The Mother Wound Project
The Mother Wound Project

The Mother Wound Project

Tandi Hartle

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Break the Cycle. Reclaim Your Voice. Heal for Good.Welcome to The Mother Wound Project, the podcast for daughters of emotionally immature, narcissistic, or unavailable mothers who are ready to stop playing small and start living life on their own terms.Hosted by trauma-informed hypnotherapist and spiritual coach Tandi Hartle, this show dives deep into the hidden wounds, generational patterns, and emotional scars left by dysfunctional mother-daughter relationships, and gives you real, soul-level tools to heal them.Each episode offers powerful insights, raw personal stories, and practical strategies to help you:Recognize the signs of the mother woundBreak free from guilt, perfectionism, and self-abandonmentRewire your subconscious beliefsReclaim your self-worth, voice, and divine feminine powerWhether you're deep in your healing journey or just realizing how your mother’s behavior shaped your identity, this podcast will validate your experience, empower your healing, and guide you back to the woman you were always meant to be.It’s time to stop shrinking yourself for someone who never saw you. New episodes drop weekly.Follow now and start healing.

Recent Episodes

Low Self-Worth: How Your Mom’s Voice Became Your Inner Critic
MAR 11, 2026
Low Self-Worth: How Your Mom’s Voice Became Your Inner Critic
<p>Many women struggle with <strong>low self-worth, overthinking, people-pleasing, and constant self-doubt</strong>, but few realize where that inner voice actually came from.</p><p>What if the voice telling you you’re too sensitive… too much… or not enough… <strong>isn’t even yours?</strong></p><p>In this episode, we unpack how <strong>a mother’s emotional patterns become the inner critic many women carry into adulthood</strong>. Whether your mother was emotionally dismissive, subtly competitive, or openly critical, the messages you absorbed as a child can shape your identity, confidence, and nervous system responses for decades.</p><p>You’ll learn how children internalize beliefs about their worth through parental reflection, why many women unknowingly carry <strong>borrowed beliefs about themselves</strong>, and how these patterns show up in adulthood through rumination, anxiety, perfectionism, and difficulty setting boundaries. Different behaviors. Same result: <strong>an internalized voice that questions your worth and keeps you playing small.</strong></p><p>If you’ve ever found yourself replaying conversations for hours, apologizing for your needs, second-guessing decisions, or feeling guilty for simply existing, this episode will help you understand <strong>why those patterns formed and how to begin separating your identity from that inherited voice.</strong></p><p><strong>Inside this episode you’ll discover:</strong></p><p>• Why low self-worth is often learned, not inherent • How children internalize criticism as identity • The psychology behind “borrowed beliefs” • Why your inner critic feels protective but keeps you stuck • Three practical tools to begin rewiring the pattern</p><p>This conversation is for women who want to stop living under the voice that trained them to doubt themselves and start <strong>reclaiming their confidence, boundaries, and sense of worth.</strong></p><p></p><p><strong>Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You:</strong></p><p>🎁 <strong>FREE Gift: The Overthinking Offswitch Hypnotherapy Audio</strong> If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/overthinking-offswitch-hypnotherapy-session"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p><strong>Book a FREE Discovery Call</strong> If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/book-a-11-discovery-call-4f9yq8n2"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p><strong>Join the Unmothered Rising Collective</strong> A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/for-the-woman-who-raised-herself-"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p><strong>Work With Me 1:1</strong> Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://bookings.themotherwoundproject.com/"><strong>Schedule Your Session Here</strong></a></p>
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Why You’re Always the Villain: The Blame Cycle in Narcissistic & Emotionally Immature Families
MAR 4, 2026
Why You’re Always the Villain: The Blame Cycle in Narcissistic & Emotionally Immature Families
<p>If you always end up the villain in your family, this episode is going to hit home.</p><p>No matter how calm you are. No matter how carefully you explain. No matter how much you try to “do it right.”</p><p>You somehow become the problem.</p><p><strong>In this episode, we break down:</strong></p><p>• The psychological blame cycle in emotionally immature families</p><p>• Why scapegoat daughters are conditioned to carry responsibility for everyone’s emotions</p><p>• How gaslighting and guilt conditioning keep you stuck in overthinking</p><p>• Why insight alone doesn’t stop the replay loop</p><p>• What actually disrupts the nervous system pattern underneath it</p><p>If you grew up managing your mother’s emotions, walking on eggshells, or constantly defending yourself, this isn’t random.</p><p>It’s conditioning.</p><p>And it can be rewired.</p><p><strong>Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You:</strong></p><p>🎁 <strong>FREE Gift: The Overthinking Off switch Hypnotherapy Audio</strong> If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/overthinking-offswitch-hypnotherapy-session"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p>👉<strong>Book a FREE Discovery Call</strong> If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/book-a-11-discovery-call-4f9yq8n2"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p>👉<strong>Join the Unmothered Rising Collective</strong> A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/for-the-woman-who-raised-herself-"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p>👉<strong>Work With Me 1:1</strong> Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://bookings.themotherwoundproject.com/"><strong>Schedule Your Session Here</strong></a></p><p>👉 Come say hi on Instagram: <strong>@themotherwound.project</strong></p><p></p>
