Happy Slut

Alex is a straight Black man in his mid-forties who has only had one relationship in his entire life. For years, loneliness, rejection, and crushing social anxiety convinced him that women were the problem, and he reinvented himself as a huge jerk for most of his adult life. Deep down, though, he was carrying wounds much older and deeper than he realized.In this brutally honest conversation, we talk about sex work, incel culture, entitlement, masculinity, loneliness, and the long road from resentment to self-awareness. It's one of the most nuanced conversations I've ever had about the emotional lives of lonely men—and what it actually takes to heal.In this episode:The question at the heart of male loneliness: "What's wrong with me?"How rejection turned into resentmentWhat it's like to spend decades searching for love without finding itHow sex can meet a basic need but can't fill an emotional voidWhy he thought women were the problemThe panic attacks that still happen when he approaches a womanMy controversial theory about what lonely men actually needA dating strategy that takes the pressure off everyoneSUPPORT THE SHOW!Subscribe to My Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & http://www.instagram.com/happyslutcastTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcastShare this episode with that lonely guy you know. He might really need to hear it.xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closetedGet a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

It's my goal to get as many of my comet lovers (and anchor lovers!) on the show as possible, and Billy Procida, Jr., is the first! Huzzah! I have such a crush. Billy is a comedian, writer, and podcaster out of New York City. He's been producing weekly episodes of the Manwhore Podcast for 12 years now, and his Naked Comedy Show - which is exactly what it sounds like - sells out every month in Brooklyn and is now expanding to Philadelphia, Los Angeles, and Chicago. He's been featured in the New York Times and writes about sex, dating, and gender for Mashable.I like Billy because he sounds like straight bro comedians like Joe Rogan could sound like if they weren't so deeply misogynistic.In this episode, we discuss:Billy's post-breakup happy slut era! Yay!Why casual doesn't have to mean carelessHow to flirt with women without being weirdThe surprising secret to getting laid moreNon-monogamy, comet lovers, and relationship freedomWhy nonsexualized nudity is important for sex positivitySex parties, gangbang etiquette, and consent-oriented communication that actually worksHow to be emotionally available without rushing into commitmentSUPPORT BILLY:Billy's Website: www.manwhorepod.comSubscribe to the Manwhore Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-manwhore-podcast-sex-positive-conversations/id864068000Billy on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/billyprocidajr/Billy on Threads: https://www.threads.com/@billyprocidajrNaked Comedy Show NYC (June 25): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1989846095236Naked Comedy Show Chicago (July 10): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1989444027641Hear Me Overshare on the Manwhore Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/can-you-switch-from-polyamory-to-monogamy/id864068000?i=1000753133897SUPPORT THE SHOW!Subscribe to My Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & http://www.instagram.com/happyslutcastTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcastYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcastShare this episode with a friend, a lover, or somebody who's trying to figure out the difference between casual and careless. Mrow!xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

I'm bringing you a delicious glimpse into my current sex and love life this week, pinecones, and it is JUICY. Basically, a woman my partner Daniel and I met at a sex party flew across the country to spend intimate time with us and IT. WAS. MAGICAL. And unexpectedly healing.In this episode:• Why I think great sex can be profoundly healing• How being deeply desired is changing my relationship with my body• The connection between body image and sexuality• What happens when attraction, safety, and chemistry all align• Why our real attractions often have very little to do with conventional beauty standards• The surprising creative benefits of a thriving sex life• The difference between being chosen and being truly seen• Why I don't believe one person can be everything for their partner• What compersion feels like in real life• How sexual freedom became a superpowerListen to my interview on the Manwhore Podcast with Billy Procida for additional context:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/can-you-switch-from-polyamory-to-monogamy/id864068000?i=1000753133897SUPPORT THE SHOW!If you're enjoying Happy Slut, please subscribe, rate, review, and share the show with a friend. Word of mouth is still the best way for new listeners to find us. I appreciate your shares so much!For my most personal writing—and all the juicy details that didn't make it into this episode—become a paid subscriber on Substack:https://samiamounts.substack.comFollow Samia:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/Follow Happy Slut:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcastEmail: [email protected] you next week, pinecones!xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

