<description>&lt;p&gt;Jeff Guenther, LPC, also known as TherapyJeff, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack everything on modern romance. They break down the dating world as a space that requires nervous system regulation and radical authenticity. Jeff advocates for a shift away from performing for validation to a more grounded approach focused on genuine curiosity instead of the pressure of finding "the one." &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Some takeaways: &lt;/p&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Why looking at first dates as fun instead of as a job interview leads to better matches&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;How to check in with your nervous system to avoid performing for validation&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Understanding how dating apps gamify rejection and how they lead to burnout&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;The difference between healthy vulnerability and trauma dumping and how to spot early signs love bombing &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;For sponsorships, please reach out to &lt;a href="mailto:wytt@besttherapists.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;wytt@besttherapists.com &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://whatyourtherapistthinks.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Join our Substack community &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/wyttpodcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Follow WYTT on Instagram &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/the_bad_therapist/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Follow Felicia on Instagram &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.therapyjeff.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Connect with Jeff &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Follow Jeff on &lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Instagram&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;TikTok&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Listen to Jeff’s podcast, &lt;a href="https://www.therapyjeff.com/podcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Problem Solved&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;a href="https://amzn.to/4qSxlN5" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Read Jeff’s book, “Big Dating Energy”&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;*Watch full episodes on YouTube: &lt;a href="https://www.youtube.com/@WhatYourTherapistThinks" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;What Your Therapist Thinks&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;*Brought to you by &lt;a href="http://besttherapists.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;BestTherapists.com&lt;/a&gt; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;*Produced by &lt;a href="https://pod.vision/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;PodVision&lt;/a&gt;. &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.&lt;/p&gt;</description>

What Your Therapist Thinks

Felicia Keller Boyle & Kristie Plantinga

How Can I Enjoy Dating? Dating Advice From Therapy Jeff

MAR 4, 202661 MIN
What Your Therapist Thinks

How Can I Enjoy Dating? Dating Advice From Therapy Jeff

MAR 4, 202661 MIN

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Jeff Guenther, LPC, also known as TherapyJeff, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack everything on modern romance. They break down the dating world as a space that requires nervous system regulation and radical authenticity. Jeff advocates for a shift away from performing for validation to a more grounded approach focused on genuine curiosity instead of the pressure of finding "the one." Some takeaways: Why looking at first dates as fun instead of as a job interview leads to better matchesHow to check in with your nervous system to avoid performing for validationUnderstanding how dating apps gamify rejection and how they lead to burnoutThe difference between healthy vulnerability and trauma dumping and how to spot early signs love bombing For sponsorships, please reach out to [email protected] Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Jeff Follow Jeff on Instagram and TikTok Listen to Jeff’s podcast, Problem Solved Read Jeff’s book, “Big Dating Energy” *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.