How can you pursue change as a mom without being crushed by guilt or shame?  Abbey Wedgeworth brings a needed message: We don't need more willpower.  We need the power of the Gospel.  Sharing from her book, Help, I'm Ruining My Kids, Abbey talks about her own experience with poor postpartum mental health, the pull between shame and blame, and why our weakness is not the enemy we think it is. If you've ever felt like you're failing your kids, this conversation will point you to the real hope in Jesus. On today's episode, we're talking honestly about:  4:06 The "pendulum from shame to blame" — and what the Gospel offers instead 9:03 "We hate our weakness and tolerate our sin" — the powerful flip we need 10:20 Equating competence with righteousness — and learning to choose kindness over capability 19:00 Abbey opens up about postpartum suicidal ideations and how the Gospel gave her courage to get help 23:08 Running for the joy set before us — how a fitness competition became a spiritual metaphor 29:33 What your kids actually need isn't a mom who stops yelling — it's a mom who hungers for righteousness 37:39 The "3 to 5 method" for getting into scripture even in your most exhausted seasons (you'll love this) Learn more about Abbey Wedgeworth and her book, Help I'm Ruining My Kids https://www.abbeywedgeworth.com/   Connect with Abbey on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/abbeywedgeworth/ More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get the checklist, 7 Warning Signs of Screen Overuse. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email [email protected] Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE)   Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.