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Breaking Free From “Respect Your Mother” Conditioning | Mother Wound Healing, Boundaries, and Emotional Sovereignty
FEB 25, 2026
Breaking Free From “Respect Your Mother” Conditioning | Mother Wound Healing, Boundaries, and Emotional Sovereignty
<p>When people say <em>“respect your mother,”</em> what they often mean is: stay quiet, don’t question her, don’t have needs.</p><p>In this episode of <strong>The Mother Wound Project Podcast</strong>, we unpack the deeply ingrained conditioning that equates obedience with respect — and why so many women feel crushing guilt when they try to set boundaries with emotionally immature or narcissistic mothers.</p><p>If you struggle with:</p><ul><li>Feeling selfish for having needs</li><li>Over-explaining simple boundaries</li><li>Guilt after limiting contact</li><li>Being labeled “ungrateful” or “disrespectful”</li><li>Freezing when family pressure hits</li></ul><p>This episode will help you separate <em>family role</em> from <em>actual relationship</em> and understand why your nervous system still reacts like you’re in trouble.</p><p>We break down:</p><ul><li>The generational contract that prioritized adults over children</li><li>The difference between respect and obedience</li><li>Why “kids are resilient” is often a way to avoid accountability</li><li>What it really means when distance triggers outrage</li><li>How to adjust access instead of questioning your worth</li></ul><p>Because a role is not a relationship. And respect does not mean unlimited access.</p><p><strong>Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You:</strong></p><p>🎁 <strong>FREE Gift: The Overthinking Off switch Hypnotherapy Audio</strong> If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/overthinking-offswitch-hypnotherapy-session"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p>👉<strong>Book a FREE Discovery Call</strong> If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/book-a-11-discovery-call-4f9yq8n2"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p>👉<strong>Join the Unmothered Rising Collective</strong> A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/for-the-woman-who-raised-herself-"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p>👉<strong>Work With Me 1:1</strong> Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://bookings.themotherwoundproject.com/"><strong>Schedule Your Session Here</strong></a></p><p>👉 Come say hi on Instagram: <strong>@themotherwound.project</strong></p><p>You’re not breaking the family. You’re breaking the pattern.</p><p>And that changes everything.</p>
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43 MIN
Why Every Conversation With Your Mom Feels Like a Trap (And How to Stop Getting Pulled In
FEB 18, 2026
Why Every Conversation With Your Mom Feels Like a Trap (And How to Stop Getting Pulled In
<p>Ever hang up the phone after talking to your mom and think… <em>what just happened to me?</em> You went in calm. You knew what you wanted to say. And somehow you're the one apologizing, doubting yourself, and replaying the conversation at 2am.</p><p>In this episode, I break down why conversations with emotionally immature mothers feel like traps, not because you're saying the wrong thing, but because you're stepping into a system that was never designed for mutual understanding.</p><p><strong>You'll learn:</strong></p><p>• The 4 most common conversational "trap" dynamics (moving goalposts, emotional courtroom, gotcha questions, rewriting history)</p><p>• Why you freeze, fawn, or over-explain, even when you promised yourself you wouldn't</p><p>• Her 5 most common "trap moves" and one-line responses for each</p><p>• The difference between a relationship and a role, and how to tell which one you're in</p><p>• A quick self-check to use after every interaction</p><p>Plus, I share practical tools to stop getting pulled into the old patterns, so you can finally protect your peace without the guilt hangover.</p><p><strong>Ready to Go Deeper? Here Are a Few Ways I Can Support You:</strong></p><p>🎁 <strong>FREE Gift: The Overthinking Off switch Hypnotherapy Audio</strong> If your mind replays conversations, overanalyzes everything, and won’t shut off at night, this short hypnosis session helps your nervous system stand down so your mind can finally rest. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/overthinking-offswitch-hypnotherapy-session"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p>👉<strong>Book a FREE Discovery Call</strong> If you’re curious about coaching or hypnotherapy but want to talk first, this call is a chance to share your story, get insight into what’s happening beneath the patterns, and see if working together is the right fit. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/book-a-11-discovery-call-4f9yq8n2"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p>👉<strong>Join the Unmothered Rising Collective</strong> A powerful inner circle for women who are done shrinking, done over-explaining, and ready to heal in community with others who truly understand the experience of growing up emotionally unsupported. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://stan.store/The-Mother-Wound-Project/p/for-the-woman-who-raised-herself-"><strong>Click Here</strong></a></p><p>👉<strong>Work With Me 1:1</strong> Private coaching and hypnotherapy sessions designed to help you break subconscious patterns, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop carrying emotional dynamics that were never yours to hold. <a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://bookings.themotherwoundproject.com/"><strong>Schedule Your Session Here</strong></a></p><p>👉 Come say hi on Instagram: <strong>@themotherwound.project</strong></p><p></p><p>If every conversation with your mom leaves you feeling smaller than when you started, you're not difficult, you're waking up. And you're allowed to choose peace.</p>
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38 MIN