<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new">Send us Fan Mail</a>When someone dies by suicide, the questions come fast.How did this happen?  Why didn’t I see it?  What could I have done differently?In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I talk about what actually matters when something like this happens—without speculation, without oversimplifying it, and with respect for the people who are grieving.This is a grounded conversation about:<ul><li>why suicide is not always visible from the outside</li><li>why this kind of loss can hurt deeply even if you did not know the person personally</li><li>what to actually say when you are worried about someone</li><li>how to support someone without feeling like you have to fix it</li><li>and how grief after suicide can bring sadness, anger, guilt, confusion, and shock all at once</li></ul>If you have been struggling to make sense of this kind of loss—or if you have been carrying pain quietly yourself—this episode is for you.If you are in the U.S. and need support, call or text 988. If there is immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.*Some IdeasWhen Someone Is Struggling: What To Say, What To Do, What ToKnowWHAT TO NOTICEWithdrawal, irritability, hopelessness, loss of interest, changes in sleep, energy, or behavior. Thereisn’t always a clear sign.WHAT TO SAY“You haven’t seemed like yourself lately. I care about you—what’s been going on?”ASK DIRECTLY“Have you had thoughts about hurting yourself?” Asking directly does not make it worse. It canopen the door to honesty.WHAT HELPSBe present, listen without immediately trying to fix it, stay calm, and help connect them to support.WHAT NOT TO DODon’t minimize, don’t rush to solve it, don’t panic, and don’t assume you know what they mean.IF YOU’RE STRUGGLINGYou do not have to wait until it gets worse. Reach out to someone you trust, a therapist, yourdoctor, or a crisis resource.U.S. CRISIS SUPPORTCall or text 988 for the Suicide &amp; Crisis Lifeline.If there is immediate danger or a medical emergency, call 911 or go to the nearest emergencyroom.Veterans can call 988 and press 1, text 838255, or chat through the Veterans Crisis Line.FOR THOSE GRIEVINGGrief can include sadness, anger, confusion, and guilt. You are not responsible for another person’sinternal world.REMEMBERYou do not need perfect words. Just notice, ask, and stay.Sarah Kuretzky Rossington, MA, LPC, NBCCLicensed Professional CounselorListen to The Hardcore Therapist podcast for more direct,trauma-informed mental health insight.If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room. <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support">Support the show</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new"&gt;Send us Fan Mail&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;When someone dies by suicide, the questions come fast.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;How did this happen?&lt;br/&gt; Why didn’t I see it?&lt;br/&gt; What could I have done differently?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode of &lt;em&gt;The Hardcore Therapist&lt;/em&gt;, I talk about what actually matters when something like this happens—without speculation, without oversimplifying it, and with respect for the people who are grieving.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This is a grounded conversation about:&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;why suicide is not always visible from the outside&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;why this kind of loss can hurt deeply even if you did not know the person personally&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;what to actually say when you are worried about someone&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;how to support someone without feeling like you have to fix it&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;and how grief after suicide can bring sadness, anger, guilt, confusion, and shock all at once&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;p&gt;If you have been struggling to make sense of this kind of loss—or if you have been carrying pain quietly yourself—this episode is for you.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;If you are in the U.S. and need support, call or text 988. If there is immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;*&lt;b&gt;Some Ideas&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;When Someone Is Struggling: What To Say, What To Do, What To&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Know&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;WHAT TO NOTICE&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Withdrawal, irritability, hopelessness, loss of interest, changes in sleep, energy, or behavior. There&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;isn’t always a clear sign.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;WHAT TO SAY&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;“You haven’t seemed like yourself lately. I care about you—what’s been going on?”&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;ASK DIRECTLY&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;“Have you had thoughts about hurting yourself?” Asking directly does not make it worse. It can&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;open the door to honesty.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;WHAT HELPS&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Be present, listen without immediately trying to fix it, stay calm, and help connect them to support.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;WHAT NOT TO DO&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Don’t minimize, don’t rush to solve it, don’t panic, and don’t assume you know what they mean.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;IF YOU’RE STRUGGLING&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;You do not have to wait until it gets worse. Reach out to someone you trust, a therapist, your&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;doctor, or a crisis resource.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;U.S. CRISIS SUPPORT&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Call or text &lt;b&gt;988&lt;/b&gt; for the Suicide &amp;amp; Crisis Lifeline.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;If there is immediate danger or a medical emergency, call &lt;b&gt;911&lt;/b&gt; or go to the nearest emergency&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;room.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Veterans can call &lt;b&gt;988&lt;/b&gt; and press &lt;b&gt;1&lt;/b&gt;, text &lt;b&gt;838255&lt;/b&gt;, or chat through the Veterans Crisis Line.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;FOR THOSE GRIEVING&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Grief can include sadness, anger, confusion, and guilt. You are not responsible for another person’s&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;internal world.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;REMEMBER&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;You do not need perfect words. Just notice, ask, and stay.&lt;b&gt;Sarah Kuretzky Rossington, MA, LPC, NBCC&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Licensed Professional Counselor&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;Listen to The Hardcore Therapist podcast for more direct,&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;trauma-informed mental health insight.&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency room.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Send us Fan Mail When someone dies by suicide, the questions come fast. How did this happen?  Why didn’t I see it?  What could I have done differently? In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I talk about what actually matters when something like this happens—without speculation, without oversimplifying it, and with respect for the people who are grieving. This is a grounded conversation about: why suicide is not always visible from the outsidewhy this kind of loss can hurt deepl...

