Cake For Dinner

When does helping your child become rescuing them—and how do you know when they truly need you to step in? Double board-certified child, adolescent, and adult psychiatrist Dr. Samantha Saltz joins Keesha Scott on Cake for Dinner for an honest conversation about parenting anxious kids, motherhood, and the pressure to get everything right. Dr. Sam shares why connection matters when working with teenagers, how she sees social media affecting their emotional lives, and why parents need compassion and validation, too. Keesha opens up about raising a daughter with OCD and why a child’s biggest achievements aren’t always reflected in grades or college acceptance letters. The conversation also takes a deeply personal turn as Dr. Sam discusses fertility treatments, miscarriages, and discovering she was pregnant shortly before a planned embryo transfer to a surrogate. Together, she and Keesha reflect on the loneliness of infertility and what it takes to keep showing up for work and family while struggling privately. Plus, Dr. Sam answers listener questions about sleepaway camp anxiety and nail biting, explaining why understanding the individual child matters more than finding one rule for everyone. Learn more about Keesha: https://keeshascott.com/ Book Pre Order CAKE FOR DINNER: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0H5CW77FP?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creativeASIN=B0H5CW77FP&linkCode=xm2&tag=simonsayscom&dplnkId=ca66e48c-1d99-4095-a35e-8d40794ffd1d&nodl=1 Follow Dr Samantha Saltz : https://www.instagram.com/doctorsamllc/

"I smoked weed when I was a kid and turned out fine." If you've ever said that or thought it, this episode is for you. John Puls is a licensed clinical social worker, master certified addiction professional, adjunct professor at Florida Atlantic University, and expert witness who specializes in addiction and mental health. He joins Cake for Dinner to explain why today's cannabis should be treated as a completely different drug. Potency is much higher now, and vapes are nearly odorless, so teens can use almost anywhere, anytime. We get into cannabis-induced psychosis and why adolescents and young adults are the most vulnerable group. John explains how THC can quietly erode a teen's ability to cope with anxiety, and how parents' instinct to rescue can feed that same cycle. Then we zoom out to the harder questions: how to tell a phase from a real problem, when therapy stops being optional, and how to step in without wrecking your relationship with your kid. We also talk honestly about parenting a difficult teen, why your own nervous system matters, why scare tactics backfire, and what it means to be "honest-ish" as a sober parent. This episode includes discussion of suicide. If you or someone you love is struggling, call or text 988 (U.S.) to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. Learn more about Keesha: https://keeshascott.com/ Book Pre Order CAKE FOR DINNER: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0H5CW77FP?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creativeASIN=B0H5CW77FP&linkCode=xm2&tag=simonsayscom&dplnkId=ca66e48c-1d99-4095-a35e-8d40794ffd1d&nodl=1 Follow John Puls : https://www.instagram.com/full_life_cc

Are we punishing children for being children? And can we set firm boundaries without relying on shame, disconnection, or control? In this episode of Cake for Dinner, Dr. Vanessa Lapointe—parenting educator, former psychologist, and bestselling author of Discipline Without Damage—challenges common approaches to discipline and explores what children’s behavior may be communicating. We talk about raising strong-willed and highly sensitive kids, why kindness during a meltdown isn’t the same as giving in, and how to balance compassion with clear expectations. Vanessa shares her approach to co-regulation, while both women get honest about the gap between knowing about parenting and navigating it with your own child. The conversation also explores ADHD, personal experiences with childhood OCD and school anxiety, the environments children need to thrive, and the pressure to look like a perfect mom online. If you’ve ever wondered why familiar parenting strategies aren’t working for your child—or felt judged, overwhelmed, or like you’re failing—this conversation offers a different way to understand the struggle. Learn more about Keesha: https://keeshascott.com/ Book Pre Order CAKE FOR DINNER: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0H5CW77FP?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creativeASIN=B0H5CW77FP&linkCode=xm2&tag=simonsayscom&dplnkId=ca66e48c-1d99-4095-a35e-8d40794ffd1d&nodl=1 Follow Dr Vanessa LaPointe : https://www.instagram.com/dr.vanessalapointe

