Send us Fan MailAre you reacting to what’s happening or to the story your nervous system learned to tell about what’s happening? That question sits at the center of this reflective Mindfully With Some Shadow Space session, where I slow down with you to look at perspective as the quiet force shaping grief, conflict, certainty, and even the way we interpret ordinary objects. I start with what I heard from listeners after a series on societal narcissism: stories of loss, dismissal, and the strange ways people police grief. From there, we widen the lens to the psychological weight of modern life. We’re overstimulated, carrying a firehose of information in our pockets, performing our opinions in public, and forming instant judgments before the facts arrive. When everything feels urgent, we don’t just think faster, we harden faster. Then we ground the idea of perspective in two stories. One comes from Bones, where two siblings share the same childhood yet walk away with different truths. The other is personal: a clock I saw as flames chasing time, while my friend saw open palms trying to save it. That single image opens into deeper work around origin stories, emotional safety, survival mode, and why some of us notice danger first. We end with a practical mindfulness invitation: breathe, slow perception, and try a beginner’s mind, because certainty can be the biggest obstacle to understanding. If this resonates, subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review. What do you see first when you look at your own life right now: flames or open palms? Support the showFollow me Facebook : https://www.facebook.com/tunmise.kukuInstagram : https://www.instagram.com/tunmiseokuku/  https://www.instagram.com/bhmcoaching/LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/tunmise-oladapo-kuku-8a2626b/Get Living Mindfully: A Journey to Being  https://blackhemages.com/living-mindfully/https://chat.whatsapp.com/BFAJsSrOui17Po8tvmMoPeWebsite: https://blackhemages.com/b45eeaafa11188b421daa26f6eb85da5596dbf11Love Yourself; Love Your Neighbour; Love Your Country: Above all of these Love God He's the essence of Your Being.#tdk