140. What Are Your "Overs & Unders" Trying to Tell You?

Have you been spending more than usual? Eating differently? Working too much? Scrolling for hours? Or maybe you’re on the other side—sleeping less, struggling to focus, pulling away from people, or simply not doing some of the things you normally do. Coach Del calls these our “overs and unders.” Sometimes when life gets stressful, overwhelming, uncertain, lonely, or just plain HARD, what we’re carrying starts showing up in our behavior before we’ve fully acknowledged what’s going on. And our first instinct is often to fix the behavior: I need to stop spending. I need to get off this phone. I need to focus. I need more discipline. And maybe we do. But what if we also asked: What might this behavior be doing for me? In this episode of Bounce Back, Black Woman!, Coach Del talks about recognizing changes in our behavior as information—not as another opportunity to criticize ourselves. You’ll explore: How stress and other difficult experiences can show up through our “overs and unders” Why focusing only on stopping a behavior may leave the underlying issue untouched How seemingly positive behaviors—like working or exercising—can also become “overs” Why there’s room for both accountability and curiosity Questions that can help you notice patterns in your own behavior How your overs and unders may provide clues to the bottleneck underneath Sometimes the thing you’re trying to fix isn’t the first thing that needs your attention. Instead of asking, “What is wrong with me?” try asking: “What is going on with me?” That little shift can open the door to greater awareness, more compassion, and more intentional choices. What’s REALLY Holding You Back? If today’s conversation has you wondering what might be underneath some of your own patterns, take Coach Del’s short “What’s REALLY Holding You Back?” assessment. It can help you begin identifying where your bottleneck may be and what could be getting in the way of moving forward. Find the assessment at CoachDel.com. Stay Connected with Coach Del 🌐 Website: CoachDel.com 🎙️ Podcast: BounceBackBlackWoman.com Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, and all major podcast platforms 📱 Follow on Instagram & TikTok: @BounceBackBlackWoman 💼 Follow on LinkedIn: @delphinesmith