Content warning: Mentions of sexual assault and child sexual abuse.We live within a system that allows sexual abuse of all kinds to flourish without much accountability, and because of that, a lot of us carry deep trauma around sex and intimacy. Rachel (Rae) Halder is one of those people, and she's also a certified trauma resolution and erotic embodiment coach with over a decade of experience helping others heal the same wounds she's been working to heal within herself.This episode deals with some heavy themes, buuuut we also talk about the Italian hippie who worshipped Rae like a sun goddess...so it's not all doom and gloom. Hehe! This is Happy Slut, after all!In this episode:Rae's journey from childhood sexual abuse survivor to trauma resolution and erotic embodiment coachRecovering a repressed memory years after the abuse occurredWhy our nervous systems dissociate, freeze, and fawn during sexHow unprocessed trauma gets stored in the bodyThe devastating gray area of consensual encounters that become traumatic experiencesWhy some people intellectually want sex while their bodies experience it as unsafeThe surprising ways trauma can masquerade as asexualityGrowing up Mennonite and questioning patriarchal ideas about God, gender, and sexualityStarting a groundbreaking blog about sexual violence before the #MeToo movementThe Italian hippie who accidentally sparked Rae's sexual awakeningGoddess worship, tantra, and discovering what truly safe erotic connection feels likeChronic illness, interstitial cystitis, and the connection between trauma and the bodyWhy agency, autonomy, and choice are essential ingredients for healingThe difference between wanting sex and feeling safe enough to receive pleasureHow survivors can reclaim their sexuality without forcing themselves past their body's limitsWhat "erotic safety" actually meansWhy healing often happens more slowly—and more gently—than we want it toFOLLOW RAE HALDER:Website: https://www.raehalder.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachel.rae.halderReal Sex Substack: https://realsex.substack.com/FOLLOW SAMIA & HAPPY SLUT:Samia's Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/Happy Slut on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/Happy Slut on TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcastSUPPORT THE SHOW:Become a paying Substack subscriber: https://samiamounts.substack.comVenmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-MountsCashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMountsEmail me your thoughts or pitches at [email protected]. I read every email!Thank you, pinecones! See ya next week.xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted

Ali Bravo is a professional orgy organizer, a sex positive educator, a kinky leather artist, and a powerhouse force for destigmatizing kink, pleasure, and desire. When I met her in person a couple of weeks ago at Dixie De La Tour's Birthday Forgy (Friend Orgy), she was freshly resourced from her pre-party kink scene with one of her partners, a man who goes by the moniker Pleasure Wizard (and apparently REALLY lives up to that name!), and she was leading a group of 75 excited attendees through a consent and STI disclosure demo, capping it off with a proud announcement of her own positive herpes status. WHAT. A. BOSS.In this episode:What it actually takes to organize a 75-person orgyWhy Ali uses kinky “pre-care” scenes as a leadership tool before big eventsGrowing up fat, horny, and desperate for validationThe heartbreaking origins of Ali’s pleasure journeyDiscovering orgasm, restraint, and kink later in lifeWhy so many women struggle to stay connected to their bodies during sexHow patriarchy disconnects us from pleasureSTI disclosure, herpes stigma, and why “all the hotties have herpes”The hilariously absurd logistics of glory holes, Grope-a-Clown boxes, pussy pageants and cockstume contestsWhy whimsy, play, and crafts belong at sex partiesAli’s philosophy on polyamory, metamours, and “aurora partnerships”The difference between “platonic erotic” and “erotic platonic” relationshipsWhy getting railed is, apparently, a public health necessityBuilding chosen family through kink and sex-positive communityWhy everything you desire might actually be on the other side of fearREAD ALI's COMPREHENSIVE STI DISCLOSURE ARTICLE:https://momotaroapotheca.com/blogs/vaginal-wellness/talking-about-stis-how-to-have-clear-amp-caring-conversations-about-sexual-health?srsltid=AfmBOopWdLDADnQIP53Y-kY3VIm3_wZuU3z4BICMcfa2c6Fqp6lVOMAEFOLLOW ALI BRAVO:Ali's Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raptorbravo/Ali's Leather Working Instragram: https://www.instagram.com/raptrix/FOLLOW SAMIA & HAPPY SLUT:Samia's Personal Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/Happy Slut on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/Happy Slut on TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happyslutcastSUPPORT THE SHOW:Become a paying Substack subscriber: https://samiamounts.substack.comVenmo Samia: @Samia-Mounts / https://account.venmo.com/u/Samia-MountsCashApp Samia: $SamiaMounts / https://cash.app/$SamiaMountsEmail me your thoughts or pitches at [email protected]. I read every email!Thank you, pinecones! See ya next week.xoxo,SamiaMentioned in this episode:Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products!Use code CLOSETED at check-out.Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted