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In this powerful mini episode of Untidy, we revisit one of the most resonant moments from our popular conversation with Dr Libby Weaver from the episode, ‘Rescuing the ‘rushing woman’ with Dr Libby’.

Dr Libby unpacks a profound truth about modern women’s stress: we’re not just rushing because life is busy — we’re rushing because we care, and often, because we care what others think of us.

She introduces her practical “forward words” tool to help you uncover whose approval you're seeking and how that quietly drives stress and burnout. This segment is a must-listen if you’ve ever found yourself running on empty trying to keep everyone happy.

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In this episode of Untidy, Hannah is joined by fellow neuro-spicy, and guest co-host, Alice Soper. Alice is a multi-award-winning sports broadcaster, co-host of the ‘Full Credit’ podcast, women’s rugby obsessive, and unfiltered advocate responding to a broad spectrum of the world’s f*ckery. With Matilda away wrangling the most feral life admin, Alice takes the mic for an unmoderated kōrero about identity, queerness, relationships, and throwing out outdated life scripts.

Together, Hannah and Alice unpack the tyranny of gender expectations, the temptation of dating a ‘broject’, and how to recover from being a ‘Band-Aid Bitch’. They explore the parallels between coming out and getting divorced, and each share their personal experiences of neurodivergence, ADHD, overstimulation, and the freedom that comes with being able to remove the mask.

And, if you’ve ever felt on the sidelines of sport, Alice makes the most compelling case for why this is the year to get behind women’s rugby. The Black Ferns are gearing up to defend their World Cup title, and if Alice can’t get you excited, no one can.

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In this raw, courageous, and compelling episode of Untidy, Matilda Green and Hannah Davison sit down with award-winning journalist, author, and advocate Ali Mau to talk about her new memoir, ‘No Words for This’. Known widely for her fearless leadership of the #MeTooNZ movement and a 20-year career fronting many of New Zealand’s most notable current affairs shows, Ali opens up about the personal experiences that shaped her career, her advocacy, and her voice.

Trigger warning: This episode discusses sexual harm, harassment, and gendered violence. Please listen with care. Links to resources for where to find support are listed in the show notes of this episode.

Ali’s memoir is not just a story of a pioneering journalist, but of a woman confronting devastating truths about her past. Her book charts a path through trauma, identity, resilience, and ultimately, the reclamation of voice and purpose.

In this episode, the conversation spans Ali’s early years in Australian and British media, the sexism that saturated her career, the moment she broke from silence, and the complex intersection of love, family, abuse, and healing. The hosts explore Ali’s role in leading a national conversation on sexual harm, how society still silences victims, and what it truly takes to be heard.

This is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the cost and the power of speaking out.

Alison (Ali) Mau is an award-winning journalist, writer, and advocate for equity in Aotearoa. With over two decades anchoring top news and current affairs programmes like Breakfast, One News, Seven Sharp, and Fair Go, Ali is one of New Zealand’s most respected media figures. In 2018, she launched the pioneering #MeTooNZ project with Stuff, revolutionising how the media reports on sexual harassment through a survivor-focused, trauma-informed approach. In 2021, she was named Reporter of the Year at the Voyager Awards. Ali is also the co-founder of Tika, a legal aid charity supporting survivors of sexual harm.

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In this episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah (Bean) let the wheels come off completely as they settle in for an in-person sofa session, a glass of kombucha, and a potent case of end-of-day delirium. They discuss how Warkworth is ripe for a cosy crime and how Matty’s the next Miss Marple, Hannah’s ADHD diagnosis and how she feels about it, how Art’s motivational morning text gave them both the boost they needed, and, a few hot takes of what they’re watching and listening to. Get ready for a giggle — if they can be this b*tched on kombucha, don’t give them a spicy marg ...!

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Breakups can be brutal, but is there a way to do them well? In this episode of Untidy, Matty and Hannah chat with award-winning journalist and author Sarah Catherall to discuss both the realities and opportunities of separation, co-parenting, and moving forward to survive and thrive.

Sarah has spent over 30 years writing for publications such as New Zealand Listener, The Spinoff, The Post, Stuff, and international media including Vanity Fair and the BBC. She is the author of ‘How to Break Up Well: Surviving and Thriving After Separation’, a candid and insightful guide that combines expert advice with her personal journey through breaking up and beginning again.

Sarah opens up about the emotional rollercoaster of her marriage ending, co-parenting challenges, dating again, and reclaiming her sense of self after separation. She shares wisdom from relationship psychologists, divorce coaches, and her own experiences, making this a must-listen, and an essential handbook, for anyone considering, navigating, and recovering from a breakup, or, supporting someone going through it.

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