According To B

What happens when your best friend’s life starts looking nothing like yours? Between marriage, motherhood, changing priorities and the realities of your thirties, maintaining friendships can get a little more complicated.Dr. Katlego Selikane, medical doctor, content creator and co-founder of Clueless Moms, joins us for an honest conversation about the friendships that shape us, the ones that change with us, and what happens when different life experiences shift the dynamic. We get into growing apart, setting boundaries, showing up for friends whose lives look nothing like ours, and figuring out what it really means to maintain a friendship through every season of life.Because maybe friendship isn’t about being in the same place in life. Maybe it’s about learning how to keep choosing each other, even when you’re not.Timestamps0:00 - Returning from burnout and introducing Dr. Katlego Selikane2:25 - Meet Katlego & Her Euro Trip5:20 - For the Plot: Creating a friendship movie16:32 - How friendship changes in your 30s26:05 - Staying friends across different life stages35:35 - Social media and false closeness43:33 - Mothers, child-free women, and personal choice52:46 - How motherhood and marriage reshape friendships1:02:55 - What adult friendships need to provide1:09:09 - Candy messages and final goodbyes SOCIAL MEDIABokang➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang- / sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: / sheisbokang The B Word➜ Instagram: @thebword_za - / thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza / thebword_za Dr. Katlego Sedlikane➜ Instagram: @drk_selikane➜ YouTube: www.youtube.com/@drkselikane ➜ Tik Tok: @drselikane

What if becoming the person who gets to live your dream life starts long before the dream actually arrives? Zithobe Macheli has transformed more than one area of her life-from dropping out of university to betting on herself as a content creator, healing her relationship with her skin and body, building her confidence, and ultimately creating a life that once existed only in her imagination. This week, she pulls up a chair at the A2B Café to talk about the inner work behind the outer transformation. We get into self-concept, journalling, shadow work, learning to see yourself differently, taking inspired action and what it really means to become the kind of person capable of building the life you want. Because sometimes the biggest glow-up isn't the life changing around you-it's the person you become along the way. 🥂 This episode of According to B is powered by Bernini. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 00:00- Coming up 01:46- Intro 04:27- Bokang introduces Zithobe to A2B 05:42- Game: The starter- for the plot 16:40- The main: The conversation 16:55- Zithobe’s fondest memory that indicated she would become the creative she is today 19:29- The significance of the support Zithobe received from her parents 21:28- Zithobe on being the first woman in her bloodline to pursue creativity 22:49- Zithobe’s university journey 27:13- What happened when Zithobe decided to leave university 32:29- Zithobe on reading back her 2020 journals 36:09- How Zithobe closed the gap between where she was vs where she is now 38:59- How Zithobe was able to evolve beyond being a beauty creator 40:12- The biggest difference between the person who wrote in the journals vs the person living in it 41:44- Being the first woman in Zithobe’s lineage to build a 7 figure business 43:25- Some of the other work Zithobe does 45:31- What Zithobe has had to learn the hard way in business 48:12- Zithobe’s relationship with money 51:41- Zithobe on what was expected of her when it comes to love 56:18- The traditional things vs the non-traditional ones Zithobe believes in 59:06- Zithobe’s perspective on whether she wants marriage or not 01:00:56- Zithobe’s ideal kind of love 01:04:52- What Zithobe hopes future generations will continue to inherit 01:06:51- Dessert: Zithobe recieves her Bernini bag 01:07:26- Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za Guest ➜ Instagram: @zithobemacheli-https://www.instagram.com/zithobemacheli ➜Tik Tok: @zithobemacheli-https://www.tiktok.com/@zithobemacheli ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: [email protected] ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Videography: Shutter Scope Post Production: Thapelo Mogashoa

Whoever convinced women that life peaks in their twenties has some explaining to do. 😭 Because if you ask us? The thirties are kind of giving. This week, Nandipha Mqoco pulls up a chair at the A2B Café for a conversation about getting older, getting hotter, getting clearer on who you are and why there is so much more life waiting for women on the other side of 30. We talk about the freedom that comes with knowing yourself better, our changing relationships with our bodies, style, confidence, friendship, career and the pressure women feel to have life “figured out” by a certain age. And because we're still lover girls around here, we also get into love, dating and what romance looks like when you're older, wiser and perhaps a little less willing to entertain nonsense. 😂 Think Sex and the City, Girlfriends, Insecure-except this time, we’re the women in our thirties we grew up watching. 🥂 This episode of According to B is powered by Bernini. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 01:00- Coming up 02:23- Intro 05:08- Bokang introduces Nandipha to A2B 06:10- Game: The starter- for the plot 17:50- The main: The conversation 18:17- How Nandipha felt on the lead up to 30 24:44- What Nandipha thought 30 would look like vs the reality 32:27- Nandipha on the importance of living alone 40:31- Nandipha’s approach to love in her 30s vs her 20s 46:59- Nnadipha’s concerns about millennials and their inability to understand consent 48:37- How Nandipha’s decision to date differently has affected who she can date 49:50- Nandipha’s celibacy journey 56:53- How dating changed for Nandipha changed when sex was off the table 01:00:03- Other forms of intimacy that Nandipha enjoys 01:04:13- What 20 year old Nandipha would be surprised by 01:05:45- What Nandipha would tell 20 year old her about navigating the 20’s 01:07:19- Dessert: Nandipha is gifted her Bernini tote bag 01:08:03- Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za Guest ➜ Instagram: @nandipha_mqoco-https://www.instagram.com/nandipha_mqoco- ➜Tik Tok:@nandipha_mqoco-https://www.tiktok.com/@nandipha_mqoco ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: [email protected] ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Videography: Shutter Scope Post Production: Palesa Radebe

