Everyone Gets a Juice Box: For Parents of Neurodivergent Kids

Tehrima Rai spent years being told her son was “just picky.” Relatives blamed her parenting, and she struggled to get help. But Tehrima, a pediatrician herself, trusted her instincts and kept searching until she found the real answer: ARFID, an extreme fear of food that’s more common in neurodivergent kids. Through feeding therapy, logbooks, and her own experimentation, she helped her son eat — and finally healed deep wounds of her own. For more on this topic Listen: Why I stopped hiding my kid’s neurodivergence Watch: Guiding a neurodivergent kid through grief (by breaking all the rules) For a transcript and more resources, visit Everyone Gets a Juice Box on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected]. Understood is a nonprofit where millions of people who are navigating neurodivergence find clear guidance, practical tools, and people who get it. To help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/podcast-donate. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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