Ep22 - "Owning Your Kink: Living with Authenticity in a Vanilla World" with Hardy Haberman

Should you keep your kink in the closet? Should you come out? To who, when, and what are the benefits? More importantly, what are the hazards? Exploring these questions leads to living authentically. Authenticity does not mean parading your kink down Main Street, but it does mean thoughtful self-examination and coming to terms with it. This discussion will help kinky folk decide how to negotiate their path in a vanilla world.

Hardy Haberman is a long-time LGBT activist and member of the leather community since the mid-70’s. The author of several books including The Family Jewels: A Guide to Male Genital Play and Torment.

He has received numerous awards, including the “Leather Leadership Award” from the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force, the “Jack Stice Memorial Award” at South Planes LeatherFest, and the Marcus Hernandez Lifetime Achievement Award at Pantheon of Leather. 

Hardy is a columnist for the Dallas Voice, Digital Experience Manager for Cathedral of Hope, and former Chairperson of the Woodhull Freedom Foundation. He lives in Dallas, where he and his boy celebrated 29 years together as partners in play and life.

• Fetlife.com/HardyH
• Facebook.com/hardy.Haberman

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