Charisma Quotient: Build Confidence, Make Connections and Find Love

Who cheers for the cheerleaders when life gets tough? Kimmy heads to the NFL Cheerleader Alumni Reunion in Miami for heartfelt conversations about love, loss, sisterhood, and starting over. In this installment of Beyond the Pom-Poms, former NFL cheerleaders share what happens after the uniforms come off—and how they're rediscovering confidence, connection, and themselves. Former Chicago Honey Bear and The Golden Bachelor alum Renee opens up about caregiving, grief, and learning to flirt with life again. Former San Diego Chargers cheerleader Christina shares her journey through divorce and the challenge of putting herself first after decades of caring for others. And former Indianapolis Colts cheerleader Kim Wise discusses embracing adventure, finding love, and making dating part of the journey rather than a race to the finish line. From a "five, six, seven, eight" push to get moving to playful posing tips, these conversations offer encouragement and practical inspiration for your next chapter. Your spark doesn't have an expiration date. Show Notes: In this episode, Kimmy and her guests explore: The sisterhood behind the sidelines: How friendships formed through cheerleading provide support through divorce, grief, motherhood, and reinvention. Renee's next chapter: Her Chicago Honey Bears memories, The Golden Bachelor experience, and the possibilities that open when you take a chance. Finding momentum through movement: Renee's "five, six, seven, eight" approach to getting up and moving through difficult days. Rediscovering yourself after divorce: Christina's candid reflections on rebuilding her identity beyond marriage, motherhood, and caregiving. Giving yourself permission to receive: Making room for your own needs and seeking more reciprocal relationships. Starting with one small shift: How a change in routine, a smile, or a simple conversation can help you reconnect with others. Saying yes to adventure: Kim Wise's experience becoming an NFL cheerleader at 30 and her passion for helping women embrace new experiences. Taking the pressure off dating: Practicing connection, enjoying the experience, and letting go of the need to predict the outcome. Confidence through body language: Playful tips for posture, posing, and feeling more comfortable being seen. Ready for your own next chapter? Book a free call with Kimmy to explore rebuilding your confidence and creating new connections. Subscribe to Charisma Quotient for more conversations in the Beyond the Pom-Poms series. Working on you is working on your dating life.

What if waiting to feel confident is exactly what's keeping you stuck? Kimmy Seltzer welcomes former CNN correspondent, communication expert, and Amplify You author Gina London to explore why confidence grows through practice—and how small changes in your conversations can transform your dating life. From making eye contact to asking better follow-up questions, Kimmy and Gina share practical ways to get out of your head, ease awkward exchanges, and make others feel seen. They also open up about rebuilding confidence after divorce, finding your voice, and keeping human connection alive in a world increasingly shaped by screens and AI. Whether you're returning to dating or tired of waiting until you feel "ready," this conversation will inspire you to take that first step and let confidence catch up. Key Takeaways: Why taking action helps build the confidence you've been waiting for. How tone, pacing, and body language shape your connections. Three simple follow-up questions to keep conversations flowing. How curiosity shifts your attention away from self-consciousness. Why small social wins matter—even without a romantic spark. How supportive relationships and intentional action can help you rebuild after divorce. If you're not sure what's getting in your way, book a FREE private call with Kimmy by clicking here https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/. You'll uncover the patterns and blind spots that may be keeping you stuck and look at what you can start doing differently to create the kind of dating life and relationship you want. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

What if your efforts to avoid rejection are also keeping you from finding love? Being friendly, waiting for the perfect signal, and overthinking your next move can leave you with pleasant conversations—but little romantic momentum. In this Coaching with Kimmy episode of Charisma Quotient, Kimmy sits down with David, a 61-year-old divorced man who has grown more confident but still struggles to meet women he's attracted to and move beyond friendly conversation. Together, they explore how self-worth, family experiences, and a limited social circle can influence his approach to dating. Kimmy shares her three-prong strategy for expanding your social life through events, recurring classes, and everyday conversation practice. From turning a chili cook-off into a chance to meet new people to trading the search for instant chemistry for curiosity, this conversation offers practical ways to get out of your head and create more opportunities for connection. Key Takeaways: Rejection doesn't define your worth. The fear often comes from what you believe a "no" says about you. Waiting for certainty can keep you stuck. You don't need a guarantee of mutual interest before starting a conversation. Diversify your dating opportunities. Combine apps, social events, classes, and everyday interactions rather than relying on one avenue. Start with connection, not a checklist. Meeting someone interesting can lead to friendship, introductions, or attraction that develops over time. Build your social muscles gradually. Begin in comfortable settings and practice low-pressure conversations before tackling more daunting situations. Make your interests work for you. Shared hobbies and recurring classes create natural opportunities to connect and become familiar with others. Be intentional about expanding your circle. Host a gathering, ask friends to bring someone new, and let people know you're open to meeting others. If you're not sure what's getting in your way, book a FREE private call with Kimmy by clicking here https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/. You'll uncover the patterns and blind spots that may be keeping you stuck and look at what you can start doing differently to create the kind of dating life and relationship you want. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

