Who Am I in Christ?
Let’s start with the core of everything: who you are in Christ. The moment you became a follower of Jesus, your entire identity shifted. You went from being defined by your past, your struggles, and even your relationship status to being fully defined by Jesus.
The Bible says in 2 Corinthians 5:17 that “if anyone is in Christ, they are a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.” That means your value, worth, and identity are rooted in something unshakeable. It’s not tied to whether you’re single, dating, or married. You are beloved, chosen, and complete in Him.
This identity in Christ forms the foundation of how we view ourselves. We aren’t just “waiting” for someone to make us whole because we are already complete in Him. Ephesians 2:10 reminds us that we are “God’s masterpiece.” Think about that—God Himself sees you as a work of art, beautifully and intentionally crafted. There’s no missing piece waiting to be found in another person; you’ve already got all you need in Christ.
How Does This Impact Your Dating Life?
Understanding your identity in Christ changes everything about how you approach dating. Rather than viewing it as a desperate dating quest to find someone to complete you, it becomes about partnership. It’s less about filling a void and more about finding someone who complements the calling God has placed on your life.
Here are a few ways your identity in Christ should influence how you navigate the dating world:
1. You Date with Confidence
When you know who you are in Christ, you approach dating with a sense of confidence that the world can’t shake. You’re not defined by whether or not someone swipes right or whether a date goes perfectly. Instead, your worth is already anchored in something solid. This doesn’t mean you don’t care about meeting someone awesome, but it means that your sense of self-worth isn’t hinging on it.
In practical terms, this allows you to walk into a date with an air of assurance. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not to impress the other person. You can be authentically you, knowing that you are already fully accepted by Christ, even if that date doesn’t work out.
2. You Set Healthy Boundaries
Let’s be real: dating can sometimes feel like a slippery slope. It’s easy to compromise your values or make choices based on the heat of the moment. But when your identity is firmly rooted in Christ, you understand the importance of setting boundaries—not just physical boundaries, but emotional and spiritual ones too.
Healthy boundaries aren’t about restricting your fun or keeping you from enjoying the dating experience. Instead, they help guard your heart and keep your focus on Christ." class="jsx-4145644783 jsx-2435782980">