Change How You Relate in These 3 Areas

Pain has a way of driving our choices, especially the choices we regret most. When unwanted sexual behaviors show up, it’s tempting to reduce everything to willpower, rules, or stronger accountability. We’ve learned that lasting sexual integrity usually requires something deeper: changing how we relate to pain, how we relate to other people, and how we relate to ourselves. Josh is joined by Greg Ruhland from our church engagement team to explore what it looks like to stop medicating discomfort and start listening to it. We talk about the common defaults most of us learned for handling emotional pain: muscling through, numbing out, or getting stuck in self-pity. Then we offer a different framework: pain as an (unpleasant) messenger that points to what needs care and healing. Greg shares how practices like journaling and naming what God sees can turn lonely pain into a place where presence becomes possible. From there, we shift to relationships and why secrecy keeps sexual brokenness alive. We unpack the courage it takes to be known, what makes a safer listener, and the three simple questions that help people feel understood instead of fixed. Finally, we connect shame and identity to attachment theory, showing how the longing to feel seen, soothed, safe, and secure can get hijacked by porn, fantasy, and other counterfeit intimacy.  If you want a clearer path toward freedom that goes beyond behavior control, press play, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review so more people can find this conversation. Talk To US Join us for the Awaken Retreat, a weekend designed to help men step out of isolation and into deeper honesty, healing, and connection. October 9th -11th | Early Bird Registration Available More Information & Registration 2026 Upcoming Retreats - Register Today! Awaken Men's Retreat | October 9th -11th Sacred By Design Women's Retreat  | October 17th Free Resources to help you on your journey to Becoming Whole: 👉Men's Overcoming Lust & Temptation Devotional 👉Women 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Women overcoming unwanted sexual Behavior) 👉Compass 21-Day Prayer Journal & Devotional - (Wives who are or have been impacted by partner betrayal)