Find Love With Emily

If you’re single and desperately want a relationship, being told to “just be happy being single” can feel pretty freaking annoying. Because you might already have an incredible life... Amazing friends and family, a career you love, a cozy home, plenty of things you genuinely enjoy doing. And yet underneath all of that, there’s still this relationship-sized hole in your life with a whole lotta sadness attached. You still want your person. You still want someone to come home to, someone beside you for all the ordinary moments, someone to build a life with. And no amount of taking yourself on dates, finding another hobby or making your single life even more amazing is going to replace that. So what the hell are you supposed to do with that relationship-sized hole while you’re still waiting to find love? Because there IS something you can do with it that's very different from trying to convince yourself you should be perfectly happy without the relationship you really want. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why “just be happy being single and love will happen” gets it so wrong Why it’s completely okay to admit that something IS missing from your life when you want a relationship What’s really sitting inside that relationship-sized hole after years of dating and disappointment Why filling your life with friends, hobbies and fun experiences doesn’t actually change how you feel about finding love How years of difficult dating experiences can change what you associate love, men and relationships with Why finding love can start to feel heavy, hopeless and near impossible even when it didn’t always feel that way What needs to change so you can feel genuinely good about love again A simple practice you can start using now to change how you feel about the relationship you want What to pay attention to when doubts, fear or hopelessness come up Why this isn’t about being happy being single, it’s about being really gosh dang happy about love! If you’re a successful single woman in your 30s or 40s who has been dating for years, wants a loving committed relationship and is tired of being told to just enjoy being single, this episode of Find Love With Emily is for you. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

If you’ve been dating for years and love still hasn’t happened, there are ways you could be holding yourself back from love without having any idea you’re doing it. And this is happening all the bloody time. Because there are certain things you say about yourself when it comes to men, dating and love that might seem completely true based on your experience so far. “I never get past a first date.” “Men don’t want someone like me.” “Dating doesn’t work for me.” But what if the way you see yourself is actually helping to keep those same dating experiences playing out again and again? In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m sharing one of the best breakthroughs that happened inside Attract YOUR Man recently, because it shows just how easily you can hold yourself back from the relationship you want without being able to see it. And once you DO see what’s happening, you can start calling BS on yourself, and finally stop being the woman who keeps having the same experience with men and dating. In this episode, you’ll discover: Why the way you describe yourself when it comes to dating and love matters more than you might realise How to start noticing the patterns that could be keeping you stuck in dating Why you might keep having the same experiences with men even when you desperately want something different What might really be happening when you feel like you never get past a first date Why you could be unknowingly holding yourself back from finding love A completely different way to approach first, second and third dates Why you don’t need to decide whether a man is your future husband on a first date What I mean when I say, “When you slow down, love speeds up” How to stay open to love instead of ruling men out too quickly How changing what you do can begin to change what you believe is possible for you If you’re a successful single woman in your 30s or 40s who is exhausted by dating, struggling to get second dates, wondering why dating never seems to go anywhere, or scared you’ll never find the relationship you want, this episode will give you a completely different perspective on what might actually be happening. EPISODE TO LISTEN TO NEXT: 🎧 He's Nice... But There's No Physical Attraction 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

