Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman

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From navigating dating apps to overcoming the friendzone to seeking a soulmate, this ain’t your momma’s love advice! Hosted by the Official Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and LA Times advice columnist, Damona Hoffman, Dates & Mates is jam-packed with interviews from your favorites celebs, authors, and experts. Dates & Mates is the 2022 Winner of The Best Podcast of the Year at The Black Podcasting Awards, #1 ranked love and relationship podcast by Cosmopolitan Magazine and a Top 10 Pick by HuffPost in the love category.

Recent Episodes

SEP 2, 2026
Master Class: Escape the Tech Trap
In this special minisode, Damona breaks down the "tech trap" and why the tools that were supposed to connect us (dating apps, social media, and now AI) are quietly training us to stop trusting our own judgment. After a summer away from the weekly show, she's back with a wake-up call: the babysitter has left the building, and it's on us to manage our own relationship with technology. This minisode includes an overview of what social scientists are calling “algorithmic entrapment” and 3 simple questions that can help you escape the cycle. What You'll Hear In This Episode: Why the "texting trap" Damona coined a decade ago has grown into something much bigger What a recent multibillion dollar settlement against Meta reveals about how these platforms are built The one word Damona wants us to bring into our relationship with tech instead of fear Why having access to dating apps and social media means nothing without personal accountability The danger of asking AI to tell you what your partner "really meant" or what you should do next Damona's three questions to ask yourself before you swipe, scroll, or respond What's next for the show and how you can help shape it Resources & Links: Take the two-minute survey at damonahoffman.com/survey and let us know how Damona can continue to support you! Now taking calls and questions for the Dear Damona social media series: 424-246-6255. Follow @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook and submit questions via DM or voice memo anytime. Interested in booking Damona to speak to your group or company? Find out more at DamonaHoffman.com/speaking
16 MIN
FEB 24, 2026
Last Minute Cancel & Screening Steps
In this Dear Damona episode, we tackle what to do when someone keeps canceling last minute before you've even had a first date, and how to tell the difference between giving someone a fair chance and letting them waste your time. This week, a listener named Jenna shares: "I matched with a guy on a dating app and followed your advice. After a week of messaging, I asked him for a brief phone call. He was so fun to talk to, and we seemed aligned. We agreed to meet for drinks after work. The day of the date came, and at lunchtime he texted and apologized that a work emergency came up and he had to cancel. He asked to reschedule and we found a day the following week, and he canceled again with a similar work situation." What You'll Hear In This Episode: Why that gut feeling of resistance before rescheduling is actually your bodily wisdom talking The real difference between the benefit of the doubt and gullibility The must-do screening steps that reduce ghosting and flakiness What two last-minute cancels actually reveal about someone's priorities The hidden cost of rescheduling for someone who keeps flaking Resources & Links: Unlock the secret to successful dating with our Date Tracker at ⁠Damonahoffman.com/datetracker ⁠ Call or text your question to: 424-246-6255. Follow @DamonaHoffman on ⁠Instagram⁠, ⁠TikTok⁠, or ⁠Facebook⁠ and submit questions via DM or voice memo anytime. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Mentioned in this episode: Book Your Breakthrough Boost today DamonaHoffman.com/breakthrough
29 MIN
FEB 17, 2026
Long Distance Dating & Seeming Serious
In this Dear Damona episode, we discuss how to navigate multiple long-distance connections, when to book that first in-person meeting, and how to handle the money talk before you pack your bag. If you've matched with someone across the country (or the ocean) and you're not sure what to do next, this is your guide! This week, a listener named Maryanne shares: "I'm 71 and looking for a long-term partner. I went on two niche sites and matched with a few good options, but they all live elsewhere. One lives in Hawaii and he invited me over for a week. The other guy lives in LA and both seem serious about me. There is even a guy in Mexico who has come on the scene just after the other two. What's the best way to meet out of town dates? How do I know who pays for what? When do I tell them I am also meeting other men?" What You'll Hear In This Episode: Why expanding your dating pool across time zones can actually work in your favor The one-day-to-one-week rule every long distance dater needs to know How to build real connection before you ever book a flight The eight-week milestone that changes everything Why staying at his place for a first meeting is a hard no (and what to do instead) How to handle the money conversation without making it awkward When you actually need to tell someone you're seeing other people Resources and Links: Unlock the secret to successful dating with our Date Tracker at Damonahoffman.com/datetracker Call or text your question to: 424-246-6255. Follow @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook and submit questions via DM or voice memo anytime. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
25 MIN