From Foster to Forever

In this powerful and deeply insightful episode of From Foster to Forever, I sit down with child therapist and author Stacy Schaffer to explore what foster and adoptive parents really need to understand about childhood trauma, attachment, and healing.Stacy specializes in play therapy, a transformative approach that helps children express emotions they don’t yet have the words for. Through tools like sand tray therapy, somatic release, and creative expression, she offers a window into how children process grief, loss, and complex family dynamics.Together, we dive into the realities that many foster and adoptive families face—but don’t always talk about openly.This conversation is both validating and eye-opening, offering practical tools and emotional reassurance for parents navigating the beautiful and challenging journey of raising children from hard places.💡 In This Episode, We Discuss:What play therapy is and why it works for childrenHow kids communicate trauma through play, not wordsWhy building trust slowly is essential in therapyThe truth about confidentiality between therapist, child, and parentHow to find the right therapist (especially with Medicaid barriers)What generational trauma is—and how to begin healing itWhy it’s critical to honor a child’s grief, even in a loving homeHow to support kids through birth family visits and emotional dysregulationThe role of somatic (body-based) healing—including physical release toolsWhy foster and adoptive parents must prioritize their own support❤️ A Powerful Reminder for ParentsStacy shares a truth many parents need to hear:“It’s amazing and beautiful—and also exhausting. You can feel both.”Supporting your child starts with supporting yourself.📘 About Stacy SchaefferStacy Schaeffer is a child therapist specializing in grief and trauma, as well as the author of“With Love from a Children’s Therapist.”Her work blends clinical expertise with lived experience, offering both guidance and compassion to families navigating complex emotional landscapes.🌐 Website: https://stacyschaeffer.com📱 Instagram: @hope_restored🌱 About This PodcastFrom Foster to Forever shares honest, hopeful stories of families formed through foster care and adoption—highlighting resilience, healing, and the beauty of nontraditional paths to parenthood.🎧 New episodes weekly🌐 Visit: https://fromfoster2forever.com📱 Instagram: @foster2foreverpodcast🔖 If This Episode Spoke to You…Please follow, rate, and share with someone who needs encouragement on their foster or adoptive parenting journey.Mentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Foster care can bring a whirlwind of emotions, and today we're diving deep into the complexities that come with it. We’re chatting with Emily McDaniel, a seasoned foster care provider who's opened her heart and home to 21 kids over the years. Right off the bat, she highlights the tough truth that a lot of rejection in foster care is self-imposed, and that it's a wild ride to support families in crisis. As we peel back the layers, Emily shares her journey from wanting to run an orphanage to becoming a forever mom to a two-year-old girl and a 21-year-old young man. Stick around as we explore the ups and downs of foster care, the importance of community, and how to keep your why front and center in this challenging yet rewarding world. In this episode, we tackle the complex and often misunderstood world of foster care, featuring a candid conversation with Emily McDaniel, a foster care provider who’s made it her mission to open her heart and home to children in need. With 21 placements under her belt, Emily shares her experiences, the challenges she faces, and the incredible rewards that come from fostering. We dig deep into the emotional landscape of foster care—where love and loss often go hand in hand. Emily recounts her journey, revealing how her upbringing shaped her desire to help children in crisis and how she navigates the tricky waters of attachment and separation. As we explore the reality of foster care, we also highlight the need for community support and the importance of understanding the unique struggles that foster families face. Emily's perspective is both enlightening and heart-wrenching, as she discusses the realities of rejection and the hope that comes with each new placement. This episode is filled with rich insights, touching stories, and a reminder that fostering is a brave and noble calling that requires not just a big heart, but a strong support network. Whether you’re a seasoned foster parent or just curious about the system, this episode will leave you with a renewed appreciation for the families that make fostering a part of their lives.Takeaways:Foster care is often a journey through rejection, not just for the children but for the caregivers who deeply invest themselves emotionally.Understanding the importance of community support is crucial in foster care, as the journey can feel isolating and challenging without it.Each foster placement comes with its own unique challenges and joys, showcasing the complexity of building connections and navigating the system.The idea of 'home' in foster care isn't just about shelter; it’s about creating a nurturing environment for children who need stability and love.Having an open heart to foster children can lead to unexpected family dynamics, with some placements growing into lifelong relationships.Ultimately, knowing your 'why' in fostering is key; it anchors you through the ups and downs and helps you focus on the children’s needs.