Dr. Emerson Eggerichs, bestselling author of Love and Respect (2.3+ million copies sold), shares fresh insights from his new book Lightbulb Moments in Marriage. Drawing from his work with over 4,000 couples and 52 years of marriage to his wife Sarah, Dr. Eggerichs reveals why couples often feel miles apart when they're really just inches away from breakthrough. In this episode, we'll discover the biblical foundation of the love and respect connection, uncover practical ways to get out of the "Crazy Cycle," and learn how to establish our marriages in Christ first and foremost.  02:15  How to begin transforming a marriage (miles vs. inches) 06:25  Doing marriage unto Jesus even when it's hard 09:40  Why marital satisfaction flows from spiritual satisfaction 17:58  The facts: men feel disrespected, women feel unloved in conflict 20:49 – How to believe your spouse has goodwill (1 Cor 7 insight) 23:54 – The 80/20 principle & not defining your spouse by snapshot moments 25:11 – Women tend to rehearse negatives → practical steps on shifting mindsets 28:40 – Speak his language: "I need your strength" vs. criticism Learn more from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs at loveandrespect.com and buy his new book Lightbulb Moments in Marriage anywhere books are sold.  More Resources from Arlene Pellicane: SUBSCRIBE to Arlene's newsletter "What I'm Learning This Week" and get access to 12 free resources to help you as a parent. Check out Arlene's BOOKS including Parents Rising, Screen Kids, and Making Marriage Easier. Follow Arlene on Instagram and/or Facebook Go to Arlene's YouTube Channel How did Arlene's kids adapt to not having phones, video games or social media? Watch the free video, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words. Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Want to invite Arlene to speak to your group? Email [email protected] Not sure about a smartphone for your child? Check out the Gabb Wireless phone for kids and teens (use the promo code ARLENE) Discover more Christian podcasts at lifeaudio.com and inquire about advertising opportunities at lifeaudio.com/contact-us.