The Art Of Imperfect Adulting

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Los Angeles- based Missy Toy Ozeas about the transformative journey from people-pleasing and hiding one’s true self to embracing intuition and stepping fully into a new life purpose. Missy shares her story of leaving a decades-long television career after a powerful intuitive message, the challenges of honoring inner guidance after a lifetime of masking, and how synchronistic events shaped her new path as a healer helping others break through limiting beliefs.About the Guest:Missy Toy Ozeas is a highly skilled energy healer and intuitive channel dedicated to helping visionary leaders and change-makers step into their full power by releasing limiting beliefs, trapped emotions, and generational patterns.As an intuitive guide with certifications in the Emotion Code, Body Code, Belief Code, spiritual life coaching and more, Missy has led thousands of sessions helping people live the lives they’ve always dreamed of. Her clients include wellness coaches, entrepreneurs, artists, Hollywood creatives and more.Main Topics Covered:Navigating midlife transitions—career burnout, empty nesting, and “the shoulds” of adulthoodHearing an intuitive message and unraveling lifelong patterns of people-pleasing and maskingThe role of meditation and self-inquiry in discovering one’s true pathOvercoming the fear of judgment from family and communityWhat energy healing really means—from a practical and scientific perspectiveUnderstanding synchronicity and following signs toward purposeful changeWorking with beliefs, intuition, and inherited energy to achieve breakthroughsThe challenges and gifts of coming out as an intuitive and healer after a conventional upbringingQuote from the Episode: "I think that we often ignore it’s like the little itch, that little thing. Because...the universe is always wanting us to expand and to grow. I mean, life is about growing and expanding. And if we’re not doing that, it will start small, like, hey, Missy, you know, check something else out...But if I’m not listening, if I’m not taking action, it’s going to get louder and it’s going to get louder." — Missy Toy OzeasTimestamps: [00:00:04] Welcoming Missy Toy Ozeas & where she calls home[00:00:46] The “shoulds” and the pressures of the holiday season[00:01:47] Hearing the voice: “You are a healer”[00:04:49] How intuition showed up—clairvoyance, not clairaudience[00:05:27] What life looked like before the shift—career in TV, motherhood[00:07:54] Childhood dreams & hiding parts of her identity[00:12:23] Growing up Chinese American in a white neighborhood; learning to mask[00:18:50] The impact of hearing the voice and what changed next[00:21:25] Synchronicities & finding her first energy healing teacher[00:22:50] What is an energy healer? Explaining energy fields, beliefs, and her work[00:27:19] Client stories about inherited beliefs and breakthroughs[00:28:01] The reaction from family, friends, and community[00:29:58] What Missy does today & ways to connect[00:31:55] Rapid fire: favorite food, moon colonies, and driving[00:33:59] ClosingSpecial Offer from the Guest:Unlocking Abundance - $190.  Unlocking Abundance is a self-paced program that helps you release hidden energetic blocks and rewire limiting beliefs so you can confidently attract more wealth, freedom, and joy into your life.  For your listeners I'm offering 50% off the price of the program.  (It will be $95 with the discount.) Use the code IMPERFECT at checkout.  Here is the direct link to the Unlocking Abundance sales page:  https://www.missyenergyhealing.com/UnlockingAbundanceNote from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer, please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Click here and pitch yourself. Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FMWebsite hosting with Siteground Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic For Email I recently switched to Beehiiv before that I used Kit. 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In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Texas-based Claudette Fette about raising her son Aaron through schizoaffective disorder, the complexities of finding proper support, and the painful realities of imperfect systems and desperate decisions. This frank, compassionate conversation explores multi-generational trauma, the struggle for diagnosis, and the human side of surviving—and learning from—the unexpected path of parenting a child with serious mental illness.About the Guest:Claudette Fette is an occupational therapist, university lecturer, and lived-experience mental health advocate based in North Texas. After decades spent navigating systems for her son Aaron, Claudette became committed to sharing their story and promoting evidence-based approaches in both family and school settings. She is co-author of "No Saints Here: A Cautionary Tale of Mental Health, Illness and the Cost of Ignorance in the Lone Star State," a memoir written with Aaron chronicling their struggles, lessons, and hope.Quote from the Episode:"Guilt is not as useful. So if it does something, if