Secondhand Therapy
Secondhand Therapy

Secondhand Therapy

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Secondhand Therapy is a funny, honest mental health podcast where two unlicensed best friends unpack their weekly therapy sessions. Join Louie Paoletti and Michael Malone as they explore anxiety, ADHD, grief, masculinity, and emotional growth—with humor, heart, and total transparency. Each episode blends raw self-reflection with real time takes on therapy, trauma, relationships, and the messy process of healing. It’s real talk about mental health in the modern world, and why personal growth is so damn hard.

Recent Episodes

Stop Complaining, I'm Trying to Protect You | #131
MAY 25, 2026
Stop Complaining, I'm Trying to Protect You | #131
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source:Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University:Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored_____If you like funny but honest conversations about therapy, mental health, self improvement, relationships, attachment styles, trauma responses, emotional regulation, and modern adulthood — you'll like this one. Or hate it. Sometimes our convos can feel intense because you haven't worked on yourself yet. Who knows.Why do some people turn everything into a story? Why does complaining sometimes feel like connection? And what happens when conflict becomes part of your identity?This week on Secondhand Therapy, we unpack emotional chaos, overthinking relationships, loneliness, people pleasing, conflict addiction, and the fear of being misunderstood. One conversation about “it’s hot outside” spirals into a deeper discussion about negativity, emotional connection, vulnerability, and why some people create drama just to feel close to others.We also talk about:relationship anxietyemotional intelligencecommunication problemscouples therapy breakthroughsfear of abandonmentneeding constant stimulationintentional living vs chaosfeeling emotionally overwhelmedtoxic coping mechanismswhy being alone feels uncomfortablemisunderstanding in relationshipsvulnerability between friendsmental health and self awarenessPlus: one unexpectedly emotional moment about simply not wanting to be alone.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
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63 MIN
Vulnerability or Die... Easy Choice | #130
MAY 18, 2026
Vulnerability or Die... Easy Choice | #130
Support the pod: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source:Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp:If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University:Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsored_____Why do we run from love even when we want it? In this episode of Secondhand Therapy, we unpack relationship anxiety, fear of vulnerability, emotional avoidance, and the ways childhood experiences shape how we show up in dating.After a surprising reading sparks a deep conversation, we dive into grief, attachment styles, self-sabotage, codependency, and why anxiety can become the perfect escape hatch from intimacy. We talk about long-distance relationships, fear of abandonment, feeling undeserving of love, and why receiving care can feel uncomfortable.This episode blends comedy with real conversations about mental health, relationships, trauma, and personal growth.Topics in this episode: • relationship anxiety • fear of intimacy • attachment styles and dating • grief and emotional avoidance • self-sabotage in relationships • codependency and vulnerability • learning how to receive loveIf you’ve ever wondered why relationships feel harder than they should, give us a listen. Or if you're into mental health with some humor. It's kinda our thing. BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105 Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
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57 MIN
Logically Speaking, You're Being Very Emotional | #129
MAY 11, 2026
Logically Speaking, You're Being Very Emotional | #129
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____This week on Secondhand Therapy, we unpack the battle between logic vs emotion, and how living in your “wise mind” could change your relationships forever.We talk about: • The therapy concept of logical mind, emotional mind, and wise mind • Why partners are often opposites in relationships • The hidden ways control, anxiety, and people-pleasing show up • The difference between situational shame vs character shame • How childhood roles shape adult relationships • Why saying “no” and being authentic feels terrifying • The moment you realize you might be getting in your own wayPlus: awkward book signings, therapy homework, identity shifts, and the small moment that felt huge—returning a wallet instead of pretending to want it.If you’ve ever struggled with boundaries, authenticity, fear of rejection, or being the version of yourself others need, this episode may ruin your day, Or help. Who knows.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
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72 MIN
Picky in Love. Avoidant in Reality. | #128
MAY 4, 2026
Picky in Love. Avoidant in Reality. | #128
Support the boys: PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____Are you sabotaging your relationships without realizing it? In this hilarious and honest episode, we dive into avoidant attachment, fear of rejection, dating apps burnout, and the uncomfortable role ego plays in heartbreak.We talk about why the “spark” can be misleading, how perfectionism keeps you single, and the psychology behind ending relationships before you get hurt. Inspired by therapy conversations and the Matthew Perry memoir, we unpack attachment styles, vulnerability, emotional avoidance, and the fear of not being “enough.”If you’ve ever: • Deleted and re-downloaded dating apps • Compared new partners to your ex • Felt afraid of commitment or intimacy • Wondered if you self-sabotage relationships • Struggled with breakup anxiety or closureThis episode will hit hard — and make you laugh while it does.Expect comedy, brutal honesty, and relatable mental health conversations about dating, relationships, therapy, anxiety, and personal growth.Perfect for fans of therapy podcasts, self-improvement, and comedic mental health content.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
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63 MIN
I Accidentally Humanized my Mom | #127
APR 27, 2026
I Accidentally Humanized my Mom | #127
Support the boys:PATREON - http://patreon.com/secondhandtherapypod MERCH - http://secondhandtherapypod.comPsychic Source: Go to our sponsor https://trypsychicsource.com/sht10 and use our code sht10 to try up to 40 minutes with an advisor for just $19.80. That is up to a $240 value!BetterHelp: If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our sponsor. Visit https://betterhelp.com/secondhandtherapy for a discount on your first month of therapy. #sponsoredIf you have questions about the brand relating to how the therapists are credentialed, their privacy policy, or therapist compensation, here is an overview written by the YouTube creators behind the channel Cinema Therapy that goes into these topics: https://www.reddit.com/r/cinema_therapy/comments/1dpriql/addressing_the_betterhelp_concerns_headon_deep/Southern New Hampshire University: Go to https://snhu.edu/sht to explore over 200 degree programs and find your path forward. #sponsoredhttp://vasectomyfarms.com — A portion of all profits are donated to women’s reproductive resources_____What happens when you realize you don’t actually know your parents as people?In this episode, we talk about the moment adulthood hits and you suddenly see your mom as a human instead of just “Mom.” We get into parent–child relationships, emotional maturity, grief, family dynamics, divorce, childhood memories, and why so many adults feel regret about not asking their parents deeper questions sooner.We share the emotional experience of trying to intentionally connect with a parent, what changes as parents age, how becoming a grandparent can shift emotional openness, and the complicated feelings that come with realizing your parents had full lives before you.We also talk about:Losing a parent and the regret of never truly knowing themHow childhood shapes your adult relationshipsTherapy concepts like reframing, empathy, and emotional growthHow grief and healing change family relationshipsThe psychology of seeing your parents differently as an adultIf you’ve ever wondered: Why don’t we really know our parents? Why does time with family feel more meaningful as we get older? Why do adult children start asking deeper questions later in life?This episode is for you. Maybe. What do we know? We're not experts.BUSINESS INQUIRIES: [email protected] Follow us here: http://instagram.com/secondhandtherapypod http://tiktok.com/@secondhandtherapypodContact us: [email protected] 818-850-2448 PO BOX 230595, Las Vegas, NV 89105  Cover Art Design: Louie Paoletti Theme Music: Jamie Franks
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56 MIN