Ep. 61 - The Kink Consultant Conversation with Amanda Dames

Text me what you think of today’s episode! Kink has a PR problem, and we’re not helping it when we reduce the whole topic to leather and whips. Helen sits down with Amanda Dames, a certified sex and relationship professional who worked as a dominatrix in a New York City dungeon before building a coaching business for married couples and monogamous partners who want to explore kink safely. What follows is less “shock” and more “oh, that actually makes sense,” because the real subject is trust, boundaries, power dynamics, and the courage to be honest about desire. Amanda breaks down kink as a spectrum, including the kinds of fantasies many people don’t even realize count: wanting your partner to take charge, craving praise, enjoying service and caretaking, or leaning into romance as a real erotic desire. We talk about how culture shifts what’s considered “normal,” why people feel shame even when nothing is wrong, and what she learned from clients who had successful lives on paper but felt disconnected sexually at home. If you’ve ever wondered why a desire gets louder the longer it’s ignored, this conversation puts words to it. If you’re curious, skeptical, or trying to talk to a partner without making it weird, press play. Subscribe, share this with a friend who needs a healthier framework for desire, and leave a review so more people can find the conversation. Guest Links The Kink Consultant Podcast Amanda Dames HomePage The Kink Consultant on Instagram Assorted Conversations Links Podcast Homepage Assorted Conversations Facebook Page Stay up-to-date on podcast happenings and share them with your friends Assorted Conversations Podcast Facebook Community A collaborative and supportive community for you to engage with us, our guests and other listeners Share your passion, network and connect as we all pursue what makes us happy. Exclusive behind-the-scenes content and info Special online events for community members              NOW on TikTok Follow us on Twitter Follow us on Instagram Support Assorted Conversations on Buy Me a Coffee Say hello or ask a question:  [email protected] Credits Music Credit:  True Living by Patrick Moore Royalty free music license purchased at soundotcom.com