it helps motivate me to get Aaron's story out there and talk about things in public that I wouldn't otherwise want to have talked about, then it is useful. If it doesn't motivate something that helps, can you really afford it?" — Claudette FetteMain Topics Covered:Raising a child with schizoaffective disorder and multi-layered traumaHow lack of resources and inadequate systems lead families to extreme decisionsThe impact of early childhood adversity, school struggles, and misdiagnosisWhy behavioral approaches can be harmful when mistaken for mental illnessThe realities of abusive residential treatment programs and lost trustThe power of wraparound services, restorative justice, and strength-based modelsNavigating judgment, isolation, and the need for supportive family networksLessons for advocacy, compassion, and building mental health literacyTimestamps:[00:00:07] Welcome and Claudette’s home in North Texas[00:01:10] Holiday challenges for big families[00:02:07] Aaron’s story: early adversity, childhood hallucinations, and lack of parental readiness[00:06:01] Schizoaffective disorder diagnosis and unique challenges in school[00:16:31] Resource scarcity and "moving for specialized care"[00:17:20] Early behavioral challenges vs. underlying mental illness[00:25:04] Misdiagnosis and medical pathways: ADHD to acute residential care[00:31:51] Straight—abusive institutional “treatment” and the aftermath[00:35:16] Aaron living on the streets and “hopping trains”[00:41:23] Magical thinking: what would have helped[00:47:15] Isolation, judgment, and coping as a parent[00:50:49] Sharing Aaron and Claudette’s story through their book[00:58:35] Claudette’s personal life, entertainment, and ideal vacationSpecial Offer from the Guest:Claudette invites listeners to explore her and Aaron’s book, "No Saints Here," offering authentic, practical insight into family mental health. For podcast listeners, she extends an offer to connect and share resources, stories, and support. Order on Bookshop.org https://bookshop.org/a/87491/9781965766064Note from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadulting If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportIf you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Click here and pitch yourself. Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FMWebsite hosting with Siteground Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic For Email I recently switched to Beehiiv before that I used Kit. Online Shopping Cart: ThriveCartNetworking and support with Entreprenista LeagueConnection with Polka Dot PowerhouseBooks I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.orgGrab a $20 coupon for Nutrafol hereDo you need a bank account? Ally

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Chicago-based Valerie Friedlander about how intentional choices, including something as small as changing the music you listen to, can lead to major life shifts. Valerie opens up about her journey from family dynamics shaped by addiction, to her self-awareness breakthroughs in college, and her long-standing love affair with music as a tool for emotional processing and personal growth.About the Guest:Valerie Friedlander is a certified life coach, podcast host of Mindset Unlimited, and lifelong Chicagoan with deep roots in music, creativity, and self-development. Valerie is passionate about supporting women through life and career transitions, helping them unpack old patterns and create empowered, intentional lives. She offers coaching, workshops, and a powerful Energy Leadership Index assessment.Main Topics Covered:Valerie’s roots in Chicago and her family’s musical legacy.The ripple effect of growing up in a family impacted by addiction and recovery.Why music is both an emotional touchstone and a tool for moving through difficult feelings.Valerie’s “epiphany moment” realizing she could make different choices about the soundtrack of her life—and what that symbolized for bigger life changes.The importance of intentionality, pausing before responding, and recognizing where we do (and don’t) have agency.Navigating relationships, boundaries, and self-awareness from college through adulthood.Playlists, parenting, technology, and evolving ways to connect with others.The distinction between self-reflection for growth and unhelpful self-judgment about past choices.How Valerie brings these insights to her coaching practice.Quote from the Episode:“I can choose what I resonate with and what serves me... I can choose not to stay there. I can choose to do things that allow me more room in my experience.” — Valerie FriedlanderTimestamps: [00:00:06] Introductions, Chicago roots, and indigenous land acknowledgments[00:02:17] Valerie's love of celebrating with food and cake-making adventures[00:04:03] How music—and Amy Mann’s “Magnolia” soundtrack—became the soundtrack to a pivotal life shift[00:13:48] College, codependency, family recovery, and the toolbox of self-help[00:20:50] The power of self-awareness and talking it out loud[00:32:38] Navigating relationships with pause, consent, and intention[00:40:27] Curating music, playlists, and the power of