Send us a textIn this episode of ABC's Parenting Adult Children podcast, host James Moffitt welcomes back Dr. David Marcus, a clinical psychologist specializing in families under stress. Dr. Marcus discusses the concept of a 'soothing presence' and the process of 'emptying out' emotions, emphasizing the importance of understanding emotional communication with children. He explains the three levels of emotional intensity: the logical here-and-now, the history level, and the tapped-into level, and how these need to be addressed for effective communication. The conversation also touches on the cultural and familial influences on emotional intelligence and the importance of validating feelings in relationships.Keywordsparenting, emotional communication, soothing presence, emptying out, emotional intelligence, family stress, Dr. David Marcus, James Moffitt, podcast, relationshipsTakeawaysA soothing presence is someone who is okay when you're not.Emotional communication involves understanding three levels: logical, history, and tapped-into.Emptying out emotions requires addressing all three levels for effective communication.Cultural and familial influences shape emotional intelligence.Validating feelings is crucial in relationships.Men often struggle with emotional expression due to cultural norms.Parents should avoid trying to 'make' children feel better, instead allowing them to express emotions.Children learn emotional resilience by observing adult interactions.Opposites attract in relationships, allowing partners to soothe each other.Effective communication involves both partners feeling heard and understood.Sound bitesA soothing presence is key.Emptying out emotions is essential.Validate feelings for better relationships.Men struggle with emotional expression.Children learn from adult interactions.Opposites attract in soothing relationships.Cultural norms shape emotional intelligence.Effective communication needs understanding.Parents shouldn't force emotions.Emotional resilience starts young.Chapters00:00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction00:00:00 Understanding Soothing Presence00:00:00 Emptying Out Process00:00:00 Cultural and Familial Influences00:00:01 Validating Feelings in Relationships00:00:01 Conclusion and Book PromotionWant to be a guest on ABCs of Parenting Adult Children? Send James Moffitt a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/parentingadultchildren Richard Jones. I am an RN with over 34 years of Nursing Experience, much of that experience working with young adults in the corrections system. Support the showSocial Media Links https://www.youtube.com/@JamesMoffitt https://www.instagram.com/parentingadultchildren125/ https://www.tiktok.com/@chiefpropellerhead ABC's of Parenting Adult Children Facebook Page https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61581576308055 r/parentingadultchildren Feel free to subscribe to these channels and share the links with your social media portals.