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WTF?! Post-Election Thoughts, Recovery Plans & What’s Next! | Live! with Fefe & Freddy

In this episode, we’re diving into practical steps and support options for those in the LGBTQ+ community who may feel uncertain or at risk in the current political climate. I recognize my privilege as a white, male, cis-assumed person and want to offer guidance for those who might be feeling vulnerable or unsure about essential updates to legal documents. Let's break it down:

1. Legal Document Updates:

   • Name & Gender Marker Changes: For those who use a different name or present differently than their birth certificate, a legal name change can help avoid issues. ID updates may be inexpensive and can reduce future hassles.
   • Resources for Legal Changes: Many areas offer resources to assist with legal fees. Reach out if you need connections to local support.
   • ID & Passport Tips: If you've already changed your name, ensure your IDs are up-to-date, including state ID, driver’s license, Social Security card, and, if possible, your birth certificate. For travel, renewing your passport can provide a consistent form of ID for 10 years.
   • Healthcare and Legal Safeguards: If you're partnered, consider updating legal documents such as wills, power of attorney (POA), and living wills to protect your rights.

2. Support Networks: Building a community of friends, family, and allies is critical. Though the current climate may feel harsher, we have a history of resilience. Let’s continue to thrive, support each other, and not give up the fight.

3. Resource Numbers:

   • Trevor Project: 212-695-8650
   • National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Dial 988
   • SAGE LGBTQ Elder Hotline: 1-877-360-5428
   • Trans Lifeline: 877-565-8860
   • LGBT National Youth Talkline: 800-246-7743

Political Updates:

• Arizona: Abortion rights enshrined in the state constitution.
• Delaware: Sarah McBride becomes the first openly trans Congress member.
• California & Colorado: Voters remove same-sex marriage bans from state constitutions.
• Maryland: Angela Alsobrooks becomes the first Black senator.
• New Mexico: Former DACA recipient Cindy Nava wins a legislative seat.

Awareness Months:

• Native American/Indigenous Peoples Month: Take time to engage respectfully with Indigenous communities and support Indigenous-led initiatives.
• Trans Awareness Month: Get involved by supporting trans-led organizations, learning about trans issues, and being an active ally. Small actions can contribute to a more inclusive society.

In this episode, Felicia takes the spotlight solo, diving into mental health tips to help manage the weight of election season:

• Election Mental Health Tips: Felicia shares strategies for handling election stress, including setting boundaries with news and conversations, practicing mindfulness, and making a voting plan. Practical tips on self-care and focusing on what you can control make this discussion timely and supportive.

• RipplePHX Escape Room Recap: Freddy and Felicia recap hosting the challenging "Wicked and Twisted" Escape Room experience at RipplePHX’s annual Halloween Carnival, where only one group of friends managed to break free across the two-day event!

• Election Readiness: Felicia covers essential tips on mail-in ballots, timely submission, and planning your vote to make sure every vote counts.

Catch this engaging solo episode for thoughtful election-season guidance, community highlights, and more.

In this episode, we dive deep into the often misunderstood world of breath play and choking. While this kink has gained popularity, it comes with serious risks.

We'll break down the critical differences between breath play and choking, the importance of communication and consent, and why it's not something to be taken lightly without proper education and negotiation.

Key Points Covered:

• The risks and dangers associated with breath play and choking.
• How hypoxia and oxygen restriction can enhance pleasure for some but also pose severe health risks, including brain damage.
• The role of consent, negotiation, and safety precautions, including non-verbal signals, to ensure all parties are on the same page.
• Why choking, even with consent, can have legal implications in some places.
• Practical advice on anatomy, safety techniques, and education to minimize harm.
• A reminder that porn may not always show realistic portrayals of these acts, and why understanding the difference between fantasy and reality is vital.

Current Events:

1. A TikTok creator went viral after being dumped by a handwritten note after moving cross-country for love. Ouch!
2. Former Abercrombie & Fitch CEO Mike Jeffries faces charges of sex trafficking and international prostitution.
3. 18 million early votes have already been cast in the 2024 election—Georgia and other states are seeing record numbers.
4. Missy Elliott and Queen Latifah make history as the first rappers to receive the National Medal of Arts.

Health News:

• We also talk about the rise of "pink cocaine" or tusi, a dangerous drug cocktail that has made its way into party scenes, with warnings from officials about its deadly risks.

Tune in for a thought-provoking episode packed with insight, real-life stories, and the latest on what’s happening in the world!

We kicked off the new season with a bang—well, after some technical hiccups! We quickly realized Facebook wasn’t vibing, so we redirected everyone to Instagram and YouTube (thanks for rolling with us!).

After a summer full of catching up, we dived into some juicy convos—like the basics of navigating a threesome (spicy, right?). Plus, we covered Georgia's record voter turnout and a judge's move to stop a hand-count rule for ballots. The rebrand feels so good! Let’s go!

🎉 Season 12 Finale of Let's Have A Fefe! 🎉 Join us for an unforgettable finale as we wrap up an amazing season with Felicia & Freddy! We dive into the fun-filled week of Drag Bingo and share why wearing sensible, yet fashionable shoes is a must. Plus, we discuss the importance of respecting photographers, appreciating their unique styles, and ensuring they are paid fairly. In current events, we tackle the latest on the Trump Campaign and their hurtful promises, and celebrate President Joe Biden's historic pardon for LGBTQ+ military personnel discharged unfairly. Thank you for an incredible season, and we can't wait to see you again soon! 🌟