Radical Self

Some women are 100% soft little vanilla beans... for the rest of us. This is a show for you. For the powerful babes who need a little firm hand but desperately end up biting it instead of submitting... and all the people who dare to love us and play with us. More about Julieta ChiaraCome learn to tie, surrender & play w/ power⚡️Kinoko Rope Instructor | Subby Mentor🧵 NawaFoundations™ | Empowered Sub Academy👇 Solo Sub Challenge www.julietachiara.com/explore  https://www.instagram.com/julietachiara 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy Ready to go deeper? 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Join the Waitlist: https://risewiththorhildur.com/minicourse-waitlist 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer

A deep conversation about the “sexual self” — the inner part of you that governs desire, turn-ons, boundaries, and truth — and what happens when you stop silencing it. What if the part of you that governs your sexuality doesn’t care about your self-image, your relationship rules, or what makes sense logically? In this episode, I explore the concept of the sexual self — the independent inner persona that holds your desires, turn-ons, boundaries, fantasies, and truth. I talk about: Why so many people feel conflicted in long-term relationships The disconnect between the logical self and the sexual self Why suppressing desire creates tension, numbness, and performance-based sex My own experience of silencing my bisexuality How conversations about non-monogamy often reveal a deeper issue: disconnection from desire itself The powerful shift that happens when you stop treating your sexuality like a problem to solve This is not really an episode about non-monogamy. It’s an episode about honesty. About listening to the part of you that has been whispering underneath the performance all along.PS. The movie I mention is called Golden Compass.  🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy Ready to go deeper? 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Join the Waitlist: https://risewiththorhildur.com/minicourse-waitlist 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer

What if the people around you are no longer helping you grow, but quietly keeping you small? My boyfriend interviewed me and asked me some deeply personal questions about growth, relationships, and polyamory. We talked about the moments in my life where I wish I had been challenged differently, how new people and fresh perspectives have shaped me, and why growth often comes in waves of expansion and integration. We also explored what I’ve learned from being polyamorous for eight years, whether I’ve ever wanted to go back, and what I would say to someone who is curious about non-monogamy. More than anything, this conversation is about freedom, self-trust, and what it means for me to choose a life and relationships that feel true. 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy Ready to go deeper? 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Join the Waitlist: https://risewiththorhildur.com/minicourse-waitlist 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer

“This isn’t a relationship problem. It’s a cultural one.” In this episode of Radical Self, I’m joined by my partner Marcel for a raw, vulnerable, and deeply human conversation about desire, rejection, and what actually happens in long-term heterosexual relationships when sex becomes difficult. We talk about the quiet despair men feel when they are repeatedly rejected, the pressure women experience when desire feels like an obligation, and the cultural conditioning that traps couples in a painful loop of shame, withdrawal, and misunderstanding. This isn’t about blame. It’s about seeing the pattern clearly — and learning how to sit side by side instead of opposite each other. If you’ve ever felt undesired, pressured, lonely, or afraid to talk about sex with your partner, this conversation will name what you’ve been feeling and offer a new way forward.Got questions? Feedback? Want to inquire into coaching with me?DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/

Your wife isn’t rejecting you. She’s protecting herself (likely without knowing). And if her ‘no’ isn’t fully deeply safe with you, her ‘yes’ stopped being real a long time ago. In this episode of Radical Self, I speak directly to the men who are longing for more sexual freedom, play, and honesty with their partners — and aren’t getting it. I share vulnerably from my own 18-year relationship, including how opening my marriage revealed how deeply I’d internalised the belief that my body and sexuality “belonged” to my husband, even though he never asked for that. From there, we dive into the history and conditioning that have made women’s desire taboo for thousands of years, why cohabitation and emotional labor quietly kill female libido, and how so many couples end up in the heartbreaking loop of him feeling rejected and her abandoning herself just to keep emotional safety. You’ll learn why your wife (or longtime female partner) isn’t actually rejecting you, what she’s protecting inside herself, why your longing might be landing as pressure, and the three essential ingredients to rebuild erotic safety, novelty, and slow intimacy. If her desire feels far away and you feel starved for connection, this conversation will give you language, context, and a way forward.Feedback or coaching inquiriesMessage me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/