Sibling Rivalry vs. Sibling Bullying: Abuse Family Built a Cover Story For

Is it just sibling rivalry, or is it something more sinister? In this episode of the ADHD Scapegoat podcast, host Angie and her husband Jeremy dive into the painful distinction between normal sibling conflict and actual sibling bullying. Many toxic family systems use phrases like "siblings fight" or "boys will be boys" as a cover story to minimize one-sided targeting and emotional abuse.Angie and Jeremy compare their vastly different childhood experiences to highlight how healthy conflict involves mutual disagreement and eventual repair, while sibling bullying relies on a persistent power imbalance and intentional harm. They specifically explore how children with undiagnosed ADHD are often trapped in this dynamic, as their natural justice sensitivity and emotional dysregulation are used to label them as the "difficult" one while the bully is protected. If you have spent years wondering why you cannot "just get over" the way your sibling treats you, this conversation will help you validate your experience and stop honoring a family narrative that requires you to stay small.