The Hardcore Therapist 131.5-  When Someone Dies by Suicide: What We Need to Understand, Say, and Do

<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new">Send us Fan Mail</a>I am so honored to welcome today’s guest  Drew Stone. Drew is a filmmaker, frontman, and author, known for works like the The Hardcore Chronicles, a long-running documentary project that captures hardcore culture in a, meaningful, confrontational, and deeply human way.Today we’re talking about storytelling, subculture as nervous system regulation, and what it means to preserve a scene without sanitizing it. We’re also talking about growth, accountability, and how creative work becomes a form of self-examination over time.This is a conversation about culture, memory, and the psychology of scenes that shape us. <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support">Support the show</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new"&gt;Send us Fan Mail&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I am so honored to welcome today’s guest  Drew Stone. Drew is a filmmaker, frontman, and author, known for works like the &lt;em&gt;The Hardcore Chronicles&lt;/em&gt;, a long-running documentary project that captures hardcore culture in a, meaningful, confrontational, and deeply human way.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Today we’re talking about storytelling, subculture as nervous system regulation, and what it means to preserve a scene without sanitizing it. We’re also talking about growth, accountability, and how creative work becomes a form of self-examination over time.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This is a conversation about culture, memory, and the psychology of scenes that shape us.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Send us Fan Mail I am so honored to welcome today’s guest  Drew Stone. Drew is a filmmaker, frontman, and author, known for works like the The Hardcore Chronicles, a long-running documentary project that captures hardcore culture in a, meaningful, confrontational, and deeply human way. Today we’re talking about storytelling, subculture as nervous system regulation, and what it means to preserve a scene without sanitizing it. We’re also talking about growth, accountability, and how creati...

The Hardcore Therapist 131- Drew Stone (The Hardcore Chronicles, All Ages: The Boston Hardcore Film)

<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new">Send us Fan Mail</a>Why do people sometimes lose sexual desire in long-term relationships—even when they still love their partner?In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I explore the emotional, relational, and biological reasons intimacy can change over time. Drawing from clinical experience and relationship research, she explains how stress, emotional disconnection, hormonal shifts, and complacency can all influence desire.I also discusses why continuing to date your partner, maintaining daily emotional connection, and protecting the partnership throughout different life stages are essential for sustaining long-term intimacy. <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support">Support the show</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new"&gt;Send us Fan Mail&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Why do people sometimes lose sexual desire in long-term relationships—even when they still love their partner?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode of &lt;em&gt;The Hardcore Therapist&lt;/em&gt;, I explore the emotional, relational, and biological reasons intimacy can change over time. Drawing from clinical experience and relationship research, she explains how stress, emotional disconnection, hormonal shifts, and complacency can all influence desire.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I also discusses why continuing to date your partner, maintaining daily emotional connection, and protecting the partnership throughout different life stages are essential for sustaining long-term intimacy.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Send us Fan Mail Why do people sometimes lose sexual desire in long-term relationships—even when they still love their partner? In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I explore the emotional, relational, and biological reasons intimacy can change over time. Drawing from clinical experience and relationship research, she explains how stress, emotional disconnection, hormonal shifts, and complacency can all influence desire. I also discusses why continuing to date your partner, maintaining ...

