That feeling of it being lonely at the top, it's not a leadership job requirement. It's a signal that you're going against your nature. And yet most leadership development doesn't talk about the impact of loneliness on performance, burnout, and well-being. Not enough at least.Psychologist, TEDx speaker, and author Kerry-Lyn Stanton-Downes makes a bold case: our brains are relational organs, wired to regulate, heal, grow, and perform through connection with others. Yet most leaders have accepted the story that loneliness is just the cost of leadership.In this conversation, Kerry-Lyn unpacks why that story is costing more than we think. When leaders prioritize task over relationship, what looks like discipline on the outside is actually the early signs of relational drift. Over time, that impacts not only the leader, but the team's working relationship and performance.Kerry-Lyn introduces the concept of relational poverty, the barrenness in the space between us where we can't repair, can't challenge, can't think together. It's not just a personal cost; it's systemic. When a leader's nervous system is in survival mode, that state becomes the relational climate for the entire team. People start managing the leader instead of collaborating with them.The good news: Kerry-Lyn offers a framework for building relational capacity through eight principles: presence, curiosity, reflection, vulnerability, being in service, navigating difference, a mindset of abundance, and repair. And you don't need all eight. Start with one. For a leader already running on empty, the first step isn't adding more to their plate, it's regulating their own nervous system so they can show up for others.This conversation is for any leader who feels the weight of isolation and suspects there might be a different way. BONUS: Kerry-Lyn offered to join us for a follow-up episode to answer your questions. If you want to ask Kerry-Lyn a question, drop a comment in the YouTube version of the episode. Thank you!In this episode, Kerry-Lyn answers the following questions:- Why is leadership so lonely?- What is the cost of loneliness?- What is one thing a Leader can do about loneliness?- How do I develop more relationships?Resources mentioned in the episode: - Kerry-Lyn’s Company - Kerry-Lyn’s LinkedIn - Kerry-Lyn’s Substack Music in this episode by Ian Kastner. "What Do You Know To Be True?" is an invitation to be inspired to become more of your possible self by discovering your superpower, unlocking your potential, and creating your impact in the world. This podcast is for leaders, coaches, org development practitioners, and anyone who works with people who want to be inspired to discover their superpower, unlock their possibilities, and make meaningful impact in the world. For more info about the podcast or to check out more episodes, go to: What Do You Know To Be True?"What Do You Know To Be True?" is hosted by Roger Kastner, is a production of Three Blue Pens, and is recorded on the ancestral lands of the Duwamish and Suquamish people. To discover the ancestral lands of the indigenous people whose land you may be on, go to: https://native-land.ca/Keywords#Leadership #loneliness #Burnout #LeadershipDevelopment #wellbeing #LonelyAtTheTop