***LISTENER'S SPECIAL OFFER: GET 10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGAZINE***Mentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Dyslexia isn’t just a reading problem—it’s a whole brain vibe! In our chat today, we dive into some eye-opening insights with Russell Van Broecklin, a dyslexia researcher who's got the lowdown on how dyslexia works and why it’s not as straightforward as folks think. He lays down the truth that while dyslexics might read and write slower, their brains are firing on all cylinders when it comes to thinking. So, if you’ve got a kiddo who’s struggling, don’t sweat it! Russell shares some killer strategies for helping them thrive academically, even if traditional methods have made them feel like they’re swimming upstream. Join us as we unravel the myths and equip ourselves with some solid tools to help our little learners soar! Dyslexia is often misunderstood as a simple reading issue, but let me tell you, it’s way more complex than that. Russell Van Broecklin, our guest on the podcast, dives deep into the nuances of dyslexia, sharing his own journey and expertise as a New York State funded dyslexia researcher. He reveals that while dyslexics might read and write slower than their peers, they often think and process information faster, which flips the script on how we perceive learning difficulties. Throughout our conversation, Russell emphasizes the importance of recognizing the unique cognitive strengths dyslexics possess, which can lead to incredible academic and personal success when properly supported. He recounts his own experiences in law school, where he not only navigated the challenges of dyslexia but thrived, showcasing that with the right strategies, dyslexics can outperform even the best and brightest at institutions like Harvard. A standout moment from the episode is when he shares his research findings, revealing that he helped students go from struggling to thriving, often at a fraction of the cost of traditional approaches. It’s a game-changer for parents and educators alike, showing that understanding and tailored interventions can lead to phenomenal outcomes for dyslexic children.Takeaways:Dyslexia isn't just about reading; it's a whole brain organization thing that can affect writing too.Contrary to popular belief, dyslexics can learn to read better than many traditionally 'smart' kids.With the right strategies, dyslexics can think faster than their peers, especially in higher education settings.Identifying dyslexia early is crucial; if you suspect your child has it, get them tested by professionals as soon as possible.Links referenced in this episode:FromFosterToForever.comFosterToForeverpodcastdyslexiaclasses.comdyslexiaclasses.comMentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Rachel sits down with functional medicine physician and adoptive father Dr. Aaron Hartman to explore how early trauma, environmental factors, and holistic healthcare can shape the lives of foster and adopted children.Dr. Hartman shares the story of adopting his daughters through foster care and how his journey parenting a child with complex medical needs transformed his medical practice. Together, Rachel and Dr. Hartman discuss navigating the healthcare system, advocating for special-needs children, and practical ways families can support neurodivergent kids—emotionally, nutritionally, and medically.This conversation offers hope, validation, and actionable guidance for foster, adoptive, and kinship parents navigating complex challenges.🌱 In This Episode, We Discuss:Dr. Hartman’s journey adopting and his challenges with the system - being wrongful accused and having to defend himself without being defensive and taking it personally.Parenting children with medical and developmental challengesNavigating Child Protective Services and medical advocacyWhy early intervention can change a child’s life trajectoryFunctional and integrative medicine approaches for kidsGut health, nutrition, and brain developmentSupporting children with autism, ADHD, and trauma historiesHypermobility, low tone, and nutritional needsPractical strategies for families with limited resourcesFood sensitivities, picky eating, and reducing sugar dependencyAttachment struggles and building emotional safetyEnvironmental health, mold, and chemical exposureThe connection between soil, food quality, and human healthThoughtful, individualized approaches to vaccinesWhy parents must become strong advocates for their children💡 Key Takeaways✨ Handling the system with grace and ease. ✨ Early support and personalized care can dramatically improve long-term outcomes for children with special needs. ✨ Nutrition, gut health, and environment play a major role in brain and behavioral health. ✨ Attachment and emotional safety are essential for healing trauma. ✨ Parents don’t need perfection—but education, curiosity, and persistence matter. ✨ Hope is always possible, even with “hopeless” diagnoses.