You're Not a Bad Mom, You're Just Not a Perfect Mom with Emma Hilger

Emma Hilger is a Catholic mom of three little ones, and she wrote a board book of rhyming affirmations for moms after a hard day when she realized her six-month-old didn't care what words she was reading to him... so what if they were the words SHE needed to hear? I've wanted to talk with her ever since I saw her Kickstarter, because I think every mom needs a book like this. We talk about why "I'm a bad mom" is usually "I'm not a perfect mom" in disguise, whether it's prideful to believe you're a good mom, the fear that being kind to yourself will make you lazy, and how to bridge your way to a new thought when you're not ready to believe it yet. At the end Emma reads the whole book out loud, so take a deep breath and let it be for you. WHAT WE COVER IN THIS EPISODE: Why motherhood might be the only job we do for years while telling ourselves we're bad at it "I'm a bad mom" is usually "I'm not a perfect mom," and seeing ourselves as we really are (not better and not worse) is the holy place to stand Why believing you're a good mom makes you MORE present with your kids, not lazier Bridge thoughts for the days you can't get the words out, and why you don't have to finish all your identity work before you start Real neglect vs. too much Netflix and PB&J, and why every mom we know is a good mom God chose you to be your children's mother, already knowing every mistake you'd make EPISODE TIMELINE: [00:00] – Meeting Emma, and how a hard day with a six-month-old became a book [05:00] – The only job we do while telling ourselves we're bad at it [10:00] – "Is it prideful to say I'm a good mom?" and not bad vs. not perfect [15:00] – Identity, bridge thoughts, and Philippians 4:8 [20:00] – Real neglect vs. normal mom worries, and Emma's next books (dads, teamwork, NICU families, a Catholic version) [25:00] – Memorizing scripture 100 times a day, and the relationship we worry about 20 years from now [30:00] – Emma reads the book, and where to find it LINKS AND RESOURCES MENTIONED: Emma Hilger's board book for moms: https://goodmomboardbooks.com Bob Schuchts (healing work on wounds and vows). Be Healed Book Catholic Finishing School (mindset for teen girls): www.catholicfinishingschool.com