Abandoned, Devalued, Controlled: Naming the Wound That Runs Your Life — with JJ Flizanes

Why do we keep getting triggered by the same thing, over and over, no matter how much therapy or self-help we try? In this episode, Rose sits down with JJ Flizanes — transformational empowerment strategist, best-selling author, and creator of the Empowering Minds Network — to unpack the Core Wound Map, a framework built from Imago Relationship Therapy that identifies the top three wounds and beliefs quietly running your life. JJ and Rose talk about why talk therapy alone often isn't enough, how core wounds like abandonment, devaluation, and control show up in relationships and self-sabotage, the link between chronic pain and repressed emotion, how astrology can be used as a mirror for understanding yourself and the people you love, and why so many women stop themselves right at the edge of investing in their own transformation. This is a conversation about trading guesswork for a map — and finally understanding what you're actually trying to heal. In this episode: What a Core Wound Map is and why identifying your wounds comes before healing work, not after The five most common core wounds: abandonment, devalued, controlled, ignored, smothered Why anger is almost always a mask for sadness or fear The difference between "what happened to me" and "what's happening for me" — and why that shift changes everything How chronic pain (like back pain) can be a signal of repressed emotion, not just a physical issue Astrology as a tool for understanding yourself and the people closest to you The four limiting beliefs (from Gay Hendricks' The Big Leap) that keep women capping their own success Why so many women won't invest in themselves — and what that reveals about self-worth JJ's Rewire program, Date Your Body, and Healing the Mother Wound retreat About JJ Flizanes: JJ Flizanes is a transformational empowerment strategist, best-selling author, and creator of the Empowering Minds Network. Drawing on Imago Relationship Therapy, astrology, and mindset work, she helps people identify and rewire the core wound patterns that keep them stuck — in relationships, in self-worth, and in their ability to receive success. Learn more at jjflizanes.com. Topics covered: Core wounds, Imago Relationship Therapy, self-sabotage, limiting beliefs, mindset shifts, astrology and self-understanding, manifestation, chronic pain and repressed emotion, self-worth, women in transition, Empress archetype Connect with JJ Flizanes  Sign up at www.rosewippich.com and receive a free chapter of my book Empress Rising.  You will also be the first to hear when my workshops and offerings will be available.  Join the Empress Community and be a part of the movement.   Chat Off The Mat is hosted by Rose Wippich, Energy Alchemist & Empowerment Guide, Reiki Master Teacher, Qigong and yoga instructor, and author of Empress Rising: Own Your Energy, Trust Your Wisdom, and Rewrite the Rules of Aging. Rose creates conversations for women ready to explore what’s possible in the next chapter — conversations about wellness, energy, personal transformation, embodiment, and the wisdom that comes with lived experience. For Women Ready to Rise. 📖 Book: EMPRESS RISING: Own Your Energy, Trust Your Wisdom & Rewrite the Rules of Aging.  If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend and subscribe to Chat Off The Mat. ⭐️ Enjoying the show? Please leave a review on Apple Podcasts Sum Of All Skin Care Affiliate Link: https://sumofall.com/?ref=ROSEWIPPICH  Use code: RoseW10 for 10% off Produced by Rose Wippich | Chat Off The Mat © 2026 Rose Wippich