Tell Me I'm a Good Mom with Lo Bosworth Natale

I cried in the back of an Uber after my first dinner out post-baby. I'd had one and a half martinis (a mistake), I'd left my husband at home with the baby (he was thrilled for me to go), and I felt so guilty I genuinely couldn't stop sobbing. Mom guilt, right? That's what we'd call it. Except according to Dr. Becky Kennedy, clinical psychologist, founder of Good Inside, and probably the most followed parenting expert on the planet, what I was feeling probably wasn't actually guilt at all. It was something else, and almost nobody talks about it. This week she sat down with me to talk about the weeks of motherhood nobody warns you about. Why your thoughts the first weeks postpartum are mostly about you, not your baby (and why that's normal, not a character flaw). Why intrusive thoughts about your baby are a sign of how much you love them, not a sign you're dangerous. Why the doer identity you bring into motherhood is going to crash, and what to do when it does. Plus the reframe she dropped at the end of our conversation that I haven't stopped thinking about since: the sentence that starts with "I'm a good mom who..." and how it changes everything. Follow Tell Me I'm a Good Mom on Apple, subscribe on Spotify, and tell me your version in the YouTube comments. The longer read drops Sunday at lobosworth.substack.com. Sponsors: Nuna: Check out nunababy.com or popping into your local Nordstrom to test it out Grow: Visit GrowTherapy.com/ GOODMOM today to get started — 📺 Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@lobosworth 📖 Newsletter: https://substack.com/@lobosworth 🛍️ Love Wellness: https://lovewellness.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobosworth 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lobosworth — Tell Me I'm a Good Mom is part of the Dear Media podcast network. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to the first community episode of Tell Me I'm A Good Mom. I read hundreds of stories that came in through the Q+A form, and the theme I couldn't stop reading was the part of motherhood that happens years before the baby arrives. The IVF cycles. The miscarriages. The diagnoses that blindside you. The appointments where a doctor asks you a question you don't have the vocabulary for yet. In this episode I share three community stories with permission. Sherri, on seven IVF cycles and signing surrogacy papers in Mexico City at thirty-nine. Meghan, on a gestational diabetes diagnosis, a uterine infection after birth, and an OB phone call a week postpartum telling her half of her placenta was scar tissue. And Krystal, who miscarried alone in Cancún at a meditation retreat and chose radical openness on the other side of it. I answer three listener questions, including one on vaginal microbiome health and fertility that is the reason I started Love Wellness ten years ago. If you are in the middle of any of this, I hope this one finds you. Follow the show, and if you want to submit for the next one, the form is in my Instagram highlights. Sponsors: Nuna: Check out nunababy.com or popping into your local Nordstrom to test it out Hatch: Head to hatch.co/baby to shop and learn more Cozy Earth: Head to cozyearth.com and use my code GOODMOM for an exclusive 20% off Merit Beauty: Merit Beauty is offering our listeners their Signature Makeup Bag with your first order at meritbeauty.com Skylight: Skylight is offering our listeners $30 off their 15 inch Calendars by going to MySkylight.com/GOODMOM — 📺 Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@lobosworth 📖 Newsletter: https://substack.com/@lobosworth 🛍️ Love Wellness: https://lovewellness.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobosworth 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lobosworth — Tell Me I'm a Good Mom is part of the Dear Media podcast network. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The day after I had the baby, I fainted in my hospital room. Blood pressure skyrocketing, doctors running in, a brain aneurysm fear I couldn't shake, a day-old baby at the foot of the bed. I was convinced that was how my story ended. It wasn't. And it turns out most new moms have some version of this story. Nobody warns us. This week I sit down with writer Meaghan O'Connell, author of And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready, the book that started telling the truth about new motherhood a decade before the rest of us were ready to hear it. We get into the C-section I elected, the C-section shelf nobody warned me about, the fear of leaving your baby that you don't tell anyone about, and the identity shift that is not about your kid even though everyone assumes it is. It's honest. It's specific. It's not light. You will recognize parts of yourself in it. Follow Tell Me I'm a Good Mom on Apple, Spotify, or subscribe to my channel on YouTube for video episodes. Find me on Substack where I go deeper on every episode. Sponsors: Nuna: Check out nunababy.com or popping into your local Nordstrom to test it out — 📺 Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@lobosworth 📖 Newsletter: https://substack.com/@lobosworth 🛍️ Love Wellness: https://lovewellness.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobosworth 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lobosworth — Tell Me I'm a Good Mom is part of the Dear Media podcast network. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The number that broke my brain wasn't the birth cost. It was the daycare quote.Vivian Tu, finance expert, Your Rich BFF, and New York Times bestselling author, came on to talk about the actual financial reality of becoming a parent — not the "start a 529" version you've heard a hundred times. The version where even financially stable people feel underwater in year one, and why that doesn't mean you're doing it wrong.We got into the STRIP method (her framework for getting your money actually organized), why retirement has to come before your kid's college fund, what "net new costs" look like when you're a new parent, and how the money stories you inherited before age 7 are still running your financial life right now. No fluff. No shame. Just the honest conversation about money and motherhood most people aren't having. Tell Me I'm a Good Mom — new episodes every Wednesday hosted by Lo Bosworth Natale — first time mom and CEO of Love Wellness Sponsors: Hatch: Visit www.hatch.co/baby to learn more about Hatch Baby, or find Hatch Baby on Amazon, Target and Babylist registries. Nuna: Check out nunababy.com or popping into your local Nordstrom to test it out — 📺 Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@lobosworth 📖 Newsletter: https://substack.com/@lobosworth 🛍️ Love Wellness: https://lovewellness.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobosworth 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lobosworth — Tell Me I'm a Good Mom is part of the Dear Media podcast network. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I went through three egg retrievals, an endo surgery, and one transfer to get my daughter. Here's everything I wish I'd known before I started. I sat down with Dr. Sheeva Talebian, reproductive endocrinologist at CCRM Fertility New York, to talk about what IVF actually looks like from the inside. The math nobody warns you about. The lifestyle changes that actually move the needle on egg quality. What NAD+ therapy does for fertility and why more western doctors are finally paying attention. And why the number of eggs you retrieve is almost never the number that matters when it comes to viable embryos. If you're navigating IVF, egg freezing, unexplained infertility, endometriosis, or just trying to understand your fertility before it becomes urgent — this episode is for you. Tell Me I'm a Good Mom — new episodes every Wednesday hosted by Lo Bosworth Natale — first time mom and CEO of Love Wellness — 📺 Subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/@lobosworth 📖 Newsletter: https://substack.com/@lobosworth 🛍️ Love Wellness: https://lovewellness.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobosworth 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lobosworth — Tell Me I'm a Good Mom is part of the Dear Media podcast network. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.