NAUGHTY GYM SHOW - Building Stronger Non-Monogamous Relationships

This week on The Naughty Gym Show, April takes the wheel for a real-time life update that starts with a chaotic wine-night incident (yes—April fell down 13 of 15 stairs in plush slippers… and Scott’s first response was to laugh 🙃) and turns into one of your most honest conversations yet. From there, you unpack what’s been swirling behind the scenes: launching your Patreon (with tiers starting at $3/month), opening bookings for your November retreats (aka “Naughty Gym Month”), and the stress of college + military academy decisions as your youngest son heads toward a major next chapter. Then the episode shifts into the deeper work: purity culture, sexual trauma, voice, righteous anger, and what it looks like to unlearn the systems that shaped both of you—especially in a conservative Southern context. You talk masculinity/femininity language, the “man box,” emotional labor and the invisible mental load, and why “just tell me what to do” isn’t partnership. Scott shares what he’s learning in therapy (and how even saying “I helped you” can quietly reinforce old roles), and you both name the goal: a relationship where men do their own inner work, women don’t have to carry the whole emotional burden, and both partners get to feel freer—and closer—because of it. Plus: you tease an After Chat on Patreon that allegedly tops the infamous “pissing on the couch” story (and may permanently lower Scott’s sex appeal, according to April). Listen, laugh, and maybe get a little wrecked—in the best way.

What if the goal is not to erase jealousy, but to stop letting it drive the car? Dr. Marie Thouin joins April and Scott to define compersion in clear, grounded terms, and to explain why it can show up as an emotion, an attitude, or even simple supportive neutrality. They talk about the spectrum from “I can handle this” to genuine joy, the “second arrow” of self-inflicted suffering, and the conditions that make compersion more likely: security in self, security in the relationship, supportive community, and more. The episode also explores how autonomy and trust intersect with boundaries, when “training wheels” help, and how to tell the difference between growth discomfort and self-abandonment.

Jealousy isn’t always about fear of losing your partner. Sometimes it’s about losing yourself. In this episode, April and Scott share a real, recent story from their open-relationship journey that completely reframed what jealousy can mean—and it leads to a breakthrough concept they call “imposed burdens.” After Scott goes on a separate date (with April’s full consent and clear emotional parameters), April is surprised by a familiar “pit in the stomach”… but it isn’t abandonment, comparison, or panic. It’s something quieter and more revealing: envy of the freedom Scott has to play, explore, and dream—because she’s carrying the invisible weight of life logistics, emotional labor, and household admin. The conversation turns into a powerful (and practical) exploration of how “freedom” in a relationship can be technically true while still being impossible to access. They also unpack why the phrase “reclaiming your partner” gives them the ick—and why “reclamation sex” can sometimes smuggle in ownership, control, or reassurance-seeking disguised as intimacy. Instead, they share what reconnection looks like for them (spoiler: it’s more about presence, honesty, and nervous-system safety than performing a ritual). If you’ve ever felt jealous and couldn’t explain why… if you’re doing “the work” but still feel stuck… or if you’ve wondered whether rules are helping you heal or just helping you avoid… this one will hit. Plus: a behind-the-scenes update on their upcoming Wild Love Theory book release, the new Wild Love Book Circle, and their April retreat in the Smoky Mountains.

In this live event recording, sex educator Luna Matatas breaks down why kink can feel so electrifying by exploring the psychology of power, risk, and taboo and how “eroticism” is really the felt sense of being lit up in mind and body. She offers a practical way to translate fantasy into real life by focusing less on props and more on the feelings and “flavors” you want to create, building a clear container of consent, and asking the two questions that change everything: How do I want to feel? How do you want to feel? Then sexologist and coach Ashley Manta introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a powerful tool for relationships and non-monogamy: learning to notice your “parts,” stop speaking from them, and start speaking for them. With vulnerable, funny stories and concrete steps, she shows how to work with jealousy, fear, and insecurity without outsourcing your safety to your partner, and how self-energy (calm, curiosity, compassion, clarity, courage) turns conflict into repair, intimacy, and better sex.

April and Scott recap Be Better at Being Bad 2026 at Hedonism—day by day—covering the themes, the workshops, the connection circles, and the parties that made this year’s week feel like the best yet. From Rave Bingo and fundraising for the Hedo Foundation to the Glow Party, foam party chaos, and the Superheroes & Villains night where “Professor X” somehow became “Doctor Strange,” they share the funny, the sexy, and the surprisingly meaningful moments that built real community. Plus: Wild Love Theory retreat updates, the Toronto X Club Pride weekend announcement, and why “Irish goodbyes” might be the secret to surviving a full takeover week.