Tell Me What It's Like

In the Season 2 finale, military spouse Kandi Hart joins the show to discuss what she's learned about building community after decades of moves. She and Stacy talk about what it takes to thrive in every new place, including the mindset you need, the tactics that can work, and how sometimes community starts with just one person."I will immediately walk up to somebody, and I will ask them about themselves. I'll say, 'Tell me about your family.'"Hear Kandi talk about:Why Twentynine Palms — a base most people dread — became a place her whole family asked to go back toThe party mistake that humbled her and changed how she thinks about inclusivityHow she went from a shy kindergartner who cried every morning to the first person to grab the microphone in any roomWhy she thinks showing up at someone's door still matters more than any Facebook groupHow to build your community when you're not in a military bubbleMentioned in this episode:Twentynine Palms, CaliforniaSupport This Show:Follow Tell Me What It’s Like in your favorite podcast appLeave a rating & review — it helps others find the showShare the episode and tag @RaineMediaCo on social media

Charles Grimes has spent nearly 30 years as a business psychologist, helping leaders understand themselves so they could lead others well. But he’s also been trying to understand himself, with therapy, courses, and numerous self-assessment tools. But it wasn't until he was 65 — when a friend made a casual, throwaway comment — that the missing piece finally clicked into place. He had Asperger's. The diagnosis didn't feel like bad news. It felt like freedom."It's okay to be Charles. And that's something which I hadn't felt. And I'm 65. This is very late in life to suddenly feel it's okay to be me."Hear Charles talk about:What his friend said that set the whole thing in motion and why he didn't dismiss itWhat "masking" is, and the exhausting work of hiding in plain sight for decadesThe conductor who walked into rehearsal and transformed a mediocre choir without saying a word - and what this has to do with leadershipWhat fell into place when he looked back at his life through the new lens of his diagnosisLearning about love and connection later in life — and why he thinks it's never too lateMentioned in this episode:A Question of Leadership by Charles GrimesThe National Autistic Society — where Charles went for his formal assessmentSupport This Show:Follow Tell Me What It’s Like in your favorite podcast appLeave a rating & review — it helps others find the showShare the episode and tag @RaineMediaCo on social mediaMentioned in this episode:Help Others Discover the ShowEnjoying Tell Me What It’s Like? Leaving a rating and review in your podcast app helps more listeners discover the show. Thanks for supporting thoughtful conversations and perspective-driven storytelling.

When soccer coach Scott Martin contracted a rare illness that took his hands and parts of his feet, it took the way he coached the game as well as his confidence. What followed was years of depression, discrimination, and self-doubt, until he finally found his way back to the game that he loves."I was faking it. I was doing a pretty darn good job of faking me being me. But everyone else avoided it too. We never talked about it."Hear Scott talk about:What it was like to wake up from a month-long coma and learn what had happened to his bodyWhy he skipped past the emotional reality of his illness and what that cost himThe discrimination he faced trying to return to coachingWhat it was like to address his disability with his new team of 12-year-oldsHow he rebuilt his confidence, and what playing from the heart really meansMentioned in this episode:Play From Your Heart by Scott MartinThe Five Stages of Grief by Elisabeth Kübler-RossSupport This Show:Follow Tell Me What It’s Like in your favorite podcast appLeave a rating & review — it helps others find the showShare the episode and tag @RaineMediaCo on social mediaMentioned in this episode:Help Others Discover the ShowEnjoying Tell Me What It’s Like? Leaving a rating and review in your podcast app helps more listeners discover the show. Thanks for supporting thoughtful conversations and perspective-driven storytelling.

Dr. Yemi Famuyiwa knew she wanted to be a doctor long before she knew what kind. It was during her third-year rotations at Emory that the answer became obvious. She'd had “a roaring blast” in her OBGYN rotation and couldn't imagine anything else. She went on to specialize in reproductive endocrinology and infertility, and has spent decades helping people navigate one of the most emotional experiences a person or couple can face. In this episode, she talks about what she's noticed inside that world — the science, the cultural pressures that leave women suffering in silence, and the grief that has no name.Nullam id diam metus. Interdum et malesuada fames ac ante ipsum primis in faucibus. Nullam interdum est erat, rutrum tristique ipsum cursus a." I hope I never get over it. It's just such a magical moment."Hear Dr. Famuyiwa talk about:What it was like to guide her first baby into the world and how she hopes she never gets over itThe cultural pressure on women in paternalistic societies to conceive, and what can happen when they can'tWhy men suffer in silence too, and how infertility can challenge a marriageAmbiguous loss: the grief that never ends and has no body to weep overWhy infertility is rising worldwide — and why delaying childbearing is only part of the storyWhat she wishes people understood about their own biology before it's too lateMentioned in this episode:The Quest for Fertility by Dr. Yemi FamuyiwaDr. Nanette Wenger, cardiologist at Emory, who influenced her during medical schoolGrady Memorial Hospital, AtlantaEmory University School of MedicineSupport This Show:Follow Tell Me What It’s Like in your favorite podcast appLeave a rating & review — it helps others find the showShare the episode and tag @RaineMediaCo on social mediaMentioned in this episode:Help Others Discover the ShowEnjoying Tell Me What It’s Like? Leaving a rating and review in your podcast app helps more listeners discover the show. Thanks for supporting thoughtful conversations and perspective-driven storytelling.

In 2012, Chelsea Coulston had just moved to a new house in a new city with a newborn while her husband was deployed. She turned her focus to decorating her new rental home, and turned to the internet for help. But she wasn’t finding much to inspire her, since most of what existed was meant for people who could make permanent changes. So she started a blog called Making Home Base to share renter-friendly decorating ideas for military families. What followed was a 13-year front-row seat to how the internet went from a wholesome, free exchange of ideas to a massively profitable influencer industry — and why she ultimately walked away." I think we're to this place where social media doesn't feel good. The content that we see doesn't feel real or authentic a lot of times. "Hear Chelsea talk about:How home bloggers were among the first to use Instagram — not to sell, but to send people back to their sitesHow the money worked: sidebar ads to Google AdSense to brand deals to sponsored posts, and what that means for authenticityWhy Chelsea calls the creator economy the Wild West, and what it actually takes to keep upWhy everyone with a following is an influencer now and why that comes with responsibilityWhat made her walk away, and why she'd reset the whole thing to the early blogging days if she couldMentioned in this episode:Making Home Base — Chelsea's blogMaking Home Base on InstagramBrick— an app designed to help people limit their time on social mediaSupport This Show:Follow Tell Me What It’s Like in your favorite podcast appLeave a rating & review — it helps others find the showShare the episode and tag @RaineMediaCo on social mediaMentioned in this episode:Help Others Discover the ShowEnjoying Tell Me What It’s Like? Leaving a rating and review in your podcast app helps more listeners discover the show. Thanks for supporting thoughtful conversations and perspective-driven storytelling.