself without apology.</p><p>We share personal stories, cultural reflections, and the shift that happens when you finally realize: you don’t need to earn rest. You don’t owe anyone your exhaustion. And “no” is a complete sentence.</p><p>This episode is for anyone who’s ever over explained, overcommitted, or struggled to set boundaries because they didn’t want to let someone down. If that’s you—we see you. And we hope this episode helps you feel less alone and more empowered to start showing up for the person who matters most: <em>you</em>.</p><p><3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3</p><p>Want more episodes and exclusive content? <a target="_blank" href="http://imnotyellingpod.substack.com/subscribe">Sign up for our paid subscription on substack.</a></p><p>Visit us at www.imnotyelling.coWe welcome constructive feedback and topic ideas, so please shoot us an email at <a target="_blank" href="http://www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us">www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us</a>.</p><p>Thank you for listening! If you enjoy the show please follow, rate, and review.</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p>We're rewinding one of our favorite episodes—and trust us, it's worth another listen.</p><p>In this conversation, we explore the Human Design system and how learning our types (Manifestor + Manifesting Generator) helped us move with more clarity, intention, and peace. We break down the basics—what Human Design is, how it's different from astrology, and what each energy type needs to thrive.</p><p>We share how this system helped us stop forcing decisions, trust our intuition, and unlearn the grind mindset.</p><p>If you’ve been feeling stuck, confused, or just curious about how to better understand yourself—this episode is a gentle, informative place to start. And if you've already listened before, this may just hit differently the second time around.</p><p>So press play, explore your type, and let’s talk about what it really means to live in alignment—with our energy, our intuition, and ourselves.</p><p><3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3</p><p>Want more episodes and exclusive content? Sign up for our <a target="_blank" href="http://imnotyellingpod.substack.com/subscribe">paid subscription on substack</a>.</p><p>Visit us at <a target="_blank" href="http://www.imnotyelling.co">www.imnotyelling.co</a>We welcome constructive feedback and topic ideas, so please shoot us an email at <a target="_blank" href="http://www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us">www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us</a>.</p><p>Thank you for listening! If you enjoy the show please follow, rate, and review.</p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe</a>

<p>We’re kicking off the summer with a throwback to one of our most loved episodes! In this powerful and personal conversation, we sit down with our dear friend Victor John Madrid Villanueva to talk about <strong>what it really means to live authentically</strong>.</p><p>From growing up with immigrant parents to navigating life as a gay Filipino-American artist, Victor shares his journey of self-definition, rebellion, and radical self-expression. We get into family expectations, workplace identity, creativity, and why showing up as your whole self is one of the most freeing things you can do.</p><p><strong>About Our Guest:</strong>Victor John Madrid Villanueva is an artist and designer based in New York. By day, he works in the beauty industry creating for IT Cosmetics, and by heart, he’s a beadwork artist who celebrates culture and identity through fashion, portraiture, and play.</p><p>Learn more about Victor-John at <a target="_blank" href="http://www.victorjohnart.com">www.victorjohnart.com</a></p><p>Follow him on IG: @victorjohnart</p><p><3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3</p><p>Want more episodes and exclusive content? <a target="_blank" href="https://imnotyellingpod.substack.com">Sign up for our paid subscription on substack</a>.</p><p>Visit us at <a target="_blank" href="http://www.imnotyelling.co">www.imnotyelling.co</a></p><p>We welcome constructive feedback and topic ideas, so please shoot us an email at <a target="_blank" href="http://www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us">www.imnotyelling.co/contact-us</a>.</p><p>Thank you for listening! If you enjoy the show please follow, rate, and review.</p><p></p> <br/><br/>This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit <a href="https://unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&#38;utm_campaign=CTA_2">unveiltounlearn.substack.com/subscribe</a>