Parul Somani was 31 years old, holding her one-week-old newborn, when her phone rang. It was her breast surgeon. On a Saturday. She knew it wasn't good news. What followed — cancer treatment, chemotherapy, a layoff she never saw coming, and a years-long search for work that actually meant something — would have broken most people. Instead, it rebuilt her. In this episode, Parul tells Maryam about growing up with immigrant parents who kept their struggles private; following the prestige path all the way to MIT, Harvard, and Bain; and what it finally took to stop optimizing her life and start actually living it. This one is raw, real, and deeply human. Key Moments00:31 - Two Crises at Once 🏥 At 31, Parul gives birth, her baby lands in the NICU, and a breast cancer diagnosis follows days later.04:06 - Her Mother's Secret 🤫 Growing up, Parul watched her mom hide a breast cancer diagnosis behind closed curtains and a wig.06:25 - The Call That Changed Everything 📞 A breast surgeon calls on a Saturday with news that multiple doctors had dismissed for months.08:42 - When Advocacy Saves a Life 🔬 How Parul's husband's own family history of cancer drove them to push past doctors who said "don't worry."10:49 - Grounded Hope 🌱 Why blind optimism isn't enough — and the research-backed mindset that helped Parul survive.14:51 - The Prestige Trap 🎓 MIT, Harvard, Bain — Parul traces the high-achievement path she followed before cancer forced her to question it.21:24 - When Purpose Finds You 🎯 Parul discovers a genetics startup that feels like her exact life story — and lands squarely in her Ikigai.23:03 - Blindsided by a Layoff 😳 Parul walks into a meeting with HR and legal — and somehow still doesn't see it coming.27:43 - After the Cry in the Car 🚗 Practical advice for what to actually do after a layoff, from someone who's been there.33:23 - The Messy Path to Purpose 📖 Five years of book rejections, a speaking career derailed by COVID, and why "the learning is in the mess."Send us Fan MailEmail us: [email protected] stay up to date with The Messy Parts and get all the behind-the-scenes content, follow us on Instagram, LinkedIn, YouTube.If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a rating and review on Apple or Spotify or where ever you get your podcasts.Thank you for listening.