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Abortion is good for sex. I SAID IT, pinecones. I’m proudly pro-abortion for lots of reasons, but one of them is that without abortion access, consenting to sex can mean consenting to pregnancy…and y’all, that can really, really ruin sex. And then there are all the other, bigger reasons: women being able to control their own bodies, direct their own lives, and not be forced to give birth when they don’t want to. That’s the real moral issue around abortion. Sophie Nir is the founder of the Abortion Positivity Project, a nonprofit working to move us beyond the apologetic, shame-filled language that still surrounds abortion—even among people who consider themselves pro-choice. Sophie joins me to talk about what happens when we stop treating abortion like something we have to reluctantly defend and start talking about it as healthcare, freedom, bodily autonomy, and a social good. In this episode: Why "safe, legal, and rare" still carries abortion stigma What Sophie calls abortion fan fiction Why "I could never have an abortion" may not mean what you think it means How abortion restrictions became embedded in American healthcare and politics, and how the original motivation wasn't morality - it was money Why Sophie uses the term forced birth How abortion is less politically controversial than we’ve been led to believe The times Sophie witnessed anti-abortion protestors coming into the clinic she worked at...to get abortions The difference between being pro-choice and being proudly pro-abortion The three pillars of abortion positivity Why abortion access matters for women’s economic, social, and political freedom What the Turnaway Study tells us about what happens when people are denied abortions they want Why saying "abortion is healthcare" isn’t enough if we don’t actually treat it like healthcare How nobody is conducting a national poll on whether Sophie should get sinus surgery What it would look like to live in a culture where restricting abortion feels completely unthinkable And why we need to stop talking like we’re losing CHECK OUT THE ABORTION POSITIVITY PROJECT: Learn more about Sophie’s work, donate, join the mailing list, and check out their merch: https://abortionpositivity.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abortionpositivity/ SPONSORS: Become a more skillful lover with Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro course. Get $50 off at: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Get 15% off FirmTech’s innovative sex-tech products at: https://myfirmtech.com/ -- Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from Shameless Care, including comprehensive STI testing, DoxyPEP, PrEP, sexual wellness medications, and more. https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb -- Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout for $15 off. SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/ Samia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ Happy Slut TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast Happy Slut YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast If this episode made you rethink something you’ve always assumed about abortion, send it to somebody else who might be ready to think about it differently too. xoxo, Samia

Getting tested for STIs is responsible. But what if your “comprehensive” STI test…isn’t actually comprehensive? Shameless Care founder Robert Johnson found that out the hard way when he tested negative for gonorrhea while unknowingly carrying it in his throat and passing it to a partner. That experience eventually led him to build Shameless Care, a sex-positive telehealth company designed to fill some pretty massive gaps in sexual healthcare. Robert and his Sex Is Good podcast co-host Anna join me to talk about what we actually need to know to take the fear out of sex - so it can be ALL FUN, BABY! In this episode: How Robert tested negative for gonorrhea while unknowingly spreading it Why your STI panel may be missing infections Why HPV is the glitter of the sexual world The HPV vaccine—and why adults over 45 may still want it PrEP, DoxyPEP, and the golden age of sexual health Why gay orgies are safer now than they were in the ’80s and ’90s Why STI prevention can actually give us more sexual freedom The ridiculous stigma around herpes HSV-1 vs. HSV-2 and how either can show up orally or genitally My own experience living—and having lots of sex—with herpes How herpes has mostly functioned as an douchebag screener for me Viagra and Cialis…for women?! An oxytocin nasal spray that I immediately decided I need Why sex-positive doctors matter And why knowing more about sexual health can make sex a whole lot more fun CHECK OUT SHAMELESS CARE: Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from sex-positive doctors, including comprehensive STI testing, DoxyPEP, PrEP, valacyclovir, sexual wellness medications, oxytocin, and more. Samia’s Shameless Care affiliate link: https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout for $15 off your order. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shamelesscareofficial/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@shamelesscareofficial LISTEN TO SEX IS GOOD: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sex-is-good-podcast/id1816808892 All episodes: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2505799/episodes The episode where they go into the weeds on DoxyPEP for Women: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/doxypep-and-women-the-truth-shall-set-us-free/id1816808892?i=1000717357537 SPONSORS: Become a more skillful lover with Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro course. Get $50 off at: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Get 15% off FirmTech’s innovative sex-tech products at: https://myfirmtech.com/ --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from Shameless Care. https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout for $15 off. SUPPORT THE SHOW! Subscribe to my Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/ Samia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ Happy Slut TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast Happy Slut YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast If this episode taught you something you didn’t know about your own sexual health, send it to somebody else who deserves to have more fun and less fear around sex. xoxo, Samia

Natalie Davis was a straight-and-narrow, rule-following lawyer mom who married her college boyfriend and fully expected to live happily ever after inside the white-picket-fence monogamy model. Then her husband cheated—and eventually asked whether they could start having sex with other people. What followed was messy, painful, liberating, awkward, sexy, and completely life-altering. Natalie is now the author of Saying Yes: My Adventures in Polyamory, a radically candid memoir about surviving infidelity, dismantling everything she thought she knew about marriage, and discovering a version of herself she never knew existed. You know...like being a hot slut on a train. In this episode: Why Natalie never questioned monogamy before her husband’s affair The humiliation of being cheated on—and why she couldn’t bring herself to tell her friends How infidelity became an unexpected doorway into consensual non-monogamy The difference between choosing polyamory and being polyamorous under duress Why staying after betrayal doesn’t make someone a coward or a doormat Watching your partner put effort into dates with someone else and realizing he never dated you that way Why people are sometimes more comfortable with secret cheating than consensual non-monogamy Natalie’s first swinger party What swinging taught her about boundaries, desire, and speaking up Falling in love with another partner for the first time Coming out as polyamorous to family, coworkers, and her child Why non-monogamous people still need legal protection from discrimination The public-sex adventures that transformed a responsible lawyer mom into a hot slut on a train Roadhead, parking-garage blowjobs, sexting, roleplay, and discovering what turns you on in your forties Why consensual secrecy can deliver the thrill of cheating without the betrayal Natalie’s current liminal dating era What it’s really like living in a resident V with her husband and metamour The difference between a V and a throuple The difference between a living arrangement that feels peaceful and one filled with constant low-level tension Why relationships don’t have to last forever to have been successful And why Natalie’s story isn’t finished until she’s dead READ SAYING YES: MY ADVENTURES IN POLYAMORY: Bookshop.org: https://bookshop.org/shop/happyslut FOLLOW NATALIE DAVIS: Website: https://nataliedavisadventures.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nataliedavisadventures/ Medium: https://medium.com/@nataliedavisadventures Polyamory Today: https://medium.com/polyamory-today LEARN MORE ABOUT OPEN: Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy: https://www.open-love.org/ SPONSORS: Become a more skillful lover with Kenneth Play’s Beyond Satisfied Pro course. Get $50 off at: https://kennethplay.com/happyslut Get 15% off FirmTech’s innovative sex-tech products at: https://myfirmtech.com/ --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. Get private, nonjudgmental sexual healthcare from Shameless Care, including DoxyPEP. Save $15 at: https://shamelesscare.com/ --> Use code HAPPYSLUT at checkout. SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com/ Samia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts/ Happy Slut Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast/ Happy Slut TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast Happy Slut YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast If this episode made you wonder what other versions of yourself might be waiting to emerge, send it to the responsible, rule-following hot slut in your life. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out.