What if being a “good parent” has less to do with controlling your kids—and more to do with learning how to regulate yourself? In this episode of Cake for Dinner, Keisha sits down with Hunter Clarke-Fields, bestselling author of Raising Good Humans and host of the Mindful Mama Podcast, for an honest conversation about what modern parenting is getting right—and where we may have swung too far. Hunter opens up about discovering her own temper after becoming a mom, struggling with yelling and reactivity, and realizing that knowing the “right” parenting technique means very little when your own nervous system is overwhelmed. They unpack the pressure parents feel to get every interaction right, why moms are taught to sacrifice themselves for everyone else, and why Hunter believes the cultural obsession with the “selfless mother” can ultimately become harmful. They also tackle one of the biggest conversations in parenting today: Have we taken gentle parenting too far? Hunter explains why setting boundaries is not harmful, why it’s completely okay for your child to be angry with you, and why parents shouldn't be afraid to change their minds or say no. The conversation also gets into smartphones and screen time, overscheduled children, achievement culture, parenting through generational trauma, mom guilt, parental anger, and why an entire generation of kids has essentially grown up inside a massive experiment with smartphones. Hunter also shares a powerful three-step practice for repairing a damaged relationship with your child—even if the mistake happened years ago. Because there is no such thing as a perfect parent. You can apologize. You can reconnect. And you can always begin again. If you're exhausted from trying to do everything right, questioning your parenting decisions, or simply trying to raise good humans without losing yourself in the process, this conversation is for you. Learn more about Keesha: https://keeshascott.com/ Book Pre Order CAKE FOR DINNER: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0H5CW77FP?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creativeASIN=B0H5CW77FP&linkCode=xm2&tag=simonsayscom&dplnkId=ca66e48c-1d99-4095-a35e-8d40794ffd1d&nodl=1 Follow Hunter Clarke-Fields : https://www.instagram.com/mindfulmamamentor

What happens when you love your children deeply—but part of you still wants to escape? In this episode of Cake for Dinner, I sit down with author Jessica Guerrieri for an incredibly honest conversation about motherhood, sobriety, addiction, identity, and the complicated truths women are often afraid to say out loud. Jessica shares how her desire to become a mother ultimately forced her to confront her relationship with alcohol—and the moment she looked at herself after another night of drinking and realized she had finally had enough. We talk about why addiction doesn’t always look like losing everything, why you don’t need a traumatic childhood or dramatic “rock bottom” to deserve recovery, and why getting help before your life completely falls apart should be celebrated. Jessica also opens up about what happened years into sobriety when, during the isolation of the pandemic, she began experimenting with THC as another way to check out. That experience led her to one of the biggest themes in her writing: maybe the deeper issue isn’t always the substance itself. Maybe it’s the need to escape. And motherhood can create plenty of feelings we want to escape from. We get real about postpartum depression, identity loss, feeling claustrophobic in motherhood, mommy wine culture, wanting to hide from your children even though you adore them, and why two seemingly contradictory things can be true at the same time. Jessica also explains why she uses fiction to explore addiction, trauma, sexual assault, grief, sisterhood, recovery, and the parts of womanhood that are often considered “too much.” Ultimately, this conversation comes back to one powerful idea: the opposite of isolation and escapism may be connection—the feeling of finally being seen, heard, and understood by another person. If you’ve ever loved your life while simultaneously wanting to run away from it, this conversation is for you. Learn more about Keesha: https://keeshascott.com/ Book Pre Order CAKE FOR DINNER: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0H5CW77FP?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creativeASIN=B0H5CW77FP&linkCode=xm2&tag=simonsayscom&dplnkId=ca66e48c-1d99-4095-a35e-8d40794ffd1d&nodl=1 Follow Jessica Guerrieri: https://www.instagram.com/jessicaguerrieriauthor