The Hardcore Therapist 130.5- Why Don’t I Want to Sleep With My Partner Anymore?

<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new">Send us Fan Mail</a>I am so excited to welcome Monica Tanner to The Hardcore Therapist podcast.Monica is straight edge, a psychologist, a cancer survivor, and an all-around badass. She brings together lived experience and clinical depth in a way that’s rare—and deeply needed. Her story sits at the intersection of identity, resilience, discipline, and survival, and she doesn’t soften it for comfort.Today we’re talking about what it means to move through illness without losing yourself, to practice psychology with integrity, and to live straight edge in a culture that often misunderstands what that actually represents. This is a conversation about strength, values, and staying rooted in who you are—even when life tries to take you apart. <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support">Support the show</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new"&gt;Send us Fan Mail&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I am so excited to welcome Monica Tanner to &lt;em&gt;The Hardcore Therapist&lt;/em&gt; podcast.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Monica is straight edge, a psychologist, a cancer survivor, and an all-around badass. She brings together lived experience and clinical depth in a way that’s rare—and deeply needed. Her story sits at the intersection of identity, resilience, discipline, and survival, and she doesn’t soften it for comfort.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Today we’re talking about what it means to move through illness without losing yourself, to practice psychology with integrity, and to live straight edge in a culture that often misunderstands what that actually represents. This is a conversation about strength, values, and staying rooted in who you are—even when life tries to take you apart.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

Send us Fan Mail I am so excited to welcome Monica Tanner to The Hardcore Therapist podcast. Monica is straight edge, a psychologist, a cancer survivor, and an all-around badass. She brings together lived experience and clinical depth in a way that’s rare—and deeply needed. Her story sits at the intersection of identity, resilience, discipline, and survival, and she doesn’t soften it for comfort. Today we’re talking about what it means to move through illness without losing yourself, to pract...

The Hardcore Therapist 130- Monica Tanner (XVX,  psychologist, a cancer survivor, and an all-around badass)

<a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new">Send us Fan Mail</a>You’ve read the books. You’ve been in therapy. You understand your patterns. So why do certain moments in relationships still trigger such strong emotional reactions?In this episode of The Hardcore Therapist, I explores why insight alone doesn’t always change how our nervous system responds to stress, conflict, or emotional distance in relationships. Drawing from trauma-informed frameworks and clinical experience, she explains how past relational experiences can continue to influence present-day reactions even when we intellectually understand what’s happening.Through real-life clinical examples, this episode breaks down why triggers show up in marriage, dating, and family dynamics, and how learning to work with the body’s responses can create meaningful change.You’ll learn: • Why the nervous system reacts before the thinking brain catches up • How past relational experiences shape present relationship triggers • What trauma-informed therapy teaches about emotional activation • Practical strategies to regulate your nervous system during conflict or uncertaintyI also highlights insights from Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine and Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman to explain how healing happens through awareness, regulation, and new relational experiences. <a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support">Support the show</a>

<description>&lt;p&gt;&lt;a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/fan_mail/new"&gt;Send us Fan Mail&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;You’ve read the books. You’ve been in therapy. You understand your patterns. So why do certain moments in relationships still trigger such strong emotional reactions?&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;In this episode of &lt;em&gt;The Hardcore Therapist&lt;/em&gt;, I explores why insight alone doesn’t always change how our nervous system responds to stress, conflict, or emotional distance in relationships. Drawing from trauma-informed frameworks and clinical experience, she explains how past relational experiences can continue to influence present-day reactions even when we intellectually understand what’s happening.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Through real-life clinical examples, this episode breaks down why triggers show up in marriage, dating, and family dynamics, and how learning to work with the body’s responses can create meaningful change.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;You’ll learn:&lt;br/&gt;• Why the nervous system reacts before the thinking brain catches up&lt;br/&gt;• How past relational experiences shape present relationship triggers&lt;br/&gt;• What trauma-informed therapy teaches about emotional activation&lt;br/&gt;• Practical strategies to regulate your nervous system during conflict or uncertainty&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;b&gt;I also highlights insights from &lt;/b&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;em&gt;Waking the Tiger&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;b&gt; by Peter Levine and &lt;/b&gt;&lt;b&gt;&lt;em&gt;Trauma and Recovery&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/b&gt;&lt;b&gt; by Judith Herman to explain how healing happens through awareness, regulation, and new relational experiences.&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a rel="payment" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/2255460/support"&gt;Support the show&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;</description>

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