House of Peregrine

“Opening a shaky relationship won’t fix it - it magnifies it. Ethical takes more, not less.”In this episode of the House of Peregrine Podcast, Mickelle is joined by Victoria Onken of VictoriaOnken.com, a relationship coach based in Amsterdam, to explore what ethical non‑monogamy really is (and isn’t) when you’re living abroad. Victoria shares why “I want an open relationship” is never the full story; it’s an invitation into a deeper conversation about desires, fears, and the agreements that keep love safe.Together, they unpack how international life amplifies everything; identity shifts, loneliness, pressure, and the need for real communication. Victoria reframes “open relationship” as openness itself: the courage to stay curious about your partner’s inner world, to name what you need, and to build a relationship designed for the season you’re actually in.They also discuss jealousy as a signal, not a stop sign, often pointing to unmet needs like quality time, reassurance, or autonomy. And they explore why doing this well can create more intimacy, not less: stronger boundaries, clearer consent, and a more intentional bond.In this episodeEthical non‑monogamy = consent + clear agreements (not cheating)Why opening a shaky relationship magnifies issues rather than fixing themThe “safety protocol”: role‑playing scenarios + specific agreementsJealousy as data: uncover the need beneath the reaction“Open” as a relational skill: sustainable love, vitality, and honestyNavigating kids, community, and visibility with stability and careConnect with Victoria: victoriaonken.com and Instagram @v.onken. House of Peregrine is the network for International life, made by and for people living abroad.  Get started with a FREE account today to unlock exclusive content, connections, and opportunities:houseofperegrine.com/auth/signupJoin a global circle of thinkers, creators, and doers. We host events, build products, publish guides, run a podcast, offer rewards and curated products — all within a vibrant ecosystem of experts and businesses to support your life abroad.Subscribe: houseofperegrine.com/subscribeJoin our WhatsApp Group: HOP CommunityExplore Memberships: houseofperegrine.com/membershipsInstall the App: houseofperegrine.com/installFollow us for daily inspiration and updates:Instagram: @houseofperegrinepodcastYouTube: @HouseofPeregrineofficialLinkedIn:@company/house-of-peregrineTikTok: @houseofperegrinepodcast

Freedom isn’t just geography, it’s structure. In this episode, Mickelle sits down with Bobby Casey, founder of BusinessAnywhere.io, to talk about what it really takes to build a life (and a company) that can move with you. Having lived in 10 countries and helped founders navigate the administrative maze of cross-border living, Bobby brings a grounded, unsentimental clarity to the realities behind the “digital nomad” dream.Together, they unpack why international entrepreneurship isn’t just about where you want to be, it’s about how money actually reaches you, what systems you’re tied to, and what invisible risks live inside “I’ll figure it out later.” Bobby explains the critical difference between physical residency and tax residency, why compliance is rarely perfectly black-and-white, and how one small oversight can quietly become an expensive detour.In this episode:Why location independence requires truly location-independent incomeHow “how you get paid” determines company setup, banking, and processingThe difference between physical residency and tax residency (and why it matters)Why crowdsourcing legal/tax advice online can backfire fastThe reality of “gray area” decision-making across multiple jurisdictionsWhy planning 6–12 months ahead saves major cost and complexityFor more visit: https://www.houseofperegrine.com/podcast/ep-086House of Peregrine is the network for International life, made by and for people living abroad.  Get started with a FREE account today to unlock exclusive content, connections, and opportunities:houseofperegrine.com/auth/signupJoin a global circle of thinkers, creators, and doers. We host events, build products, publish guides, run a podcast, offer rewards and curated products — all within a vibrant ecosystem of experts and businesses to support your life abroad.Subscribe: houseofperegrine.com/subscribeJoin our WhatsApp Group: HOP CommunityExplore Memberships: houseofperegrine.com/membershipsInstall the App: houseofperegrine.com/installFollow us for daily inspiration and updates:Instagram: @houseofperegrinepodcastYouTube: @HouseofPeregrineofficialLinkedIn:@company/house-of-peregrineTikTok: @houseofperegrinepodcast

