Who would you be if society never got its hands on you? In this expansive conversation, writer, actor, and host of the hilarious podcast Tell Me Something Messy Brandon Kyle Goodman joins Foster and Cesar to discuss ‘disruptive curiosity’, destigmatizing sex, and choosing to be child-free in a society that expects parenthood. Brandon opens up about their new journey on Lexapro, the healing power of talking openly about sex while working on Big Mouth, and the profound decision to not have children despite years of assuming they would. Brandon is both hilarious and wise, as they break down how to live authentically, build community, and break generational cycles by asking the questions no one else wants you to ask, like… aren’t all sports super gay?? In this episode they explore: Why Brandon tried on heels to discover what was truly theirs vs. what was inheritedThe moment Brandon realized: "I don't want kids" (and how that broke a generational cycle)The difference between wanting to have kids and wanting to be a parentWhy raising a mixed-race child as a gay couple required questions they couldn't answerBrandon Kyle Goodman: Listen to their podcast Tell Me Something MessySubscribe to their SubstackIG: @brandonkylegoodmanAlso mentioned: Pamela Samuelson’s Sex Ed class for tweens/teens & Take Back The Speculum: EMBODYWORKIf this episode spoke to you, you will love From Homeless to The Oscars: Dedrick Bonner on Resilience. You can also watch the episodes on YouTube.If you enjoyed this episode, take a moment to follow Beauty in the Break on your favorite podcast app and leave a review. It really helps!Reach out to the show! Send an email or voice note to [email protected] and be sure to follow on Instagram and TikTok. Cesar Cardona:Receive his newsletter Insights That MatterGet guided meditation from Cesar on his website Listen to music from Cesar + The Clew on Apple Music and SpotifyFoster Wilson:Buy her poetry book Afternoon AbundanceLearn about her postpartum servicesReceive her newsletter Foster’s VillageCreated & Hosted by: Cesar Cardona and Foster WilsonExecutive Producer: Glenn MilleyEditor: Bessie Fong Special Guest: Brandon Kyle GoodmanThis episode is brought to you by Arlene Thornton & AssociatesSend us Fan Mail