Does Family Really Have to Come First?

Suzy is obsessed with her grandchildren. Completely, unapologetically obsessed. But for most of her life, she didn't organize her decisions around family, and for a long time that came with a question a lot of people are afraid to ask: Does putting myself before my family make me a bad person? Becoming You is about figuring out what actually matters to you so you can make better choices about your work, your relationships, and your life. One way to get there is the Values Bridge, Suzy’s scientifically validated assessment that identifies the values that really drive you, not the ones you think you're supposed to have. In this 16-part series, Suzy is exploring those values one at a time. This week: Familycentrism, one of the most emotionally loaded values of all. Family therapist Vienna Pharaon joins Suzy to unpack why family comes with so many expectations and why the "black sheep" is often just the person with lower Familycentrism. Then Becoming You certified coach Lola Persons gets personal about loving her family fiercely without building her life around them, and why she calls it "not the Brady Bunch, but it's okay." Because maybe the question was never how much you love your family. Maybe it's how much of your life you want to organize around them, and whether we can stop judging the people who answer differently. Where does Familycentrism fall for you? Take the Values Bridge to find out, with a discount code in the show notes. As a Becoming You podcast listener, use code PODCAST for 50% off The Values Bridge. Find Vienna Pharaon on Instagram, Substack, and find her book "The Origins of You" here, along with her quiz here. Find Lola Persons on LinkedIn here. You are always growing and evolving and so are we. Sign up for the ⁠Becoming You newsletter⁠ for fresh new content in one tidy package. Want more Becoming You? Check out the ⁠Becoming You book⁠. You can follow and tag Suzy on: • Instagram: ⁠@suzywelch⁠ • Linkedin: ⁠@suzywelch⁠ • TikTok: ⁠@suzywelch⁠ • YouTube: ⁠@suzywelch_⁠ • X: ⁠@SuzyWelch⁠