Pinecones, this week I'm talking to JessJess — party producer, president of Mission Control, organizer with the Bonobo Network, and the woman behind Beyond the Rainbow Events, which throws some of the most thoughtfully inclusive parties in the Bay Area. She's also been non-monogamous since high school, survived a marriage that ended in a way I wouldn't wish on anybody, and rebuilt her whole life inside a community that actually showed up for her. This conversation is about kink and parties and rope suspension, but what it's really about is what it takes to believe you're wanted exactly as you are. You don't have to be kinky, poly, or anywhere near a play party for that one to hit. In this episode: How JessJess ended up with three boyfriends and a girlfriend in high school, plus a full safer-sex negotiation at seventeen Why she and her husband said "open relationship" for years, because nobody had handed them a better word What happens when the person you've loved for twenty years becomes someone you don't recognize Her first kink party: unicorn hair and a pink strappy outfit in a room full of black and red Thuddy vs. sting-y impact play, and the scene where she discovered that her body talks The femdom party where a man volunteered to be her footstool What emotional play actually is, and how going into an insecurity on purpose taught her to feel jealousy in her body before reacting to it Why tops sometimes need aftercare too The sexy dinner party where she was the biggest person in the room and got more attention than anyone else And how patriarchy sold all of us the lie that only one kind of body gets to be wanted — a lie that has cost every single one of us something FOLLOW JESSJESS: Beyond the Rainbow Events LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/beyondtherainbowevents --> that link will take you to JessJess's events on Plura, Fetlife, and everywhere else JessJess's Personal Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/dapperbetch Beyond the Rainbow Events on Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/beyondtherainbowevents SUPPORT THE SHOW! Substack: http://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: @samia.mounts and @happyslutcast TikTok: @happyslutcast YouTube: @happyslutcast Send this one to the friend who's been quietly wondering whether she's allowed to want more than one person. And send it to the friend who's decided nobody could want her at the size she is right now. JessJess has receipts for both of them. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get $15 off any order at Shameless Care using code HAPPYSLUT or use my affiliate link: https://shamelesscare.sjv.io/aNP1Xb

PINECONES I'M OVER THE MOON! Mina was my anonymous guest in episode 10 of Closeted, "My First Boyfriend Suffered a Lot Because My Sex Drive Was Too High." (Listen here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/10-my-first-boyfriend-suffered-a-lot-because-my-sex/id1832942242?i=1000734016272) Back then, she was closeted, living with her parents, and maintaining a secret menagerie of lovers. Now, she's out of the closet and full of fresh, candid, tender, sexy updates - and holy hell, has she ever made CHANGES in the last two years. In this episode: The major family breakthrough that changed everything for Mina When sex becomes an escape instead of a source of joy Getting cut off by the friends she loves most - and how that led to her healing Grief, loneliness, and hitting rock bottom Graduating from her sexual mentor The pressure to be the "perfect daughter" Junk food men, emotional support trout, and slutty salmon Getting rejected after perfectly fine sex—and being totally okay with it Reopening her sexual HR recruiting department Why starting a stand-up comedy career is a great way to get laid Mina's very shy domestic slave/puppy Bisexuality, kissing women, and spreading her bi wings Finding her voice through stand-up comedy in South Korea LISTEN TO MINA'S ORIGINAL CLOSETED EPISODE: Episode 10: My First Boyfriend Suffered a Lot Because My Sex Drive Was Too High https://podcasts.apple.com/bm/podcast/10-my-first-boyfriend-suffered-a-lot-because-my-sex/id1832942242?i=1000734016272 FOLLOW MINA: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jungmal.mina/ Stand Up Seoul: https://www.instagram.com/standupseoul_official/ SEE MINA LIVE & SUPPORT NORTH KOREAN REFUGEES: Stand-Up Comedy Show for Freedom Speakers International (FSI) Saturday, August 22 | 8:00 PM Taco Amigo, Itaewon All proceeds benefit Freedom Speakers International, a Seoul-based nonprofit that provides English public speaking, mentorship, and career development to North Korean refugees. Learn more: https://lovefsi.org/ Advance tickets: https://www.standup-seoul.com/event-details/charity-comedy-show-freedom-speakers-international SUPPORT HAPPY SLUT: Subscribe to Samia's Substack: https://samiamounts.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samia.mounts & https://www.instagram.com/happyslutcast TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happyslutcast YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@happyslutcast Questions, thoughts, feedback, dreams and wishes: [email protected] Share this episode with the friend who's been fishing for emotional support trout in a pond full of slutty salmon. xoxo, Samia Mentioned in this episode: Get a 15% discount on all FirmTech products! Use code CLOSETED at check-out. Get 15% off Kenneth Play's Beyond Satisfied Pro course at www.kennethplay.com/closeted