What happens when the roles that defined you for decades begin to change - and you're told to "get back out there" before you're sure who you are now? Kimmy sits down with Wendy Ortiz, host of 50 Is a Mindf*ck, for a candid conversation about finding your voice in midlife. They talk about returning to dating after a long relationship, grieving friendships, breaking people pleasing habits, and navigating the gap between how you feel and what you see in the mirror. Wendy shares what starting a podcast after 50 taught her about change, while Kimmy makes the case that flirting, dating, and confidence are skills you can practice. If you're ready for a new chapter, you don't need to have it all figured out before you begin. You'll learn: You can meet yourself again at any age. The roles of parent, partner, and professional may change, but that creates room to decide what you want now. Dating is a skill you can practice. After years in a relationship, feeling rusty is normal. Confidence grows through experience. Friendship changes can bring real grief. Some relationships end as people grow in different directions, even when both people care. Finding your voice may change old dynamics. Speaking up, setting boundaries, and stepping away from people pleasing can lead to more reciprocal relationships. Feeling attractive matters more than looking perfect. Wendy and Kimmy discuss body insecurities, the pressure of seeing ourselves on camera, and giving ourselves grace. You don't have to have the next chapter figured out. Start exploring what brings you joy, whether that's dating, travel, friendships, or a new direction in your career. If you're not sure what's getting in your way, book a FREE private call with Kimmy by clicking here https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/. You'll uncover the patterns and blind spots that may be keeping you stuck and look at what you can start doing differently to create the kind of dating life and relationship you want. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com

Would you enjoy going on a date with yourself—or would it feel more like an interrogation? Too many singles become so focused on checking boxes, spotting red flags, and evaluating long-term potential that they forget the most important part of dating: creating a genuine connection. Kimmy sits down with couples therapist and Choosing Us author Jonathan VanVegan to explore why being lovable isn't always enough—and why likability may be the real secret to attraction and lasting love. They discuss the resentment that quietly erodes relationships, the "beige flags" we catalog against our partners, and how curiosity, playfulness, appreciation, respect, and forgiveness can help couples enjoy each other again. Whether you're dating, married, or trying to break an old relationship pattern, this episode will challenge you to stop interviewing, start experiencing, and take ownership of how you show up in love. You'll hear: Dating should feel like a connection, not a job interview. Attraction is driven less by facts and more by how someone feels around you. Being lovable isn't enough—lasting relationships require genuinely liking each other. Constantly cataloging "beige flags" and minor annoyances creates resentment. Focus on your partner's strengths instead of only noticing what they do wrong. Curiosity, playfulness, appreciation, and affection can restore lost connection. Respect and feeling chosen or cherished are essential to emotional and physical intimacy. Forgiveness works best when paired with accountability, growth, and maturity. Ask yourself: "Do I believe I deserve the relationship of my dreams—and am I capable of building it?" Taking ownership of how you show up can transform both your dating life and your relationships. If you're not sure what's getting in your way, book a FREE private call with Kimmy by clicking here https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/. You'll uncover the patterns and blind spots that may be keeping you stuck and look at what you can start doing differently to create the kind of dating life and relationship you want. Charisma Quotient Podcast is available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and many of your other favorite podcast channels. ************************************************⁣ Kimmy Seltzer is a Confidence Therapist and Authentic Dating Strategist implementing targeted style, emotional and social intelligence to your life. ⁣ ************************************************⁣ Would you like to connect with Kimmy?⁣ Website: https://kimmyseltzer.com/⁣ Chat: https://www.kimmyseltzer.com/breakthrough-session/ Instagram: @kimmyseltzer Twitter: @kimmyseltzer Join her FREE Facebook Group Love Makeover Insiders: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lovemakeovers Take her Flirt Quiz to see what kind of flirt you are www.flirtover40.com