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How Do You Keep Living After Losing Someone to Suicide? | Grief, Loss & What I’ve LearnedAlmost a year and a half ago, I lost my sister to suicide. For a long time, I didn’t know how to talk about grief. I didn’t know what I was supposed to feel, how long I was supposed to feel it for, or how you’re meant to keep living when someone you love is no longer here.Recently, someone reached out to me after losing someone they loved to suicide and asked if I would make an episode about grief. I'm not making this episode because I’ve figured grief out. I’m making it because I’m still learning how to live with it.In this episode, I share some of my own experience with grief and the things I’ve learned along the way including:• Why there is no “right” way to grieve• What grief has actually looked and felt like for me• The difference between moving on and moving forward• How to allow grief and happiness to exist at the same time• What has helped me navigate the harder days• What I wish more people understood about grieving• How to support someone who has lost a loved one• The unique complexities that can come with grief after suicide loss• Why you don’t have to have all the answers to keep moving forward• A message for anyone who is struggling right nowIf you’re grieving someone, especially someone you lost to suicide, I hope this episode reminds you that you are not doing grief wrong.You don’t have to “get over” someone you love. You learn how to carry the love, the memories and the grief with you while continuing to live.And if you’re struggling yourself, please don’t wait until you have the perfect words or until things feel “bad enough” to reach out. You deserve support now.CONTENT & SUPPORT DISCLAIMERThis episode discusses grief, suicide loss and mental health. Please take care of yourself while listening and skip this episode if you feel it may be difficult for you right now. This episode shares my personal experience and reflections. I am not a mental health professional, and this is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice.If you are struggling or having thoughts of suicide, please reach out to someone you trust or a qualified professional.Resources in AustraliaLifeline: 13 11 14 — available 24/7Lifeline Text: 0477 13 11 14 — available 24/7Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467 — free 24/7 counselling for people experiencing suicidal thoughts, worried about someone, or bereaved by suicide.Emergency: If you or someone else is in immediate danger, call 000.You do not have to go through this alone.🎧 Listen on Spotify🎥 Full episode available here on YouTubeThank you for being here.XCharli

The Psychology of Delayed Gratification | Why Most Athletes Quit Too Soon | Let's Get Deeper Podcast EP.We live in a world that wants everything now.Instant results. Instant gratification. Instant success.But bodybuilding has taught me that some of the most meaningful things in life simply can't be rushed.In this episode, we explore the psychology of delayed gratification and why so many people give up on their goals—not because they're incapable, but because they underestimate how long real progress actually takes.I share the mindset shifts that have helped me stay patient through 20 weeks of offseason, trust the process even when progress feels invisible, and why learning to fall in love with repetition may be the greatest competitive advantage you can have.In this episode, we explore:Why delayed gratification is one of the most important skills you can developWhy so many athletes quit before they see the results they're capable ofThe difference between chasing outcomes and committing to the processWhy boredom and repetition are often signs that you're on the right pathHow to stop comparing your timeline to everyone else'sPractical tools to build patience and trust in long-term progressWhy these lessons apply just as much to life, business and relationships as they do to bodybuildingThis episode isn't about waiting around for success to happen.It's about becoming the kind of person who keeps showing up long enough for success to find them.Because the people who achieve extraordinary things aren't always the most talented.More often than not, they're the ones who were willing to stay committed when the results weren't visible yet.If you've been feeling impatient, questioning your progress, or wondering whether all your hard work is worth it, I hope this episode reminds you that the greatest transformations are rarely the quickest.Keep showing up.Your future self will thank you for it.🎧 Listen on Spotify🎥 Full episode available here on YouTubeThank you for being here.X Charli

