In this episode, we explore the foundations of BDSM—including bondage, impact play, electroplay, wax play, and sensation play—with Ben, a kink educator and experienced representative of The Kink Shop. With years of hands-on experience at nationwide kink events, Ben offers practical guidance on choosing the right BDSM tools, playing safely, and understanding the sensory differences between thud, sting, electricity, and temperature play.

Listeners will discover the essentials of safe toy use, negotiation, consent, and hygiene—plus insights into The Kink Shop’s handcrafted designs, leather quality, beginner-friendly tools, and ergonomic impact toys. Whether you're new to BDSM or looking to deepen your skills, this episode delivers approachable, accurate, and sex-positive kink education.

BDSM Foundations

• What BDSM stands for: Bondage, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism

• Psychological and emotional dynamics within power exchange

• Negotiation, communication, and informed consent

Impact Play Essentials

• Thud vs sting: how sensations differ and who they suit

• How leather type changes feel: suede, chap, bison, moose, mule deer

• Beginner-friendly toys: bunny floggers, boa floggers

• Finger-loop floggers & why they reduce joint strain for tops

Sensation Play Tools

• Leather & conductive claw gloves

• Scratch mitts

• Mop-in-a-Pocket toy

• Vegan impact tool options

Electroplay & the Violet Wand

• How a violet wand works

• Sensation range: light tingles to intense stimulation

• Combining electroplay with other kink tools

• Essential violet-wand safety practices

Wax Play Safety

• Skin-safe wax types vs dangerous household candles

• Heat management techniques

• Distance & layering for sensation control

Toy Hygiene & Care

• Cleaning leather, rubber, and electroplay tools

• Avoiding cross-contamination in shared scenes

• Long-term storage tips for handcrafted toys

Connect with Ben (The Kink Shop)

Website: www.thekinkshop.com
FetLife: @thekinkshop_Ben

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