139. What if the Change You're Waiting For Isn't Yours to Make?

You’ve communicated, waited, adjusted, and offered another chance. But the change you’ve been hoping for still hasn’t happened. How long should you continue waiting? In this episode, Del shares a personal experience from a past relationship that looked good on paper—even as her intuition repeatedly told her something wasn’t right. She wanted the relationship to change, but eventually realized that the change she was waiting for wasn’t hers to create. Her turning point came when she stopped asking whether things might eventually improve and asked: “If nothing ever changes, can I accept this relationship exactly as it is?” Later, she received confirmation that ending the relationship had been the right decision when the man’s now-wife contacted her and revealed his double life—a story Del previously shared in “When the Truth Finds You.” But that confirmation came after the decision. In this episode, you’ll consider: Why a person’s potential can make it difficult to accept present reality The difference between offering room to grow and building your life around someone’s potential Why more explaining, patience, or sacrifice may not create change What happens when your life becomes organized around something outside your control Why accepting reality does not mean approving of someone’s behavior How to distinguish not knowing what to do from not liking what your choices require The question that can help you stop waiting and begin deciding If you’re unsure what may be keeping you circling, take the free What’s REALLY Holding You Back? assessment. It can help you begin identifying the pattern underneath the explanation you’ve been giving yourself: https://tally.so/r/J94V1X Once you’ve completed the assessment—or if you already recognize the bottleneck but need help determining what to do next—book a free one-on-one call with Del to discuss what you’ve discovered and explore whether Stuck-to-Steady is the right support for you: https://calendly.com/delphine-smith/your-next-step-let-s-talk  Connect with Del: https://CoachDel.com https://BounceBackBlackWoman.com Instagram and TikTok: @BounceBackBlackWoman LinkedIn: @delphinesmith