Be VicTORIEus Ep.115

Got a question? Send us a text! What do you call it when you are caring for someone and grieving them at the same time? Coach C has a word for it. On this episode of Be VicTORIEus, Dr. Torie sits down with longtime friend Charita  ⁨@charitahenderson5265⁩   known as Coach C. She is a faith-based grief coach, author, speaker and founder of Visions Made Manifest. Her new book, Grieve Me Alone, shows that grief doesn't only start when someone dies, and Dr. Torie wrote the book's foreword. Coach C shares how grief entered her life at age 8, when her mother became addicted to crack cocaine. She talks about becoming a generational cycle breaker, and about the word she created, Care Grieving , for caring for someone you are watching slip away. Whether you are grieving a person, a relationship, a season or the version of yourself you used to be, this conversation is for you. You can follow her on IG @charitahenderson1 You can buy her book here: https://www.amazon.it/dp/B0HMFDYWN3 Buy Dr. Torie's  Book Today! https://www.bevictorieus.com/event-details/pre-order-your-book-today Make sure you share this show! https://youtu.be/kTOM1e9zNEQ 0:00Dr. Torie's book is outPromo for Dr. Torie's ACEs book; order at BeVicTORIEus.com 0:35Welcome + meet Coach CGuest introduction: grief coach, author, creator of "caregrieving" 2:20What it means to be a cycle breakerFaith, "it ends with me," Kansas City roots 5:30Grief started long before deathHer relationship with grief began in childhood 6:45The therapy timeline exerciseWriting her life timeline and only getting to age 9 in an hour 7:40Ambiguous grief at age 8Losing her mother to crack cocaine addiction while she was still alive 10:20Acknowledgment is freedom"Naming it is the beginning of your freedom" 11:30Becoming a grief coachHer therapist and grief coach pushed her into it 12:30Navigating the Waves of GriefGrief "rearranged the furniture"; you move with grief, not past it 13:40Don't fight the waveTriggers like perfume or a song, and why resisting knocks you down 15:00Where "caregrieving" came fromA client caring for a husband with a trach asked for a new word 16:40What caregrieving meansCaring for someone while watching them die 18:10Clarity breeds transformationGiving people language for their grief 19:00ACEs and griefThe CDC's 1998 ACEs study and the grief inside every category 20:05What the world needs nowHer calling: language for grief 20:50Mom, grandparents and DadSuccessive losses, and now caregiving for her father 22:00"I'm the evidence"Proof that healing is possible 22:45Forgive the process"Your pain has a purpose" 23:40Dr. Torie's testimonyHow the book carried her through losses since July 25:15The foreword + where to find Coach CEditor's reaction, contact info, free sessions 26:40ClosingThey'll return together live Make sure you follow Dr. Torie everywhere.  @dr.victorieus #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador #aces #bevictorieus #adversechildhoodexperiences #cyclebreakers #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #aceambassador