The "Surviving Saturday" Podcast

What if poetry isn't just for English majors and literary journals—but for anyone trying to make sense of their story? In this episode, Wendy sits down with longtime friend, counselor, and poet Sue Cunningham to talk about the unexpected ways poetry has shown up in their lives—and how it's helped them make sense of their stories. They talk about the moments that drew them toward writing, the wounds that made it feel out of reach, and the slow return to creative expression as a form of healing, honesty, and hope. Sue shares how a flyer on a coffee shop bulletin board led her back to poetry, and Wendy reflects on a college experience that nearly convinced her to give it up for good. They also reflect on poetry as protest, as presence, and as a way to say things that are too complex—or too sacred—for ordinary language. This conversation is gentle, grounding, and full of quiet encouragement. Whether you consider yourself a writer or not, it just might help you see your own story a little differently. Connect with Us! Follow @nurturecounselingnc [https://www.instagram.com/nurturecounselingnc/] on Instagram Visit nurturecounseling.net [https://www.nurturecounseling.net/]

Feedback is one of the trickiest things to get right in any relationship—especially the ones that matter most. In this episode, Wendy and Chris unpack a recent exchange that gave them a front-row seat to what helps… and what hurts. From tone and timing to defensiveness and shame, they name the subtle dynamics that shape how feedback lands—and what it takes to create space for honesty without sacrificing connection. But this isn't just a conversation about communication techniques. It's about the deeper stories underneath our reactions: the expectations we bring into marriage, the ways we want to be understood, and the fear that we're being dismissed or judged. With curiosity and vulnerability, Wendy and Chris explore how even casual feedback can stir up old wounds—and how intentional language can start to heal them. Along the way, they offer clear, practical tools: simple shifts in phrasing, a framework for checking your own heart before speaking up, and some laugh-out-loud moments from their own learning curve. Whether you've been married for decades or just want to get better at saying hard things with love, this episode will leave you feeling both seen and equipped. This conversation is real, warm, and incredibly useful. It's about the gap between intention and impact—and the courage it takes to close that gap with kindness. Connect with Us! Follow @nurturecounselingnc [https://www.instagram.com/nurturecounselingnc/] on Instagram Visit nurturecounseling.net [https://www.nurturecounseling.net/]

There's a new intern at Nurture Counseling — and y'all, while Chris Osborn might be married to Wendy, that doesn't mean he's off the hook for the usual intern duties. In this episode, we officially welcome Chris to the team… and gently remind him that coffee runs and red carpet rollouts may still be part of the gig. But in all seriousness, this episode opens up a much deeper story — one that's been unfolding for decades. Chris reflects on his family of origin, growing up in the wake of a very public divorce, and learning early on that being the "good guy" could help him survive and belong. He shares how shame quietly shaped him, how his identity became entangled with performance, and how that eventually unraveled through the pressures of marriage, parenting, caregiving, and calling. Now, as he steps into the work of therapy, Chris shares the kind of clients he hopes to sit with — especially those who feel like their answers are no longer working, who are worn out from trying to hold it all together, and who need a safe place to be fully seen. With humor, humility, and a deeply thoughtful presence, Chris is stepping into this new chapter with both feet — and a lot of heart. This conversation is honest, funny, and full of grace. It's about the stories we carry, the systems that shaped us, and the quiet courage to begin again — a courage that doesn't come from within, but from the love of a God who meets us right where we are. Connect with Us! Follow @nurturecounselingnc [https://www.instagram.com/nurturecounselingnc/] on Instagram Visit nurturecounseling.net [https://www.nurturecounseling.net/]

Why is it so hard to stay connected when conflict shows up? For most of us, the moment tension rises, we slip into debate mode — fighting for the win instead of fighting for the relationship. In this episode, Wendy and Chris get honest about what that looks like in their own marriage, and what it takes to choose connection instead. They share stories from their early years together — when Saturday morning chores, unspoken expectations, and clashing habits revealed something much deeper: the longing to be seen, loved, and secure. Along the way, they name how family of origin, formative wounds, and even the wiring of our brains set us up to repeat old patterns, and how easy it is to cling to being "right" when what we really want is to be close. (Ever had an argument where the real fight wasn't about the dishes? Yeah, us too.) At the heart of the conversation is a crucial distinction: coercion vs. connection. Coercion may look like control, persuasion, or even righteousness — but love rooted in Christ makes room for freedom. It bears with one another in humility, gentleness, patience, and forgiveness, just as Ephesians 4:2 and Colossians 3:13 call us to. This isn't about avoiding conflict or pretending differences don't matter. It's about moving from debate to dialogue, from certainty to curiosity, and from control to trust. Honest, funny, and deeply hopeful, this conversation is full of the kind of real-life wisdom y'all will recognize — the kind that just might change how you show up in your next argument. Connect with Us! Follow @nurturecounselingnc [https://www.instagram.com/nurturecounselingnc/] on Instagram Visit nurturecounseling.net [https://www.nurturecounseling.net/]

We had the best time sitting down with Becky Allender — writer, grandmother, co-founder of The Allender Center, and yes, longtime partner-in-life-and-love to Dr. Dan Allender. But make no mistake: Becky is a force in her own right. Her presence is warm, steady, and disarmingly honest. And for decades, she's been a vital voice shaping the work that has impacted thousands through Dan's teaching, writing, and the Allender Center's mission. In this conversation, Becky reflects on entering what she calls the final chapter — not with resignation, but with clarity, intentionality, and grace. She shares what it means to show up fully in marriage at this stage of life, especially as Dan focuses his last major professional efforts on the topic of marriage itself. Becky names what it's like to be drawn more visibly into that work, to keep growing in her own voice, and to embrace the joy and ache of this season with open hands. We also talk about parenting — the beautiful and brutal reality of reckoning with the ways we've missed the mark, and how to best engage when our adult children bring their stories back to us. Becky's example of listening with humility, resisting the urge to defend, and offering genuine curiosity is a masterclass in becoming more like Jesus. We discuss what it means to bless our grown children even when their lives and choices look different than ours did, and to trust that God is big enough to hold what we couldn't. This episode is honest, tender, funny, and rich with lived wisdom. Becky doesn't offer easy answers — but she offers something better: a deeply human picture of love, courage, and grace that keeps unfolding across decades. We're so grateful for her presence, and we think you will be too. 🌐 Connect with Becky [https://theallendercenter.org/about/team/becky-allender/] Follow @nurturecounselingnc [https://www.instagram.com/nurturecounselingnc/]