Podcast #18 - CLEAR Performance Coaching - QUICK START - Be Curious - Full Version (Audio)

Ask instead of answer. The one move every great coach makes. In Episode 18, Rick Timlick, Sam Bracken and Kent Vaughn start the Quick Start series with Be Curious. Curiosity over telling is the core move of CLEAR coaching. When you ask instead of answer, you hand the thinking and the ownership back to the person you're coaching. The habit that got you promoted (having the answers) is the habit that caps your team's growth. In this episode: Why curiosity over telling is the core move of CLEAR coaching Understand before you act: listen to understand, not to respond Helping vs. rescuing, and why giving the answer backfires Listening with all your senses (and Sam's "Words can't express my joy") The neuroscience: telling triggers a status threat; asking creates a status reward Sam's 5 curiosity questions you can use in your next conversation Sam's Curiosity "Cheat Code" (try these in order): How's it going? What's up? Tell me more. Help me understand. Is there anything else? Then close with: "What are you going to do about it?" "Curiosity over telling is the core move of CLEAR coaching. When you ask, you hand the thinking and the ownership back to the person you're coaching." (Rick Timlick) Chapters: 0:00 Intro 0:53 Welcome & intros 1:10 The Quick Start cards: Be Curious 2:02 Curiosity over telling: the core move of CLEAR coaching 2:30 Understand before you act 4:13 Deming's 12-foot rule & why experts stop being curious 6:27 Curiosity under stress, and how it rewires the brain 8:01 Why you shouldn't give the answer (even when you know it) 10:25 Helping vs. rescuing 12:17 Listen with all your senses: "Words can't express my joy" 14:20 The $250,000 smoke break: curiosity in action 16:12 Best idea wins: separating ego from facts 17:25 Be present: put the phone away 19:37 Practicing curiosity with Super Coach 21:02 The neuroscience: status threat vs. status reward 23:30 "So I think what you're telling me is..." 26:12 Sam's 5 curiosity questions 27:51 "What are you going to do about it?" 28:55 Watch-out: leading questions & authenticity 30:53 Wrap-up & key takeaways 32:42 One question, one pause ▶ Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/aZKrj_AwcV0 ▶ Watch the clip: https://youtube.com/shorts/9wrzqYCadYU About CLEAR Performance Coaching: We help ordinary leaders become great coaches who create extraordinary results. https://www.clearperformancecoaching.com Hosts: Rick Timlick, Sam Bracken & Kent Vaughn