Your Daily Dose of Hope

This is for the today version of you and me too.  Not future you or future me. Not the version of you that has it all figured out, hits every goal, and never forgets to reply to emails. This is for right now you. Exactly as you are, in whatever state you've arrived in today. Let’s chat about self-compassion, which, fair warning, is the thing that sounds like a luxury but is actually a survival skill. Somewhere along the way, self-compassion, self-love somehow has come to mean a spa day which I like as much as anyone. The more I learn about these 2 concepts, the more I realize that a spa day is self-care, which is also important but not the same thing. At all.  Research by psychologist Dr. Kristin Neff shows that people who practice self-compassion are more resilient, less anxious, and this might surprise you, more motivated. Not less. More. Because when you're not spending all your energy beating yourself up, you actually have energy left over to try again. But here's the thing most of us were never taught: self-compassion isn't letting yourself off the hook. It's treating yourself the way you'd treat a friend who was struggling. With patience. With honesty, yes, but also with warmth. So let me ask you something. If your best friend came to you and said, "I'm exhausted, I feel like I'm falling short everywhere, I don't think I'm doing enough" what would you say to them? Whatever you just thought of? That's what I want you to say to yourself today. You are not a machine. You are a person full of contradictions and trying your best and that is genuinely, truly enough. Give yourself a little grace today. Not because you've earned it. Because you need it. And because you are worth it.  I believe that about you, even on the days you don't. Self-compassion is recognizing that imperfection doesn’t mean failure, it means you’re human and you’re trying and that’s all any of us can do.

Today I want to make a case for something that might seem small but I think is actually one of the most powerful things we can do. And it’s something we get to choose and decide, and it’s we can do anytime anywhere.  Acts of Kindness. I know we’ve all been told, since we were toddlers playing with our siblings or friends, to be kind. It's on coffee mugs and bumper stickers and the walls of elementary school hallways. But stick with me for a second, because what can feel like good manners or being a genuinely good human, which is a good thing of course, isn’t the only thing that’s going on.  Acts of kindness, even tiny ones, have measurable effects on both the giver and the receiver. When you do something kind, your brain releases serotonin and oxytocin. Feel good chemicals. You feel better. And here's the wild part: so does the recipient of your kindness and get this, anyone who witnesses it gets the same impact as well!  Just seeing an act of kindness makes us feel better. Now I know why all those videos of animals helping other animals or people helping a stranger are so popular.  Kindness is literally contagious. But beyond science, here's what I love about kindness: it's always available to you. No matter what's happening. No matter how much money you have, how tired you feel, or how hard your week has been you can always choose to practice kindness, wherever you are. You can hold the door or let someone get in front of you in heavy traffic, or let someone know you’re thinking about them in a text.   These things matter more than we know. We don't always get to see the ripple effects. But they're real. So today, just once, intentionally, I’m going to do something kind for someone. Will you join me? It doesn't have to be grand. It just has to be genuine. Go out there and make someone's day. Starting with your own.

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