THIS Is Why The Dismissive Avoidant Hurts You & Then Acts Like It Was Nothing

Start Your 7-Day Free Trial and Get Our Skyrocket Your Self-Esteem Course Free for Life. https://offer.personaldevelopmentschool.com/self-esteem?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=self-esteem&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=VIDEOID&utm_content=yt-MM-DD-YY&el=podcast They hurt you—and then carry on like nothing happened. When a Dismissive Avoidant doesn’t acknowledge your feelings, you may find yourself wondering whether they understand the impact or even care. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down three reasons a Dismissive Avoidant may respond this way, including differences in emotional needs, avoidance of conflict, and difficulty taking accountability. She explains how these patterns can leave Anxious and Fearful Avoidant partners feeling unheard—and shares practical ways to communicate hurt, ask for reassurance, and set boundaries. Understanding their behavior is only part of the picture. Your feelings deserve space, and repairing a relationship requires both people to participate. In this video, you’ll learn: • Why a Dismissive Avoidant may not recognize that their behavior hurt you. • How conflict avoidance can leave difficult conversations unresolved. • Why accountability matters for a secure relationship. • How Anxious Attachment can lead to self-silencing and increased reassurance-seeking. • How to make your needs clear with specific, practical requests. • A somatic processing exercise for Fearful Avoidant emotional reactions. • Why repeated dismissal of your needs calls for boundaries. Timestamps: 00:00 Why a Dismissive Avoidant acts like nothing happened 00:59 Different sensitivities to words and actions 02:30 Conflict avoidance and emotional shutdown 03:56 Difficulty taking accountability 05:18 Anxious Attachment: the cost of self-silencing 06:16 How to communicate hurt and ask for reassurance 07:16 Make your needs specific 07:53 When your needs are repeatedly dismissed 08:11 Free self-esteem course with a 7-day trial 09:03 Fearful Avoidant reactions to feeling hurt 09:57 Introduction to somatic processing 11:49 Noticing emotions and physical sensations 12:59 Regulate before communicating your needs 13:15 A practical emotional processing exercise 14:21 Express your hurt and what you need going forward 14:45 Closing thoughts Meet Thais Thais Gibson, PhD, is a Best-Selling Author, Pastoral Counselor, Relationship Coach, and the founder of The Personal Development School (PDS). Between 2013 and 2019, she developed Integrated Attachment Theory® (IAT), the Six-Step Method to Becoming Secure, a framework rooted in neuroscience, attachment theory, psychology, and spirituality, trademarked in October 2021. IAT works across six pillars: ✔ Rewire Your Attachment Core Wounds ✔ Learn Your Attachment Needs ✔ Regulate Your Nervous System Somatically ✔ Learn Healthy Boundaries ✔ Improve Communication ✔ Rewire Your Unhealthy Protest Behaviors Since opening in 2020, PDS has grown to serve over 70,000 students in 145 countries, achieving a 97% satisfaction rate and helping people reprogram their subconscious patterns and build thriving, secure relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📘 Become an IAT Relationship Coach https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the New Attachment Theory Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/book/the-new-attachment-theory?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=the-new-attachment-theory&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=podcast-page&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/