Send us Fan MailThe Grateful Podcast with Jack Wagoner episode 134Guesting Allison BrennerShe left therapy after a patient on the child unit took their own life. That moment sent her on a 25-year journey into the science of why people can't see themselves clearly, and what it actually costs them.Allison Brenner is an IO psychology consultant, certified professional coach (PCC), and founder of InnerVue, a 360-degree anonymous feedback platform built to give everyone access to what only Fortune 500 executives used to get. Research shows 95% of people believe they are self-aware. The real number is closer to 10%. This conversation is about that gap, and what to do about it.We go deep on why self-criticism is not the same as self-awareness and is actually keeping you stuck, why the people around you already know what's in your way and nobody's telling you, what senior leaders consistently get wrong about their own impact, and why insight without action is one of the most dangerous illusions a high achiever can hold.If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right but the results still aren't there, this one's for you.⏰ TIMESTAMPS0:00 — Introduction0:10 — Why Self-Awareness Has Never Mattered More3:08 — The Psychiatric Hospital That Changed Her Career8:04 — What Senior Leaders Get Wrong About Their Own Impact11:04 — Curiosity: The Foundation of All Growth13:43 — The Leadership Paradox: Why Caring What Others Think Actually Matters18:16 — How to Find What You Actually Want and Value20:23 — Building Introspection as a Skill25:49 — Why She Built InnerVue27:55 — Insight Without Action Is an Illusion32:25 — She Had This Idea in 2007. Why Did She Wait?35:14 — What Happens When the Rater Learns About Themselves40:52 — Identity Continuity and Happiness43:22 — Self-Criticism vs. Self-Awareness: The Distinction That Changes Everything47:33 — Gratitude Gives Ambition Direction and Meaning51:37 — One Action to Take Today🔗 GUEST LINKSAllison K. BrennerWebsite: yourinnervue.comLinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/allisonbrenner💬 When did you last ask someone how you actually come across? Drop your honest answer below. 👇Support the show☕ Magic Mind — My daily performance shot:→ https://magicmind.com/wagoner20Use code WAGONER20 for 20% off a package or 48% off a subscription.🧠 More from Jack:► Website: https://jackwagoner.co► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jack_wagoner_/► 1:1 Coaching: [email protected]📺 Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Jack_Wagoner⸻🎙️ About Jack:I moved to France alone at 16, started my first business at 17, and launched this podcast because I kept meeting people who had the answers to questions I didn't even know I was asking.  My philosophy: you can set massive goals while being deeply fulfilled right now. That's the duality of gratitude and ambition.Subscribe and turn on notifications so you never miss an episode.Stay grateful, stay hungry.