intentional emotional shifts[00:44:27] Self-reflection, choices, and patterns across adulting[00:55:24] Valerie’s coaching philosophy and how to connect[00:57:38] Final fun questions: movement, research, and connection stylesSpecial Offer from the Guest:The Energy Leadership™ Index (ELI) Assessment. Normally $375. Use the code IMPERFECT for 60% off. https://valeriefriedlander.com/AdultingELINote from the show: Guest offers are almost always limited-time and limited quantity. If you have any trouble redeeming the offer please reach out directly to the guest for support. ABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Click here and pitch yourself. If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FMWebsite hosting with Siteground Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic For Email I recently switched to Beehiiv before that I used Kit. Online Shopping Cart: ThriveCartNetworking and support with Entreprenista LeagueConnection with Polka Dot PowerhouseBooks I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.orgGrab a $20 coupon for Nutrafol hereDo you need a bank account? Ally

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Connecticut based Karen C.L. Anderson about her decision to go “no contact” with a parent, the impact of childhood trauma and shame, and the path to healing and self-acceptance. Karen shares her own story of estrangement from her mother, breaking generational cycles, and creating a life rooted in intentional identity and boundaries.About the Guest:Karen C.L. Anderson is an author, coach, and sought-after voice in the field of mother-daughter relationships. Her latest book, You Are Not Your Mother, and her coaching practice help adult daughters and mothers understand and shift family patterns, recover from shame, and create healthier boundaries. Karen brings a blend of lived experience, deep empathy, and practical wisdom to the conversation.Main Topics Covered:The slow, complicated process of deciding to go no contact with a parentChildhood trauma, neglect, and learning about shameEstrangement, cultural expectations, and family “rules”The emotional aftermath and healing that unfolds after setting boundariesUnderstanding nervous system responses, enmeshment, and generational cyclesHow new frameworks—including coaching and intentional identity—can change your relationship with shameThe difference between reconciliation, boundaries, and acceptanceQuote from the Episode:“I was trying and trying and trying and also thinking, well, there must be something wrong with me that I can't seem to get along with my mom... And then, I remember getting an email from her that said that she was disappointed in the person that I'd become. And it was like a knife in the heart.” — Karen C.L. AndersonTimestamps:[00:00:10] Welcome, where Karen calls home, and unconventional ways of celebrating[00:01:27] Decision to cut off contact with her mom—process, context, and terminology[00:04:47] Family structure, siblings, and growing up in blended families[00:05:41] Parental loss and the compounding grief of estrangement[00:07:28] Painful turning point: “I never felt safe with my mom”[00:16:07] Substance abuse, neglect, and lack of support in childhood[00:19:32] Adult friendship/enmeshment, codependency, and nervous system responses[00:22:10] Recognizing shame—Brené Brown and the awakening to inner narratives[00:24:33] Modalities and self-development: what helped (and what didn’t)[00:29:50] Setting a boundary: the practicalities and emotional fallout of no contact[00:36:02] Long-term impact, breaking generational cycles, and finding contentment[00:38:18] Karen’s work helping adult daughters and/or mothers heal and set boundaries[00:41:09] Fun quick questions—morning routines, favorite books, and Italian iceKaren’s Book is on Amazon and Bookshop.orghttps://bookshop.org/a/87491/9781684812660https://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Not-Your-Mother/dp/1684812666Note from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadulting If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Click here and pitch yourself. Never Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportHere are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FMWebsite hosting with Siteground Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic For Email I recently switched to Beehiiv before that I used Kit. Online Shopping Cart: ThriveCartNetworking and support with Entreprenista LeagueConnection with Polka Dot PowerhouseBooks I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.orgGrab a $20 coupon for Nutrafol hereDo you need a bank account? Ally