What happens when motherhood cracks open the old “rules,” and moving abroad removes every last distraction?In this episode of the House of Peregrine Podcast, Mickelle Weber sits down with Vanessa Bennett; therapist, author of The Motherhood Myth, and co-host of Cheaper Than Therapy—for a candid, elegant conversation on partnership, power, and the brave work of rewriting your life. Vanessa shares how losing their LA home to wildfires became the unexpected catalyst for a one-year move to Costa Rica: a reset to grieve, downshift, and decide what comes next from steadier ground.Together, they explore how systems like patriarchy, capitalism, and colonialism operate as dominator models (someone “above,” someone “below”) and why the alternative isn’t matriarchy, but a partnership model built on sovereignty, care, and choice. They also unpack codependency vs interdependence, and why over-functioners often have to be the ones to put the rope down first.In this episode:Motherhood as a paradigm shift for couplesDominator systems vs partnership modelsCodependency (“if you’re good, I’m good”) vs interdependenceWhy some therapy can reinforce hierarchy and how to vet supportMoving abroad as a truth-teller (“Costa Rica divorce”)Finding stability even when there is no planFind Vanessa Bennett at https://www.vanessabennett.com and on Instagram @vanessa.s.bennett. Listen, follow, and subscribe to the House of Peregrine Podcast for more conversations designed to make expat life feel less lonely and far more intentional.https://www.houseofperegrine.com/podcast/ep-085House of Peregrine is the network for International life, made by and for people living abroad.  Get started with a FREE account today to unlock exclusive content, connections, and opportunities:houseofperegrine.com/auth/signupJoin a global circle of thinkers, creators, and doers. We host events, build products, publish guides, run a podcast, offer rewards and curated products — all within a vibrant ecosystem of experts and businesses to support your life abroad.Subscribe: houseofperegrine.com/subscribeJoin our WhatsApp Group: HOP CommunityExplore Memberships: houseofperegrine.com/membershipsInstall the App: houseofperegrine.com/installFollow us for daily inspiration and updates:Instagram: @houseofperegrinepodcastYouTube: @HouseofPeregrineofficialLinkedIn:@company/house-of-peregrineTikTok: @houseofperegrinepodcast

When your ambition collides with your humanity, the body always keeps the score. In this Most Replayed Moment, Mickelle is joined by Alicia Ingruber of Alicia Inspired, for a candid, deeply grounding conversation on what burnout actually is and why it’s so often misunderstood.Alicia shares her own story: a childhood shaped by constant relocation, the lifelong search for belonging, and the belief that “home” would finally be found in Amsterdam, until it wasn’t. In trying to build the dream life anyway, she went into overdrive: more work, more discipline, more effort, more proving. The warning signs arrived quietly (exhaustion, headaches, digestion issues, deep unhappiness)… until her nervous system collapsed into a multi-year burnout that stripped everything back. What followed became a turning point: learning to listen to her body, rebuild from the inside out, and dedicate her work to somatic healing, nervous system regulation, and sustainable success.In this episode:Alicia’s lived experience of burnout and what “collapse” can truly look likeWhy burnout isn’t “tired” or “overwhelmed,” but a full-body, emotional, and mental shutdownA clear nervous-system lens: regulated vs. fight/flight vs. dorsal collapse (numbness + depletion)Why modern culture expects burnout recovery to look like a cold and how that pressure prolongs healingThe invitation on the other side: coming back into the body, building a life that fits, and learning a new paceIf what is shared feels familiar,  let it be gentle confirmation: you’re not broken and you’re not alone. Listen to the full original episode here: https://www.houseofperegrine.com/podcast/ep-063To connect with Alicia Ingruber and explore her work at Alicia Inspired, visit https://www.aliciainspired.com and follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aliciainspired.House of Peregrine is the network for International life, made by and for people living abroad.  Get started with a FREE account today to unlock exclusive content, connections, and opportunities:houseofperegrine.com/auth/signupJoin a global circle of thinkers, creators, and doers. We host events, build products, publish guides, run a podcast, offer rewards and curated products — all within a vibrant ecosystem of experts and businesses to support your life abroad.Subscribe: houseofperegrine.com/subscribeJoin our WhatsApp Group: HOP CommunityExplore Memberships: houseofperegrine.com/membershipsInstall the App: houseofperegrine.com/installFollow us for daily inspiration and updates:Instagram: @houseofperegrinepodcastYouTube: @HouseofPeregrineofficialLinkedIn:@company/house-of-peregrineTikTok: @houseofperegrinepodcast

What if sabbaticals aren’t just for college professors and burnout isn’t a personal failure or even a rest deficit? Burnout might just be a quiet signal that life and work have drifted out of alignment and a sabbatical could be an important step in all careers? In this episode, Mickelle sits down with Lyndall Farley, co-founder of BreakSpace, to reframe career breaks as an intentional bridge between chapters.Lyndall shares how she’s taken 12 sabbaticals (including one that reshaped her entire life in Amsterdam) and why BreakSpace exists: to offer both a roadmap and a community, so you’re not navigating the “messy middle” alone.Together, they explore the dignity of transition: how to plan for change before it becomes a crisis, how to anchor your break in themes (not productivity goals), and how to return to a life you don’t need to escape from.In this episode:Why burnout is often structural misalignment (and why rest alone isn’t enough)The reality of non-linear careers and shifting life prioritiesFounders, identity fusion, and the pull to default into “the next thing”How to design a break with themes, not goalsLyndall’s 5 psychological phases of a sabbatical, from decompression to re-entryLearn more: https://gobreakspace.com Connect with Lyndall on LinkedIn  (DMs welcome).Grab details for the discount at houseofperegrine.com/podcast/ep-084