Radical Self

Your wife isn’t rejecting you. She’s protecting herself (likely without knowing). And if her ‘no’ isn’t fully deeply safe with you, her ‘yes’ stopped being real a long time ago. In this episode of Radical Self, I speak directly to the men who are longing for more sexual freedom, play, and honesty with their partners — and aren’t getting it. I share vulnerably from my own 18-year relationship, including how opening my marriage revealed how deeply I’d internalised the belief that my body and sexuality “belonged” to my husband, even though he never asked for that. From there, we dive into the history and conditioning that have made women’s desire taboo for thousands of years, why cohabitation and emotional labor quietly kill female libido, and how so many couples end up in the heartbreaking loop of him feeling rejected and her abandoning herself just to keep emotional safety. You’ll learn why your wife (or longtime female partner) isn’t actually rejecting you, what she’s protecting inside herself, why your longing might be landing as pressure, and the three essential ingredients to rebuild erotic safety, novelty, and slow intimacy. If her desire feels far away and you feel starved for connection, this conversation will give you language, context, and a way forward.Feedback or coaching inquiriesMessage me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/ 

When your relationship starts to feel like a puzzle you can’t solve… When your body feels the tension before your mind finds the words… That’s your invitation.   In this intimate solo episode, I share five questions that will help you shift from mental noise into emotional clarity — from looping thoughts to embodied truth. Get a notebook and pen and get ready because:  These are the questions that turned frustration into connection, and helped me remember what intimacy actually feels like.   You’ll walk away knowing how to: 🕊️ Meet tension with awareness, not avoidance 💞 Trace your triggers to their roots 🔥 Invite your partner into co-creation, not control   This is your permission to stop analyzing love — and start experiencing it again. Perfect for anyone who’s tired of analyzing and ready to feel their relationship again.If you loved this I would love to hear it! Send me a DM on Instagram @rise.with.thorhildurThat's also the place to contact me if you want to inquire about coaching with me.

What does it mean to own your erotic aliveness? And why do so many of us feel frozen, disconnected, or shamed out of our natural erotic essence?   In this episode of Radical Self, Thorhildur dives deep into the four words that can change everything: Owning Your Erotic Aliveness.   You’ll discover: 🔥 What “erotic” really means beyond sex — and how it’s the pulse of life moving through you. 🌱 Why society trains us to shut it down… and how that creates disconnection, shame, and performance-based intimacy. 💃 How to thaw out, reclaim your desires, and step into your erotic sovereignty. 🌹 Why your erotic life is your responsibility — and how embracing it opens doors to freedom, intimacy, and joy. ✨ Practical ways to bloom where you’re planted (and move environments when you need to). Thorhildur weaves stories from her own journey — from economics student to tantric teacher, from feeling like “property” in her marriage to stepping into full sovereignty — to show you what’s possible when you dare to embody your erotic aliveness.   This is a call to liberation. A reminder that your erotic essence is not something to be managed, hidden, or performed — it’s your birthright.   🌹 If you’re ready to release shame, reconnect with your body, and reclaim your erotic life, listen in. 🔮 Ready to go deeper? Join me inside Sovereign — a 3-month women’s group journey where we explore sexuality, shadow work, and inner child healing. This is where you’ll bloom into your full erotic aliveness, supported by powerful sisterhood. DM me on Instagram to apply Or, step into 1:1 coaching with me if you’re ready for deeply personal guidance in reclaiming your erotic sovereignty. Play with the application here and uncover what you truly want. 

I could have named this show “I Masturbated to the Thought of You With Someone Else…” In our third podcast episode together Marcel (my partner of 2 years) and I dive deep into topics like freedom, jealousy, tears, solo polyamory, sexual freedom, and maturity in open love. Recorded in a hammock in southern Spain, we explore: -How freedom can be both inspiring and terrifying in relationships. -If they could remove one pain from each other's lives, what it would be. -How fear can actually deepen love. -Honest stories about jealousy—including a frightening hotel room moment. -Why jealousy is often a mirror of our own unmet desires. -Crying for the first time in 10 years and redefining masculinity. -The difference between envy and jealousy. -Solo polyamory: loving without merging lives. -The unexpected way opening a relationship changes desire. -Myths about open love, and why it’s not a constant orgy. -The beauty of living relationships by conscious choice. -The most sovereign version of us in love. If this resonated I'd love to hear it! Want to dive deeper and grow with me? Drop me a DM on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/ Join the waitlist for upcoming courses on relationships, non-monogamy and more:https://sundurogsaman.me/waitlist Explore coaching with me:https://sundurogsaman.me/coaching 

Have you ever felt the quiet nudge that says, “This isn’t it”? This episode is about the sacred moment we say “f**k it” and choose to stop waiting and start living.   I share why we stall, how fear disguises itself as logic, and what happens when we finally listen to our soul’s whisper. Plus, I’ll tell you how to work with me if you’re ready to rise.   🎧 Listen now — and if this sparks something in you, DM me on instagram and tell me about it. Instagram page of Thorhildur, Sundur og saman