<p>Do you find yourself living in a marriage full of unspoken tension? You’re polite and all, but there’s no honest sharing or compassion? In this final program of the series, Chip shares a tool that walks you step-by-step, through a communication process that’ll free you from the past, free you from the guilt, and free you from the history that’s holding your relationship hostage.</p><p>Three major reasons we have shame:</p><ol><li>A theological reason – we ALL have shame.</li><li>Shame from things DONE to us.</li><li>Shame of things that we DO.</li></ol><p>Three natural responses:</p><ol><li>To HIDE.</li><li>To NUMB the pain.</li><li>To COMPENSATE.</li></ol><p>John 21:1-19</p><p>Principles:</p><ol><li>Jesus MEETS us where we are.</li><li>Jesus gently DEMANDS that we face the truth about ourselves.</li><li>Jesus AFFIRMS our value and our worthiness by commissioning us to service.</li></ol><p>Practical implications:</p><ol><li>You can’t forgive your mate until you have <strong>RECEIVED</strong> both forgiveness and restoration. -Ephesians 4:32</li><li><strong>EXPERIENCE</strong> God’s forgiveness and restoration.</li><li>Freely <strong>GIVE</strong> what you have received.</li></ol><p>Tools for transformation:</p><p><strong>D</strong> – DEFINE the issue clearly.</p><p><strong>E</strong> – ENTER the pain and hurt.</p><p><strong>F</strong> – Ask for FORGIVENESS.</p><p><strong>U</strong> – UNDERSTAND the process.</p><ul><li>Phase 1: Forgive</li><li>Phase 2: Forgiving</li><li>Phase 3: Forgiven</li></ul><p><strong>S</strong> – <strong>SET </strong>things right between you.</p><ul><li>Own your responsibility</li><li>Confess: “I was wrong.”</li><li>Ask: “Will you forgive me?”</li><li>Answer: “Yes, I forgive you.”</li></ul><p><strong>E</strong> – ESTABLISH a specific game plan to move forward.</p><p><strong>Broadcast Resource</strong></p><ul><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://livingontheedge.org/product/choosing-love-mp3/?source=WEBPODDON&amp;referral=PODCAST">Download MP3</a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://livingontheedge.org/broadcasts/message-notes/?series=3143?source=WEBPODDON&amp;referral=PODCAST">Message Notes</a></li></ul><p><strong>Additional Resource Mentions</strong></p><ul><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer nofollow" href="https://livingontheedge.org/product/i-choose-love-book/?source=WEBPODDON&amp;referral=PODCAST">I Choose Love Book</a></li></ul><p><strong>Connect</strong></p><ul><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="c-link" href="tel:8883336003">888-333-6003</a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="c-link" href="https://livingontheedge.org/">Website</a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="c-link" href="https://livingontheedge.org/chip-ingram-app">Chip Ingram App</a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="c-link" href="https://www.instagram.com/livingontheedgewithchipingram">Instagram</a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="c-link" href="https://www.facebook.com/LOTEcommunity">Facebook</a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="c-link" href="https://twitter.com/lotecommunity">Twitter</a></li></ul><p><strong>Partner With Us</strong></p><ul><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="c-link" href="https://livingontheedge.org/donate/?source=WEBPODDON&amp;referral=PODCAST">Donate Online</a></li><li><a target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer" class="c-link" href="tel:8883336003">888-333-6003</a></li></ul>