How we talk about miscarriage—or don’t talk about it—matters. Miscarriage is one of the most painful experiences a family can endure, yet we rarely speak of it. The silence is deafening, and it creates a culture of isolation for families bearing these lost gifts.<br /><br />Dave and his wife recently experienced the pain of miscarriage, and he wanted to discuss it publicly with Brittany Lee Allen, author of Lost Gifts: Miscarriage, Grief, and the God of All Comfort.<br /><br />At the same time, many Christians—and Churches—are not handling miscarriage in a way that reflects the reality of what we believe about life in the womb. If we truly believe that a pre-born child is a person with an eternal soul, then these children should be celebrated—and mourned—communally.<br /><br />This is a hard conversation, but a necessary one. It is also a reminder of the hope to be found in the God of all comfort.<br /><br />For more information on receiving   <a href="https://www.equip.org/product/cri-resource-lost-gifts-miscarriage-grief-and-the-god-of-all-comfort/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener">Lost Gifts: Miscarriage, Grief, and the God of All Comfort  please click here.</a> https://www.equip.org/product/cri-resource-lost-gifts-miscarriage-grief-and-the-god-of-all-comfort/<br /><br />Thank you for joining Commitment to Reality, hosted by Dave Hanegraaff. Follow Commitment to Reality wherever you get your podcasts.<br /><br />Also discussed on this episode:<br /><ul><li>Why the Church should break the 12-week rule</li><li>The Emotional Prosperity Gospel — and what it costs grieving Christians</li><li>What well-meaning Christians say that hurts the most</li><li>Praying the Psalms as a school of lament</li><li>Why our culture is so eager to look away from death</li><li>Suffering as gift — a paradox most of us would rather ignore</li><li>The parents who keep counting children no one else sees</li><li>“How many kids do you have?” — and the answer miscarriage makes us quietly weigh</li></ul>(Timestamps below.)<br />0:00 — Why is it so hard for us to talk about miscarriage?<br />1:45 — My parents named and buried their miscarried child—and never stopped counting her<br />6:45 — My first experience with miscarriage<br />15:30 — The paradox of rainbow babies and our second experience with miscarriage<br />19:15 — Being happy in your situation, even if you’re not happy with your situation<br />20:30 — The Emotional Prosperity Gospel<br />23:00 — The importance of lament in the life of a Christian<br />26:00 — Why should we break the “12 week rule” for pregnancy announcements<br />30:40 — The Church needs to be the Church<br />32:30 — We are called to be the hands and feet of Christ<br />38:00 — Praying the Psalms<br />39:15 — Pregnancy after miscarriage is a battleground of fear and anxiety<br />46:30 — How should we talk about miscarriage? Also—what not to say?<br />53:00 — The Church needs to lead the way in changing how we discuss miscarriage<br />57:35 — Discussing infertility<br />1:00:00 — Becoming a parent is hard, but it is worth it<br />1:05:40 — Lost Gifts<br />1:07:30 — Theology of Suffering—Is suffering a gift?<br />1:11:00 — Why are we so eager to ignore the reality of death?<br />1:14:25 — How parenting connects us with reality<br />1:16:50 — How many kids do you have? (Are we answering honestly?)