If you’re a single woman dating in your 30s, 40s or 50s, you’ve probably noticed just how much negativity there is around dating, men and finding love. Dating apps are awful. Men only want sex. Romance is dead. Finding a good man after 30 is impossible. It's EVERYWHERE. And if you want to find love, you need to start noticing how much of it you’re letting into your world. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, I’m talking about the negativity that surrounds single women who want a relationship, from being made to feel like you shouldn’t want a man at all, to the endless stream of stories telling you how terrible modern dating has become. It's not that you have to pretend every dating experience is wonderful or ignore the disappointment when something doesn’t work out. But there’s a HUGE difference between feeling it, moving through it and getting back to love… and making all that negativity your home and therefore the story you keep living. I’ll show you how to start getting out of the “dating is shit and men suck” story, get clear on what you actually want to experience with men and dating, and surround yourself with more of THAT instead. Because love follows love. And where you put your energy, attention and focus matters. In this episode you'll discover: Why wanting a relationship doesn’t make you any less smart, successful or independent How other people’s opinions can make you question your desire for love Why negativity about men and dating can keep you stuck in experiences you don’t want How social media can quietly reinforce the belief that dating is awful What to focus on instead if you want to meet kind, genuine and emotionally mature men Why women inside AYM often find themselves naturally stepping away from negative conversations about dating How to move through a disappointing dating experience without letting it drag you back into “I’m never going to find love” If you’re exhausted by dating and surrounded by messages telling you that finding a good man is impossible, this episode will help you see just how much that noise is affecting you, and what needs to change if you want to move towards love instead. Hit play and listen now! 🎧 Episode to listen to next: There's Nothing Embarrassing About Wanting Love 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

Finding love can feel like one, exhausting long fight you never win. It can feel so unfair when you think about how much love you have to give. And that you're not asking for anything ridiculous, or what other people don't have. You just want a loving, committed relationship with a man who actually shows up for you. A relationship where you can just relax. But for some reason, who you are and what you do, it never seems to be enough. It feels like you're always having to try harder, put more effort in, rethink what you're doing to find love, unsure of what else you can possibly do to finally make love happen. But what if the answer was never to try harder or put more effort in?!?! What if it was doing the opposite?! Because there’s something much deeper that's kept you fighting for love and attention... and never actually getting it. And once you understand this, you'll see how coming at finding love in a way that actually feels better, might be all that you've need to do all along. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why finding love can feel so much harder for you than it seems to be for everyone else What’s actually driving the constant need to try harder when dating feels uncertain How the fight for love and attention keeps repeating itself in your dating life Why it feels near impossible to hard to relax and focus on your life What begins to change when you finally stop fighting and come back to love How to find love without the fight. If you’re exhausted from trying to make dating work and wondering why finding a loving relationship has been so damn hard, hit play and listen to the full episode now. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily

If you’ve spent years trying to figure out how to find love, there’s a good chance you’ve also consumed a LOT of dating advice. Which dating app should you use? Should you message first? How do you get past the talking stage? How do you get a man to actually ask you out? Should you be more in your feminine energy, less anxiously attached, play it cool, stop trying so hard? How do you "put yourself out there" more than you are already?? And yet despite doing all the “right” things, finding the relationship you want still feels ridiculously hard. In this episode of Find Love With Emily, you'll see exactly why typical dating advice is isn't what you want to be listening to AT ALL, if you genuinely want real, lasting love. It's actually what's been keeping you single. The recent experience of one of the women inside Attract YOUR Man illustrates this perfectly... Five weeks ago, she was utterly disheartened by dating, struggling to get past the talking stage and on a real date and it felt like it was just problem after problem she needed to somehow solve on her own. Now... She's talking to 5 men, has 2 dates planned and in her own words dating is "SO MUCH FUN!!" This wasn't because her luck changed, she found some new manipulative dating strategy, or rewrote her dating profile for the 75th time. Something much more fundamental changed and dating got easier. If you’re tired of dating advice, dating apps, situationships and constantly wondering what you’re doing wrong, hit play and listen to this episode now. You'll see: Why more of the usual dating advice isn't the answer What happens when you stop trying to “get dating right” Why finding love and being good at dating are not the same thing How to take the pressure out of dating What makes dating (legit) fun! What to focus on when what you actually want isn’t to be good at dating, it's love. 🎧 Episodes to listen to next: Love Is Simpler Than You Think - Here's What's Been Missing Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 1 Self-Assessment: Your Blocks To Love | PART 2 The Uncomfortable Truth About Following The One Rule Love Does 👩‍❤️‍👨 Get the trusted steps, tools, reminders and support that have helped 100s of women over 30 finally find real, lasting love: ATTRACT YOUR MAN Join Attract YOUR Man here: https://www.emilybucknell.com/attract-your-man You'll also find me on Instagram @findlovewithemily