The Discipline Trap | Why High Performers Struggle to Rest | Let's Get Deeper Podcast EP. I've always considered discipline one of my greatest strengths. Showing up. Pushing through. Staying consistent. But recently, I realised something that completely challenged the way I view productivity, rest and what it actually means to be disciplined. When I was unwell, it took more mental effort to skip one training session than it would've taken to push through and train anyway. That's when I realised my relationship with rest needed work. In this episode, we dive into why so many high performers struggle to switch off, how bodybuilding and hustle culture can unintentionally reward overworking, and why learning to rest may actually be the next level of discipline. I also share the practical mindset shifts and habits I'm actively working on to build a healthier relationship with recovery—not just in bodybuilding, but in every area of life. In this episode, we explore: Why discipline can become a trap when it becomes your identity The moment I realised my relationship with rest wasn't as healthy as I thought Why bodybuilding rewards pushing through—and where that can become problematic The hidden cost of always feeling the need to be productive Why rest isn't something you have to earn Practical tools to build a healthier relationship with rest How to enjoy the life you're working so hard to create This episode isn't about becoming less disciplined. It's about recognising that real discipline isn't just knowing when to push. It's also knowing when to pause. Because your body grows when it recovers. Your mind grows when it slows down. And the life you're working so hard to build deserves to be experienced—not just achieved. If you've ever felt guilty taking a day off, struggled to switch off, or tied your worth to how productive you are, I hope this episode reminds you that rest isn't the opposite of progress. Sometimes, it's what makes progress possible. 🎧 Listen on Spotify 🎥 Full episode available here on YouTube Thank you for being here. X Charli

How to Stay Focused When Life Gets Hard | Friendships, Focus & Protecting Your Peace | Let's Get Deeper Podcast Life doesn't stop just because you're chasing big goals. Whether you're in prep, offseason, building a business or simply trying to become the best version of yourself, difficult conversations, grief, relationship changes and personal challenges will inevitably arise. The question isn't whether they'll affect you. It's how you'll respond. In this episode, I share practical tools that have helped me navigate hard seasons without letting them consume my training, work or life. We also dive into one of the most overlooked parts of your 20s: building genuine friendships, creating meaningful connections and surrounding yourself with people who align with the life you're trying to build. In this episode, we explore: Why personal life challenges affect us (and why that's normal) How to stop difficult situations from controlling your entire day My "dedicated worry time" practice and taking back control Creating rituals to improve focus and performance How to build genuine friendships in your 20s Finding people who align with your values Why friendships require intention, not luck Three reminders about friendship, growth and becoming your best self This episode isn't about pretending life is easy or pushing your emotions aside. It's about learning how to honour what you're feeling without letting it dictate your actions. Because your ability to stay present, protect your peace and cultivate meaningful relationships will always influence the quality of your performance. Whether you're navigating prep, career goals, friendship changes or simply trying to build a life you're proud of, I hope this episode reminds you that you don't have to have it all figured out. You just have to keep showing up. 🎧 Listen on Spotify 🎥 Full episode available here on YouTube Thank you for being here. X Charli

26 Weeks to Change Your Life (Without Reinventing Yourself) | Let's Get Deeper Podcast EP.There are only 26 weeks left of the year.For some people, that's a reminder of everything they haven't done yet.For me, it's a reminder of how much can still change.In this episode, I reflect on the biggest lessons the first half of 2026 has taught me through bodybuilding, business and life, and how I'm approaching the next six months with more intention, clarity and self-awareness.We talk about why you don't need to become a completely different person to change your life, why consistency will always outperform perfection, and practical ways you can make the rest of this year your strongest yet.In this episode, we explore:Why 26 weeks is more than enough time to change your lifeStop waiting for the "perfect" time to startThe biggest lessons the first half of 2026 taught meWhy you don't need to reinvent yourselfIdentity, consistency & building trust with yourselfA practical reset for the next 26 weeksThe questions that will change how you approach the rest of your yearThis episode isn't about setting bigger goals.It's about becoming the kind of person who keeps showing up for the goals they already have.Because real change rarely happens through dramatic transformations.It happens through the small decisions you make every day, the promises you keep to yourself, and the person you choose to become along the way.If you've been feeling behind, overwhelmed, or like you've "wasted" the first half of the year, I hope this episode reminds you that your year isn't over.You still have time.🎧 Listen on Spotify🎥 Full episode available here on YouTubeIG: @Charli.LilaganThank you for being here.X Charli