❤️ About Our GuestDr. Aaron Hartman is a functional and integrative medicine physician, researcher, and father of three, two of whom were adopted through foster care. His personal parenting journey led him to specialize in helping children and adults with complex, chronic, and neurodevelopmental conditions through holistic, individualized care.📚 Resources MentionedUncurable: From Hopeless Diagnosis to Defying All Odds by Dr. Aaron HartmanGAPS Diet (Gut and Psychology Syndrome)Low-Dose Naltrexone (LDN)Leucovorin Environmental Working Group’s Clean 15 & Dirty DozenDr. Hartman’s website, blogs, and podcast (for free education)📣 Connect With Us✨ Subscribe & Review: ✨ Website: ✨ Instagram ✨ FacebookMentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT

Recognizing our superpower as parents is the name of the game today, and it’s not about having all the answers. Our presence alone can be a game-changer for our kids, especially those who come from foster care and carry their own unique traumas. We’re diving deep with Jenny Hornby, a licensed counselor and trauma expert, who’s got some serious insights on how to help kids process their feelings in a safe way. We chat about EMDR therapy, which Jenny describes like taking a train ride through their experiences without reliving the trauma. So, whether you’re a seasoned foster parent or just curious about the journey, tune in for stories and tips that’ll resonate with anyone navigating the wild world of parenting! Join us as we embark on a heartfelt conversation about the power of presence in parenting, especially for those navigating the choppy waters of foster care and adoption. This episode features Jenny Hornby, a licensed counselor whose expertise in trauma therapy shines a light on the complexities of emotional healing for children. We kick things off with a discussion about EMDR therapy—an innovative approach that helps children process their trauma in a safe and structured way. Jenny explains how this technique allows kids to revisit painful memories without the overwhelming emotions that typically accompany them. By using relatable analogies, she makes the therapy sound not only effective but also approachable, inviting listeners to consider how vital it is for kids to know they aren’t alone in their struggles. The conversation shifts to Jenny's own experiences as an adoptive parent, where she shares poignant moments from her journey that resonate deeply. From the emotional intricacies of meeting her child’s birth mother to the joys and challenges of raising kids who have experienced trauma, Jenny’s stories paint a vivid picture of love and resilience. She also discusses the importance of open lines of communication and how to gently guide children through their feelings about their pasts. This relatability adds a layer of warmth and authenticity to the episode, making it a must-listen for anyone involved in or considering adoption. As we wind down, Jenny offers practical advice for parents on how to handle their children’s big emotions. She emphasizes the necessity of self-awareness for parents, reminding us that we need to check in with ourselves before we can effectively support our kids. The episode closes with a reminder that being present and allowing children to feel their emotions is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. With humor and heart, this episode serves as a powerful reminder of the impact that love, understanding, and patience can have on healing and growth for both parents and children.Takeaways:As parents, our greatest superpower is simply being there for our kids, no cap!When it comes to kids from foster care, trauma is almost a given, so we need to be prepared.EMDR therapy helps kids process trauma without reliving it, making it a game changer.Building trust with kids is crucial; it’s about showing up and letting them lead the way.Using creative methods like art and storytelling can help children express their fears and emotions.Being present is key—sometimes, just hanging out with your kid in silence can do wonders.Links referenced in this episode:fromFoster2forever.com@foster2foreverpodcastmsJennybooks.comFostering Families Today Magazine (10% off subscription)Mentioned in this episode:10% OFF FOSTERING FAMILIES TODAY MAGFostering Families Today is a bi-monthly magazine distributed to foster, kinship and adoptive families across the country offering resources, expert opinions, practical advice and information on the latest evidence-based best practices for supporting children and youth who come from traumatic backgrounds. Use coupon code foster10 to receive 10% off your annual subscription at fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. That's fosteringfamiliestoday dot com. FFT