In this episode of The Art of Imperfect Adulting, Amy Stone speaks with Emily Guerra. Emily is a Los Angeles native, productivity coach, and founder of The Productivity Flow. The conversation is about navigating unexpected career upheaval, redefining family support systems, and finding mindful balance amid major life transitions. Emily shares her journey from collegiate event planner with a clear path, to a pandemic-induced detour that led her to entrepreneurship and personal growth. Through candid stories about living with ADHD, family dynamics, and pivoting careers, Emily offers hope, perspective, and practical advice for anyone facing life’s curveballs.About the Guest:Emily Guerra is a lifelong Angeleno and founder of The Productivity Flow. With a background in event planning, a passion for systems and mindfulness, and lived experience managing ADHD, Emily now helps individuals and entrepreneurs design balanced, sustainable, and productive lives—especially in the new era of hybrid and work-from-home routines.Main Topics Covered:Navigating the sudden loss of a planned career due to the pandemicRe-examining family support systems and expectations as a young adultTransitioning from event planning to launching a freelance business during lockdownThe interplay between ADHD, systems creation, and productivityBuilding resilience, gratitude, and self-advocacy through therapy and coachingHow the new work-from-home paradigm demands rethinking productivity and boundariesImportance of strong peer, family, and community support networks in young adulthoodQuote from the Episode:"I need to take back control of my life. Like, this is ridiculous. I've really given all of my power away. I am placing blame on everyone but myself. And I need to take some accountability and, like, actually get my act together and see what I am able to do." — Emily GuerraTimestamps:[00:00:04] Emily’s LA roots, pandemic career plans, and rituals for transitioning from work to downtime[00:04:41] Event planning background, childhood influences, and love for systems[00:10:54] How COVID changed her graduation, forced moves, and revealed family realities[00:16:19] Emotional impact of losing parental safety nets and therapy breakthroughs[00:23:08] Reclaiming agency: from stuck to entrepreneurial action[00:26:10] Navigating support, FOMO, and digital community during lockdown[00:29:20] Launching a social media freelance business—and shifting to productivity coaching[00:34:23] The through-line of systems and work-life balance[00:38:05] Revisiting event planning and choosing self-employment[00:40:11] Why old productivity advice doesn’t work in the work-from-home era[00:42:12] Emily’s current offerings, community, and special session for listeners[00:43:41] Final fun questions: LA weather, Justin Bieber, and event planner etiquetteABOUT THE SHOW: The Art of Imperfect Adulting elevates the voices of experience by sharing real stories from real people figuring out adult life. Every episode features honest conversations about life's choices, changes, and challenges—interviews with individuals (not celebrities) who share their personal experiences and insights. Through these authentic stories, listeners find validation, motivation, and inspiration for navigating their own path through modern life. Because there's a big difference between expert advice and shared experience, and hearing another person's lived experience helps us feel less alone in our own situations.Special Offer from the Guest:A Product: Productivity Alignment Session. We'll uncover what's keeping you stuck and reveal the next best step to take towards your most balanced and productive self.Value: $150 Audience Special offer: FREEFill out this survey and book your call: https://download.theproductivityflow.com/free-productivity-alignment-session-surveyNote from the show: Guest offers are often limited-time and limited quantity. If you have an issue redeeming the guest offer please reach out to the guest or vendor directly.Join the conversation on social. Find the Art of Imperfect Adulting on Instagram @theartof_imperfect_adulting YouTube @imperfectadulting and TikTok @imperfectadulting If you have a story to share and you'd like to be a guest on The Art of Imperfect Adulting, here are the steps for how you can make that happen. Click here and pitch yourself. If you love the show and you'd like to support it directly you can tip the host here https://imperfect-adulting.captivate.fm/supportNever Miss a Moment of Imperfect AdultingWe invite you to join our email community and let us bring the podcast directly to you! As a subscriber, you'll receive notifications about new episodes, exclusive offers from our amazing guests, and easier access to any of the important links mentioned on the show—no more scrambling to write down websites or remember special codes.Why subscribe?Stay up-to-date without checking your podcast appGet guest offers delivered straight to your inboxAccess all important links in one convenient placeCatch the highlights even when you don't have time to listenAre you ready? Join us at https://www.imperfectadulting.com Here are a few resources that Amy uses to make all this great content. These are affiliate links :-)Podcast hosting and distribution: Captivate FMWebsite hosting with Siteground Ai Transcription Tool: Castmagic For Email I recently switched to Beehiiv before that I used Kit. Online Shopping Cart: ThriveCartNetworking and support with Entreprenista LeagueConnection with Polka Dot PowerhouseBooks I like and books written by show guests on Bookshop.orgGrab a $20 coupon for Nutrafol hereDo you need a bank account? Ally