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Today I am joined by international speaker, confidence coach and founder of Confident and Killing It, Tiwalola Ogunlesi. Tiwa moved to the UK from Nigeria aged 15 and began to struggle with low self-esteem issues throughout her teenage years. After graduating from university she felt immense pressure to live up to the expectations she’d set for herself, get a job and become a quote on quote ‘Adult’. She finally accepted a job at an engineering firm in Oxford, despite having no real interest in the company, or the job, and so as a year or more went by Tiwa found herself slowly suffocating in the boredom and monotony of living a life she felt incredibly uninspired by. It was around this time that Tiwa decided to start volunteering at a local church and become a youth leader; there she met various girls aged 15-17 and realised from speaking to them on a regular basis that there was a major confidence crisis in yet another generation of girls growing up in the world thinking they weren’t good enough. Tiwa started making videos on instagram about the subject matter and 2 years later she was working full-time on her own business, Confident and Killing It, the self-love revolution to wake women up to their worth and dare to live the life they truly desire... Since then, Tiwa has equipped over 3000 women in London, Lagos, New York and Johannesburg at The Oprah Winfrey Leadership Academy For Girls with the tools and knowledge they need to be confident. She has been interviewed by the likes of Jameela Jamil, spoken at UN women's conference, recently signed a book deal with Harper Collins and worked her ass off to ensure that the next generation of women we raise are ready to look themselves in the eye and say those three words which we all seemingly struggle with so much; I love myself. You can pre-order Tiwa's book 'Confident & Killing It' HERE Our favourite Millennial Minesweeper quote this week was: "Perhaps imagination is not where we go to escape reality, but where we go to remember it" - Glennon Doyle Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week I'm joined by a very good friend of mine, discussing all things sex and her journey into bisexuality. If you're in the mood for some VERY open chats, hilarious tales of some problematic threesomes, emotional accounts of nearly losing loved ones over coming out and potentially TMI on all of the above... then this is the episode for you. We discuss all things from defining the words slut and slag, emotional vs physical sex, biphobia, threesomes, polyamory, sex parties, coming out as bisexual and the big question (if it's even answerable) of whether sex is better with a man or a woman... Quote of the episode: 'Sometimes you have to take the D to get to the V. And sometimes you're in a threesome shagging the boyfriend because you fancy his girlfriend.' Iconic. Resources referred to in the pod which you might want to check out after the ep are below: The sex party we talk about here Homophobic study we talk about here Find us on Instagram here FULL DISCLOSURE: This episode is very much two friends having a relaxed conversation about certain topics surrounding sex and bisexuality. These are OUR OPINIONS which obviously may differ from yours or your own personal experiences. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's guest is someone I have wanted to come on the podcast for a long time... I'm so excited to tell you that this episode I am joined by the UK’s Leading life coach and No.1 international best selling author Jacqueline Hurst. Growing up in North London, Jacqueline was bullied from an early age, which lead to her feeling incredibly lonely and isolated. Throughout her teenage years she turned to drugs and alcohol, and entered her twenties decade with cripplingly low self-esteem as well as suffering from anorexia, bulimia and severe anxiety. Her early twenties saw Jacqueline through various jobs as a PA and a secretary, but she continued to struggle internally and was fighting a battle which was showing no signs of easing. It was an incredibly tough period of her life and by the time Jacqueline hit 25 she was squatting in an empty flat, suffering from drug addiction, out of touch with friends and family and had hit what she refers to as rock bottom. It was only after finally admitting she needed help, that Jacqueline was able to turn a corner, get clean and take ownership over her life again. She discovered self-development and travelled to the US to get training in neuro-linguistic programming where she found a passion for coaching and understanding the importance of mindset. When Jacqueline turned 30, she became a full-time life coach, qualified hypnotherapist and an NLP master practitioner. This is of course an incredibly condensed overview of what was a decade of tremendous highs and unthinkable lows. Jacqueline has since gone from strength to strength in the coaching world, as well as being a columnist for GQ, she has also written the best-selling book ‘How To Do You’, and has helped thousands of people across the world to step into their power and realise their full potential. Jacqueline’s tremendous empathy, vulnerability and brutal honesty has impacted so many lives, myself included, and her desire to grab life by both hands every day is infectious. In her powerful words “Every day now I feel grateful I’m still alive. There are so many times I should have died from the number of drugs I’d taken. Now I’d just put my arms around the 15-year-old girl I was and tell her how much I love her”. You can find out more about Jacqueline's coaching courses and classes here Order her book 'How To Do You' (which will absolutely change your life) here You can also follow her on Instagram here We sadly didn't have time to play Millennial Minesweeper this week but one thing Jacqueline said which will stick with me for a long time is: "We are so busy trying to control the situation that we lose ourselves. We think it's the situation that creates how we feel but it’s not. It’s our minds.’ - Jacqueline Hurst Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Got something slightly different for you guys this week... Welcome to the 'Getting The ICK' bonus episode where we are chatting all things dating, relationships and your biggest turn-offs. We've all got different opinions on what is considered an absolute no-go when it comes to dating, and in this episode we hear from all of you at home about your biggest and most bizarre icks ... from bad tattoos and not liking dogs, to still chatting with your ex and sneezing in public places, we've got you covered. I also thought what better person to talk through all these 'icks' with than with someone I actually used to date... because what could possibly go wrong with that?! Introducing the wonderful guest of this episode, Fraser McDonald, who's brutal honesty and welsh charm is the perfect solution for a healthy (and incredibly icky) debate . Really hope you guys enjoy this listen as much as we enjoyed recording it. Thanks to everyone who sent in voice notes and messages - sorry we didn't get to use them all! Feel free to hit subscribe to be the first to get notified of new eps and have a fabulous week. You can also find us on Instagram here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today I am joined by Television Presenter Chris Bavin. You might know him from presenting on a host of BBC food shows, but Chris actually spent the majority of his twenties working in wholesale food exports. Turning 20 on the turn of the century, Chris was headhunted to work for a large company selling flowers before moving on to fresh produce. His decade was spent prioritising his career above most other things, and 2 years after meeting his wife Millie, the two of them opened their own high street store called 'The Naked Grocer', when Chris was 29. They ran the business for seven years and in that time the store won the title of 'National Independent Retailer of the Year' twice thanks to its loyal customers, their passion for fresh ingredients and being ahead of its time with no plastic packaging. Chris’s career then took an unfor-seen turn in his thirties when in 2013 he was cast to co-present Eat Well For Less on BBC One, which lead him on to present other shows including Food: Truth or Scare and judging on Britain’s Best Home Cook with co-star national treasure Mary Berry. Chris is a food fanatic, a proper people person and can banter his way out of trouble in any given situation. His twenties are evidence that working towards something you’re deeply passionate about, can often lead you somewhere better than you could have predicted. Our favourite (and perhaps most contested) Millennial Minesweeper Quote this week was: 'The problem isn't the problem. The problem is the way you think about the problem’ - Stephen Bartlett Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.