What happens when you get everything you worked for… and realise you might not want it anymore? Bonge Gumede spent years building the dream. She left university to bet on herself, poured everything into becoming a full-time fitness creator and eventually built the career she had imagined — a global audience, six-figure earnings, major opportunities and even the chance to live abroad. Then, at what should have felt like the height of it all, she walked away. In this episode, Bonge takes us through the build, the cage and the unbecoming: the relentless work it took to create her career, what achieving her goals revealed about her relationship with productivity and success, and the six-month sabbatical that changed everything. We talk about faith, ambition, burnout, family, fitness, social media, learning how to be still and the role God played in completely redefining Bonge’s understanding of womanhood, worth and what she wants her life to be built around. Sometimes changing your life isn’t about chasing a bigger dream. Sometimes it’s having the courage to question the one you already achieved. 🥂 This episode of According to B is powered by Bernini. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 01:00- Coming up 01:48- Intro 04:08- Bokang introduces Bonge to A2B 04:42- Game: The starter- for the plot 17:50- The main: The conversation 18:14- What made Bonge begin her content creation journey 21:35- How content creation became a job for Bonge 23:59-The sacrifices the Bonge had to make to build her career 29:48- The peak and success of Bonge’s career 28:01- Bonge’s move to Dubai 29:47- The turning point 31:53- 2025:The year God humbled Bonge 36:13- What it was about the fitness industry and social media that wasn’t aligning 41:05- Bonge on stepping back and slowing down 45:49- The aspects of Bonge’s life that grewin the slowing down 53:51- How Bonge’s relationship with fitness and her body has changed 58:33- How Bonge defines success now 01:01:58- Younger Bonge vs who Bonge is now 01:06:24- Dessert: Bonge is gifted her Bernini tote bag 01:07:08- Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: [email protected] ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Videography: Shutter Scope Post Production: Palesa Radebe

What happens when you stop building your life around the milestones you were told you should want and start asking what you actually want instead? Travel creator and digital anthropologist Popi Sibiya has built a life defined by curiosity, adventure and a willingness to take the road less travelled — literally. Over drinks at the A2B Café, Popi and I talk about the choices that have shaped the life she lives today: travel, freedom, home, relationships, marriage, being child-free, taking risks and deciding what “enough” looks like when you’re not following the traditional blueprint. We get into what she was really searching for when she first started travelling, whether constant movement can ever become another comfort zone, the things she's learned about herself from seeing the world, and what it means to build a life that actually feels like your own. Because maybe there isn’t one right way to do womanhood. Maybe the real adventure is figuring out yours. 🥂 This episode of According to B is powered by Bernini. ✰ TIMESTAMPS✰ 01:00- Coming up 01:18- Intro 02:44- Bokang introduces Popi to A2B 03:41- Game: The starter- for the plot 22:31- The main: The conversation 23:14- Who Popi was before the content 25:12- Why Popi chose to teach english in China 26:20- What prompted Popi to leave China and move back home 29:48- The moment Popi realised being a travel creator could be a job 33:22- How Popi decided to monetize her content 34:50- Popi on comparing her life with other peoples 37:20- Popi’s perspective on romantic relationships, marriage and kids 48:03- Popi on whether she believes the man she wants exists 51:12- Popi on living her dream life 51:55- The realities of being a travel creator 53:26- How sustainable The Popi Show is right now 56:58- Advice for corporate version of Popi 57:55- Popi’s message for the woman who doesn’t know what the next looks like 59:48- Dessert:Popi is gifted her Bernini tote bag 01:01:01-Outro ✰ SOCIAL MEDIA ✰ Bokang ➜ Instagram: @sheisbokang-https://www.instagram.com/sheisbokang ➜ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sheisbokang The B Word ➜ Instagram: @thebword_za -https://www.instagram.com/thebword_za ➜ Tik Tok: @thebwordza https://www.tiktok.com/@thebword_za Guest Popi ➜ Instagram:@popi_sibiya- -https://www.instagram.com/popi_sibiya ➜TikTok: @popi_sibiya- https://www.tiktok.com/@popi_sibiya ✰ LISTEN ON ✰ Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0XnqZ7b... Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Castbox: https://castbox.fm/channel/id5426930?... ✰ BUSINESS INQUIRIES ✰ E-mail: [email protected] ✰ TEAM/CREDITS ✰ Producer: Bokang Lehlokoe & Tshegetso Moepi Videography: Shutter Scope Post Production: Palesa Radebe