<description>&lt;p&gt;Relationship expert Colette J. Fehr joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the messy, neurological reality of moving on. They explore why breakups feel less like a simple goodbye and more like overcoming an addiction, creating a need for a strategic "reset" of the brain. Colette advocates for “no-contact” as a vital tool for nervous system regulation and reclaiming your sense of self.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Some takeaways: &lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Why missing an ex mirrors an addiction cycle and how to break it.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;How creating distance allows your nervous system to detach from an ex.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;How to move from waiting for closure to finding an internal resolution.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;The dangers of "rebounds" and why reclaiming self-worth should be a priority.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;For sponsorships, please reach out to &lt;a href="mailto:wytt@besttherapists.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;wytt@besttherapists.com &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://whatyourtherapistthinks.substack.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Join our Substack community &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/wyttpodcast/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Follow WYTT on Instagram &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/the_bad_therapist/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Follow Felicia on Instagram &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;strong&gt;&lt;a href="https://www.colettejanefehr.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Connect with Colette &lt;/a&gt;&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;ol&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Follow Colette on &lt;a href="https://www.instagram.com/colettejanefehr/?hl=en" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Instagram&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@colettejanefehr" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;TikTok&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Listen to Colette’s podcasts, &lt;a href="https://pod.link/1745180987" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Insights from the Couch, Real Talk for Women at Midlife&lt;/a&gt; and &lt;a href="https://pod.link/1841228105" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Love Thy Neighbor&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li data-list="bullet"&gt;&lt;span class="ql-ui" contenteditable="false"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;Read Colette’s Book: &lt;a href="https://amzn.to/4kjqJFK" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure Lasting Love&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ol&gt;&lt;br/&gt;&lt;p&gt;Listen to Colette’s TED Talk: &lt;a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8tSUOB2yEd0" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;Secrets of a Couple's Therapist&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;*Watch full episodes on YouTube: &lt;a href="https://www.youtube.com/@WhatYourTherapistThinks" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;What Your Therapist Thinks&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;*Brought to you by &lt;a href="http://besttherapists.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;BestTherapists.com&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;*Produced by &lt;a href="https://pod.vision/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"&gt;PodVision&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.&lt;/p&gt;</description>

What Your Therapist Thinks

Felicia Keller Boyle & Kristie Plantinga

How Do I Get Over Someone? The Science of Heartbreak with Colette J. Fehr

MAR 18, 202660 MIN
What Your Therapist Thinks

How Do I Get Over Someone? The Science of Heartbreak with Colette J. Fehr

MAR 18, 202660 MIN

Description

Relationship expert Colette J. Fehr joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the messy, neurological reality of moving on. They explore why breakups feel less like a simple goodbye and more like overcoming an addiction, creating a need for a strategic "reset" of the brain. Colette advocates for “no-contact” as a vital tool for nervous system regulation and reclaiming your sense of self.Some takeaways: Why missing an ex mirrors an addiction cycle and how to break it.How creating distance allows your nervous system to detach from an ex.How to move from waiting for closure to finding an internal resolution.The dangers of "rebounds" and why reclaiming self-worth should be a priority.For sponsorships, please reach out to [email protected] Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Colette Follow Colette on Instagram and TikTokListen to Colette’s podcasts, Insights from the Couch, Real Talk for Women at Midlife and Love Thy Neighbor.Read Colette’s Book: The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure Lasting Love.Listen to Colette’s TED Talk: Secrets of a Couple's Therapist*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com*Produced by PodVision.If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.